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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 26–48
  • Near me
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My details

Last online
Today – 12:31am
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
Atheism and laughing about it
Working on Post grad
Has kids and doesn’t want more
English (Fluently), French (Somewhat), Italian (Somewhat), German (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
- Summarized version:
Novelist. Navigator. Functional philosopher. Seeking fascinating conversation, strong minds, and new outlooks. Know what I want when I see it. I trust my instincts; If I write, or write back, those are what I am going on. Or, I am just curious. Long version below.

- After some thought, I feel I should say this. I don't like the word dating, don't really use it. You meet people, and things sort themselves out. I'm not here for some vaguely defined span of companionship. I am here to meet new women, and let things sort themselves out. That said, read on. Else, cheers.

- EFNP. Seems a popular bit of data.

- Someone else had this in their profile, but I totally dig it. We will probably get along if you do as well.

-Alan Watts ( Tempted to leave the rest of this at just that. (full version, for the astute:

- I have lived a full life, according to my own rules. I have suffered for it. I have no regrets. That said, I am not perfect. I am aware my head can be someplace other than my shoulders. If you see this, I expect you to call me on it. Being wrong can be good for you. You cannot cover new ground staring at a map. Sometimes you just have to walk.

- Quality of light is huge. If you are comfortable under a blue florescent, we will not gel. Yellows, orange, candles. It really is that important.

- Finally played Cards against Humanity. Am left in awe of what wonderful depravity might lay in the expanded pack.

- I lived in Europe for a few years. I have been up an down West Africa. I truly believe the Italians know how to live. At this point I am a bit of an international. Have family in Iceland. Get on best with folks who travel. When asked, I tend to answer to Bostonian before American. I am happily divorced, happily a father, of two children in another country. Yes I see them. Yes, they are more important than you.

-I place a high value on authenticity and lives lived left of center. Hipsters, not so much. Gansett is not cool. Yes, I will drink it. Please be more than your wacky outfit, your tattoos, and your funky piercings. I love it when these actually mean, something. Often, I find it is a merely a tribal uniform. I give everyone a chance. Yes, I realize this comes close to a blanket statement about other, but it shows I am not perfect. I really just want to be proven wrong more often.

- I think (naturally, as in no steroids, and yes, I know the difference) muscular women are incredibly attractive. If I can see your biceps I will probably stare. I apologize ahead of time. Don't ask me to explain it, this is quirk. That said, looks are a very poor basis for a relationship. Sharp, educated, multi-lingual women are also a major turn on. All of the above would be utterly amazing, but you are probably taken. Guys can dream though. (edit, did find one, and had a wonderful relationship with her, but times change).

- I believe a woman should be my equal. I have no problem opening doors, being a gentleman, and treating a woman like a “lady.” But when the chips are down, I expect you are a lioness underneath. You should be able to handle at least a dozen zombies without any help.

- I am working to create something which may save countless lives. It will probably fail due to poor leadership and lack of funds, but I tried. Yes, you really can change the world. (edit: that ended in December of 2013, for exactly the reasons quoted. But as stated, I tried, and I mourn its loss. Makes for a good story though.)

- I never look back and wonder what if. A wise turtle once said: “Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a gift.”

- I believe the secret to staying young, is learning to let go of what you think you already know. Life continues to teach, we forget how to listen. An inflexible mind cannot learn, and does not weather the Tuesday bombshells you hadn't considered.

- I do not believe the study of Art, History, Language, Literature, Philosophy or Spirituality is “a waste.” I am a functional academic. I am prone to obscure blathering though. Stop me if it bothers you, tell me to continue if it excites you.

- I like to take care of myself. I work out. I like to push myself physically. I enjoy running circles around twenty somethings maybe more than I should. I also like to drain a bottle of wine on occasion. Life is the leading cause of death, you might as well enjoy it.

-I like Chuck Taylors. Deal with it. That said, I also know how to iron.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
-Working on a masters in literature. Being constantly reminded why I was never a "formal" philosopher.
-Being outside, talking to random people.
-Wondering why surfing OKC can be so addictive...
-Thinking; probably too much.
-Working on "the Plan."
-Finding new music.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Lots of things.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
You tell me. Maybe my Chuck Taylors? My shaved head?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Music. Child of the 90s, but I keep my eyes open. Metric, Beats Antique, Silversun Pickups, Lumineers, Soul Coughing, Morcheeba, Rolling Stones, The Joy Formidable, The Pixies, Morphine. Radio Citizen. Bajka. Sola Rosa. Parov Stella. That deep electro bass, big drum, wide open space you know when you hear it. Music is how I transcend.


Books: Yeah, I have a lit degree... Kundera, Gaiman, Orwell, Woolf, many more...

Movies: Big Lebowski, Fight Club, The Ninth Gate. Coraline. The Grand Budapest Hotel. Never set out to be a Johnny Depp fan, but he happens to be in a lot of my favorites. I can quote large portions of Pulp Fiction.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Four seasons (Spring, Summer, Fall, Winter)
Books (I hate kindles, won't buy one)
Wine, Beer, Seafood (This is one category. Trust me on this)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The creepy similarities between the "Right" and the"Left."
The uniformity of non-conformity.
Failures of critical thinking.
Why people, who claim to like honesty, don't.

Why people on okCupid need to lord themselves over other people. If you don't watch TV, good for you. If you don't like sports, good for you; but don't turn your nose up at whole groups of people because you think are better than them. Would you make a blanket statement about women? race? polys? homo/bisexuals? Probably not. Don't become what you hate. A snob is a snob. Fuck off.

Why brevity seems to evade me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Trying not to have typical friday nights.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'll tell you in person.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are completely happy by yourself, and you do not need me, or someone else to be so.

You want to enjoy my company, for however long it lasts, understanding that one day, things might just change.

You don't wish to change me.

You are okay with, and respect, the fact that the two children I already have, are the only two I desire.

You have an inspired, creative desire to add something to the world, to never truly settle, to keep learning, to not be afraid to call bullshit, but not think yourself "better than."