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dreambuilder4u

65 / M / Straight / Available

Springfield, Missouri

His Details

Last Online
Apr 2, 2009
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 7″ (1.70m).
Body Type
Diet
Smokes
Yes
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other and very serious about it
Sign
Libra and it’s fun to think about
Education
Job
Income
Offspring
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
"Anyone can talk the talk, but I DO walk the walk".

You have nothing to loose by reading my profile and maybe everything to gain. Just because I'm married doesn't mean that I'm some hound out looking for stuff on the side. Read me and see, if you choose. You might be surprised to find an honest man who is NOT afraid to express his inner self to you.
It does take courage to be here with a profile like mine.

My name is Steve (or Steven) and I have no problem with talking with anyone, as long as you're truthful and respectful with me.
I believe in being a gentleman, I believe in chivalry and now days it's ok if the woman writes first.
If you’re looking for a “pretty boy”, I’m not him.
I have dings and dents, wrinkles and hail damage. I’ve been worn and torn but I've always come back for more. I am NOT a Quitter! I'm a man that works with his mind and his hands. I’ve been in the construction trades as a carpenter, a remodeler and now I'm a guy that fixes or repairs things the right way. I DO take care of my business at home too. Some of my life has been spent working out in the weather in all kinds of conditions. Four years of my life were spent living alone in a cabin at 10,000 feet above sea level in Colorado just to the west of Pikes Peak and I have pictures.

What you see in my face is the results of time, life, hard work and living on the wild side when I was a lot younger (a typical "bad boy"). The lines in my face are my badges of ruggedness that I wear with pride.
I have a passion for life and for the loves in my life. My first love is my love for God. I am a family man that loves children, an honest man, a guy that has slowed down enough to smell the coffee and enjoy Gods gifts of nature and people. I am not a religious man; I am a spiritual man and rarely attend any religious services.

If you’re looking for a guy that’s been around in life several times, a guy that’s learned a lot of valuable lessons in life, changed his life and knows how to treat a woman like a real woman, then I’m your man. Don’t let my physical appearance or the number of days I've spent on this earth fool you. There is still the fire of passion in my body and spirit and I’m in pretty good shape too. My hair is original, all mine and not transplanted. Read on if you choose. It's up to you.

If you like what you see and read....and you're looking for a lifetime commitment, (as in one man and one woman), then this is probably where you should stop reading. I don't want you to feel insulted or uncomfortable, you ARE a woman and I respect ALL women. I'm here for the lifetime commitment part of it, but in a different way. This is not about a religion of any kind. I'm not religious; I'm a spiritual man that believes in God my way and not just what an individual church would teach. I am NOT in any way FLDS either!

Most women are dedicated to Monogamy and are turned off by what I'm offering. That's ok though because I'm not looking for "most women", I'm looking for one special, thinks outside the box, open-minded, " very unique woman". All of us are drawn to one kind of lifestyle or another. What I'm drawn to is what you'll read in my profile if you continue on. I respect you and your life choices and I hope that you can respect me and my choices. Respect for each other these days seems to be gone for so many. For everyone that I view or maybe write to for what ever reason, I mean no offense to you or your beliefs and I will always be respectful with you. If you write to me, no matter what...I will write to you in return if you've shown respect for me. That’s the polite thing to do.

"I do know what MY kind of woman wants".
These next words come from my heart and I'll give all of this to the woman that wants me and needs me.
A tender and loving Woman, "A real Woman" to me wants to be treated like a Woman and not like a Man. She wants to be treated like a Lady. She wants tenderness, affection, gentle touches, hugging and kisses. She wants to cuddle, be held and hold hands. She wants understanding, a man that will listen to her and understand what she is saying. She wants honesty; loyalty to the friendship gives to me. She wants companionship, someone she can talk to about her day or her inner most self; her feelings and won’t have it held against her when things get out of sorts with each other if they do. She wants thoughtfulness, consideration and attention when she needs it or wants it or even if she doesn't know what she wants. She wants clarity when she's confused. She wants organization when she's unorganized. She wants leadership from her man, righteous leadership.
A Woman wants to be supported in her endeavors to reach her own personal goals. She wants help around the home when she needs it and not have her man complain about helping her. She wants to have her own space, her own time alone or time with her own friends. She wants time with her man too. A Woman wants to be nurtured by her man as she will nurture him in her way. She wants a man who will spend quality time with her, doing things with her, going places that she wants to go too. She wants to be able to watch her kind of movies with her Man and hopes he understands why she likes them. A Woman needs emotional support because Women feel with their hearts first, think about their feelings with their minds and then release what she feels. She needs a man to understand this about Women.
Men and Women think differently, but it's a choice to try to understand each other or not.

This is what I offer:
One Man and one Woman, both with jobs, great credit in the 800 range, and the bills paid on time. Two people that keep a clean and organized home. We don't have kids to raise and we don't have pets. We don't have credit card debt and the only debt obligation we have is our home.
My wife as a friend and sister for you that thinks outside the box, she is HOMEMKR.
A man that is by far, rare and different that thinks outside the box.
A "Life Partnership" between three people.
A loving and peaceful home in the country.
I also offer you everything you read in my profile that came from my heart.

"Life Partner"
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Life_partner

I am willing to make compromises if you are. I will quit smoking if you don't smoke or it bothers you if I do. Other things that matter to me are that you are adaptable to and accepting of this kind of lifestyle and we are compatible and able to fulfill each others needs and desires.

I am here representing me; my wife has her own profile.
We are NOT into threesomes. There will be NO sexual sharing with my wife and we are NOT swingers!!! My profile and my wife's profile represent two "Straight" people!!! This profile is about friendship, love, trust and a total commitment between three people. A commitment to have fun together, work together, pay bills together and enjoy a life together that's a whole lot easier, more comfortable and more complete for the three involved. A more debt free life that provides more savings, more completion of goals and more time to do the fun things in life. For the Ladies, that would be more time to sit back and smell the Roses.

I am an Extravert, Spiritual, and Honest with you
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to survive in this life like everyone else...... but none of us get out of this place alive and the only thing we can take with us is the love and kindness we've shared with others. So we do what ever we can to help someone on a daily basis.
I’m really good at
Taking good care of my wife.
Fixing things around the home, remodeling, taking care of the yard and garden. My job, helping other people, knowing the values of life and that God is the center of every circle around Him. Knowing that creating a great relationship and communicating with people is the best way to start or keep friendships . Being a well rounded man that realizes that men have feeling too.
Helping my wife with her needs inside the home. I know how to sort the laundry and do it from start to finish. I know how to cook, do the dishes and clean a home. I help my wife with all of these things. I'm really good at keeping things organized, keeping the bills paid and keeping great credit! I'm also good at figuring out how to get the job done no matter what that job is. Being VERY CREATIVE at making better and easier. I have a VERY sharp witted sense of humor, combined wth a LOT of common sense that might teach a lesson in life. Test me.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm MARRIED! I'm OLDER THAN YOU! (oh holy crap! What is this world comming to!) (I bet you're thinking that this is old man is looking for young stuff) WRONG, WRONG, WRONG!!!! ( Read the pofile Ladies!) My profile IS MY BOOK of truth.

I have a lot to offer. I'm good at what I choose to do. I finish what I start. I don't ever give up. I am a romantic Libra that's filled with love and capable of giving it to more than one woman.....and I want to and I will. I HAVE FEELINGS! (Yes, men have feeling too, but usually don't know how to express them in words or actions to a woman, but I do.)
I am life educated! Not "higher learning" educated. I'm NOT navie, I have some "street since", common sense, a sense of reality (I'm a "realist") and NO MATTER WHAT, I do know how to survive this life and be comfortable with it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books....In the past I read a lot of self improvement books. These days I'm learning a lot more about the single women of today by reading their profiles. (yes, i said that I read your profiles, some of them). I value women and I value their thoughts, opinions and feelings.
Movies.... That reflect romance, comedy and some action are my favorites. My all time favorite is "Dances with Wolves".
Food.....A good and healthy variety of food.
The six things I could never do without
God
Water
Food
Air
.....The necessities of life. If I can't survive, how can I help anyone else to survive?
Then comes........
Wife and Family at the same time as well as my job, but wife and family comes before job and wife comes before family, ALWAYS.

Last comes....
Friends, my personal hobbies and desires.
Priorities my dear, priorities. These are mine from a my point of view. This is what men should be all about, according to God and His Will for Men.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Where the heck am I going to find one very unique woman that can live like this? I know she is out there somewhere and I know we will find each other soon. My job and how I'm going to fix the problem. I think about THIS alot.....I want to help people more than I want to help myself. I believe that if we would all do this, then life would be a lot better for everyone. I know I've helped hundreds of people in my life, but I want to help more, that's just me, the way I am. If I fail at everything from here on, I hope God judges me on what I HAVE achieved from changing myself and helping others to have a better life, especially the little children that I help in my job. I hope that after opening up my heart to you, that something I've said or done helps you in some small way to make your life better.
On a typical Friday night I am
At home with my wife, kicking back, having dinner, watching a movie or whatever, after a hard week at work.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I think I've said enough for now. The rest comes after all the stages of friendship are met and a relationship starts.

Acquaintance.
Casual friendship.
Close friendship.
Non-sexual intimate friendship.
Non-sexual Relationship.
Commitment.
What ever we choose next.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 22–46
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
For any reason at all, but if you're really interested and you don't talk with my wife, the deal is off no matter what. At this point, she is my major priority in life on earth. When the right woman comes along and it works, then I will have two major priorities in life on this earth that will be equal priorities at the same. Believe me! I have the heart for it Ladies!

I do want you to know this though, my wife and I are completely and very happy together and extremely happy being married. If you don't believe me, ask her. We have a very wonderful and loving relationship together and we will NOT let anyone ruin that for us. EVER!

OK Cupid says that my wife and I are only 64% match, 64% friend and 0% enemy. Well emagine that! I say we're 100% totally and completely compatible! Who's the better judge of that!!!? My wife, me, or a computer program that some psychologist created from BOOKS and NOT from life experiences.