Sensitive, intuitive, thoughtful and passionate. Pragmatic idealist. Sarcastic by nature but getting bored with its emotional distance (I like to think earnest is the new irony). I follow my heart rather than societal norms, or whatever’s hip, and have an occasional itch for the subversive or avant-garde.
A few things that turn me on include affection, a gentle touch, nuance, wit, vulnerability, summer breezes, trains, street photography, minor key melodies, good writing, integrity.
One of my guy friends says "She has a righteous and raucous laugh, fights for the underdog, is wise in ways that will smooth the rough spots, is open, is ready, is worthy, and so deserving of a great relationship with a wonderful man."
Finding beauty in the ordinary
Discussing local politics
Newspapers (Globe, Dot Reporter, Dig, NYT), magazines (New Yorker, Dwell), blogs (The Atlantic CityLab, Tiny Life, Blue Mass Group, Velvet Blue) and FB links occupy my time more than novels or nonfiction these days. Exceptions are graphic novels (Hyperbole and a Half, Persepolis, Fun Home). I long for time to get lost in a great book. A few of my old favorites include Bean Trees, Great Gatsby, Unbearable Lightness of Being. Periodically pick up Moby Dick.
I’d rather be snuggling with my sweetheart, out on the town or talking on the phone than watching T.V. That said, I’ve been binging on Portlandia. Also like Louie, Girls, Daily Show, TED.
Love movies, esp. oldies, indies and documentaries. I really dug Searching for Sugarman and Finding Vivian Maier. Rear Window, Annie Hall, The Graduate, Rushmore, Lost in Translation, Grey Gardens, Me and You and Everyone We Know, Hedwig and the Angry Inch and Wings of Desire are just a few of my all-time favs.
Can’t live without music. And I love to hear it live, esp. roots/alt country/bluegrass: Eilen Jewell, Session Americana, Lowell Folk Fest. I try not to miss Sunday Morning Country on ‘ZBC. Also into most stuff from the ‘60s: everything from the Beatles to Motown, Love to the Stooges, Nina Simone to Simon and Garfunkel, Burt Bacharach to Herbie Hancock. Plus Bach (when in the right mood), Leonard Cohen, Black Keys, White Stripes, Broken Bells, Rodriguez, Ry Cooder, Latin/Afro Cuban/Brazilian, etc., etc.
I’m a pescetarian and a carb-aholic. Trying, but not always succeeding, to curb the carbs and eat a bit healthier these days. I’m into breakfast, fish and some seafood, sushi, well prepared veggies, fruit, hole-in-the wall Mexican, upscale Vietnamese.
Yeah, that’s seven. I’m not known for brevity.
Here's one for you to mull over: I like Karen Carpenter's voice and not in an ironic sense.
Bonus if you have (or used to have) dark hair on your head and other places. Salt and pepper counts. Not a deal breaker if you don’t.
In addition to the check boxes, here's what I'm looking for:
Long term. My best relationships, romantic and otherwise, have developed and deepened over time. While I don’t have much experience with friends first, I’m open to it.
Ideally, you’d be close to my age or a little younger, but if we’re compatible in other respects, don’t let this hinder you.
Other things on my wish list:
You’re compassionate, loving, smart and a little zany.
You like to talk and listen.
You share some of my interests and you’d like to introduce me to some of yours.
You enjoy life and have a (mainly) positive outlook.
You’re a good kisser.
You’re environmentally conscious and spiritually curious (or at least it doesn’t wig you out).