Hi, I'm dossy. Give me a moment to introduce myself ...

In a nutshell: married to mamph, father of two daughters, living in Butler, NJ, own a small business doing web consulting from home, singer in a barbershop chorus and my Lutheran church choir, but I'm an igtheist, guitar player of folk music, blogging at dossy.org and @dossy on Twitter.

I hold a pansexual worldview, that love doesn't have a gender and sex can be fun with anyone.

Decided that it was time I stopped working for other people and decided to run my own company, Panoptic.com, full-time starting June 2010. It's stressful, exciting, scary and fun ... !

I'm really good at being lucky, apparently. Of course, my friend David recited an awesome quote relating to luck: "The harder I work, the luckier I seem to be."

Yes, I work way too much, but, I love what I do. I guess I'm just ... lucky ... that way.

I have really long hair and am often confused or mistaken for a woman. I've resigned myself to the fact that I'm either a really effeminate looking man or a really ugly looking woman.

What do you notice?

(a) Books: Who Moved My Cheese. Man's Search For Meaning, Viktor Frankel. Thinking Styles, Robert Sternberg.

(b) Movies: Brazil. Rocky Horror Picture Show. The Cook, The Thief, His Wife and Her Lover. Priscilla, Queen of the Desert. Hedwig and the Angry Inch. Dude, Where's My Car. Half Baked.

(c) Music: Grateful Dead, Indigo Girls, Pink Floyd, God Street Wine, They Might Be Giants, Trans-Siberian Orchestra ...

(d) Foods: Japanese/sushi, Thai, Indian, Malaysian, Turkish, Greek ... too many to name, I'm such a foodie. I love to cook, too. I definitely "live to eat" and not "eat to live."

My family, friends, Internet connectivity, good food, my Birkenstocks, and a good laugh.

... why the more interesting profiles on OKCupid seem to be DGLM types, but that's the type OKCupid says I should "always avoid".

Also, why I just can't get anyone on this site to interact with me. Seriously, what's it about my profile that scares everyone away?

My life doesn't have a "typical" Friday night. There's always something going on, something to do, something to fix, etc.

It makes me sad that I haven't yet met in person a single person I've met on OKCupid.

Message me because you have nothing to lose and everything to gain by doing it.

Honestly, I've stopped sending messages as people just don't respond. However, if you message me, I will respond. So, if you're at all interested, send me a note. I'm done wasting time trying to get people's attention on this site.