Words cannot describe me. They tried. They were like "He's... umm..." and they just kinda shook their collective head and walked away.
When left on my own, I tend to spend my spare time:
- composing or performing music (I grew up playing the drums, but have since branched off into other instruments, with varying amounts of suckiness but no lack of enthusiasm). I've been in 122,573 bands.
- working on a novel about Emergent Behavior and other geeky metaphysics stuff. Why a novel and not non-fiction? Because I'm stupid.
- on long walks with my dog exploring the neighborhood.
- What do you mean? Why? Were you looking in my window? I wasn't doing anything. I was... exercising. Totally exercising.
With other people, I like:
- music, art, theatre, travel and other similar spiritual nourishment
- a good dive bar to discuss it all in afterward. Porches work just fine too. As do, uh, rooms. Or open spaces. I'm not picky.
I tend to like people who are smart, fun, kind, creative, adventurous, fun and smart.
Let's see, what else... My job is so mind-numbingly mundane that when I tell people what I do, they invariably forget and ask me again some other time. And then again after that. Sourcing. It's not even worth describing. It's basically everything Lloyd Dobler swore never to do. But it pays my bills and I'm good at it (and yes I give it my best when I'm there), all of which allows me to pursue fulfillment outside of work without the stress of trying to make a living at it.
I'm rejoining this okcomputer gizmo for the first time in about a year. But since I'm trying to be more productive with my time (this book ain't writing itself), apologies in advance if I don't answer you. I'm not trying to cast a broad net here. Maybe I'll go back and make all my question answers "Mandatory" and see if some weird Tom-doppelganger shows up on my doorstep (not that I want to date myself, but you have to admit, it would be weirdly cool if you met your doppelganger). And then we'll touch fingers and annihilate each other and take out the eastern seaboard with us. Antimatter humor... hilarious, I know.
A few random thoughts that will be edited into paragraph form at some point:
- Everyone is an individual and no one conforms 100% to any stereotype. This fact has caused me to date outside of my 'type' more than I probably should have, because Who knows, right? So in the spirit of the kernel of truth hidden within that largely bullshit book The Secret, I'm going to be a little more specific here (excuse all of the colons and bullets):
- I tend to identify more with the whiskysoaked makers of art and music, and with their actual art and music, than with the winestained critics and firstfridaygoers.
- If you like to go see local bands, we are 80% of the way there. If you are in a local band, we are 95% of the way there.
- I enjoy a good night in with a book or cuddled together on the couch with a movie as much as anyone, but if you are listing that in your profile, we are probably not for each other.
- I've been to more gay bars and drag shows than most gay people I know. Having said that, one of the things I loved about my old neighborhood in West Philly was that there was a ton of gay people but no gay bars. Just people.
- I should probably also mention that I am not one of those people who feels as though they need another person to complete their lives and I'm not in a hurry to get into anything serious. I need a lot of time to myself. I picture in an ideal case, one where I really hit it off with someone despite ourselves, we'd still probably only see each other once, maybe twice per week.