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46 Reseda, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–73
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends

My details

Last online
Today – 7:38am
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body type
Strictly anything
Dropped out of university
Entertainment / Media
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, Japanese (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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NOTE: I am going to be in Europe until the third week of May, so my availability for new friendship and dating adventures is nil until I return, and I may not be able to reply to you until I get back.

I'm drawn to joy. I want to feel it, inspire it, and create it in others.

I'm trying to be open to everything, especially the new and/or unexpected. In terms of meeting new people, I'm most interested in good conversations and quality people to spend time with going out and exploring. I don't like the expectations that a dating site, or the word "date" lays on us. Expectations make people miserable. Most important is to create good friendships with people that inspire me and that I hopefully can inspire too. It just is really hard to find non-flaky, balanced people to hang out with in L.A.

I especially enjoy meeting people from other cultures and demographics. I learn so much. I just came back from a month in Asia and was really inspired by the people there. It's made me want to create and find more kindness and simplicity in my life in California. At least until I can go back! :)

Some of my recent adventures on this site have been both beautiful and painful. But I learned much, and I think they made me a better person. I hope so. I keep working on it.

I hope even if we don't become friends, you stay open to the unexpected. The world often disappoints us, but it can pleasantly surprise us too. It's easy to miss it if we're still stuck on the last thing. Have a great day.

p.s. I am very good at Scrabble. If you like you may hit me up on Words With Friends on your iPhone. My screenname is adamghost.
What I’m doing with my life
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Living my dreams.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Not being a bystander.

Doing what I say I am going to do.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I'm a funny guy! "Funny haha or..." "um..."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Movies: Bill Murray, John Cusack, and Buster Keaton. Wait, those are actors.

Actors: Animal House, Dances With Wolves, Ferris Bueller's Day Off, Caddyshack, Sullivan's Travels, Caddyshack, Groundhog Day, Caddyshack, The Dead Talk Back, Starfighters. I mean, um, I really love indie films with unpronounceable foreign names. Honest I do.

Shows: Breaking Bad, MST3K, That '70s Show, HIMYM (1st 2 seasons), WKRP In Cincinnati, Buffyangelfireflydomalejosswhedonfansevergetlaid?

Music: I'm a professional musician. I hate everything*

*hate is too strong a word. Tired of mediocrity.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Chapstick, diverse friends, chapstick, red wine, chapstick. And one other thing.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
way too much. This is what alcohol is for. And yoga.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
5:30 - 7 will find me at the Yoga Loft in Woodland Hills. After that I'm up for grabs.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My uncle invented canola oil. Wikipedia says so.
You should message me if
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You want something different to happen than your previous experiences.

( can always find a reason NOT to do something. I'm in favor of self-motivated affirmative action. I'll be here if you decide to go for it)