What kind of a woman would I like to meet? You were born during or not long after WWII. You were a tomboy, and you disliked the regimentation of girls by the school systems. You wanted to take boys’ subjects, but were denied. You had a hard time passing as standard. You were far less squeamish than the other girls. You collected frogs, lizards, and spiders. You do not squish spiders. You like to have your own interests and create your own projects. You are artistic; you like ballet, operas, symphonies, museums, and the stage. You want to be treated as an equal, especially in dresses and skirts, but this has not been easy. You want to avoid peer pressure controlling your life. Maybe you ask yourself is there a guy who can be more like my girlfriends.
I have unreasonable expectations, but I can also satisfy unreasonable expectations. I can be vulnerable, sensitive, reasonable, non-controlling, in touch with my emotions, caring, and nurturing; these are women’s unreasonable expectations on dating sites. Since I was socialized as a male growing up, I did not originally have these attributes, which were not required! After I got married, I had to develop new social skills, especially since I was Asperger. After a lot of work, I now have good social skills, though by being in female-mode, not male-mode. I would never get away with being vulnerable, sensitive, reasonable, non-controlling, in touch with my emotions, caring, and nurturing in male-mode. Men are really discouraged from truly treating women as equals.