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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 18–30
  • Near me
  • For new friends, casual sex

My details

Last online
Jan 19
5′ 0″ (1.53m)
Body Type
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Working on university
Art / Music / Writing
Less than $20,000
Open relationship
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, Vietnamese (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Artsy nonbinary femme queer. Super feminine but not a girl; OKC has shitty gender/orientation options. He/his or they/them pronouns. Not exceptional, but earnest. I have a lot of feelings. I care about people & animals & plants. I like to draw & write. I want to create something beautiful every day, if I can.

I'm currently in a relationship with a lovely person, going on a year. We have a romantically exclusive but otherwise open arrangement. I'm primarily looking to meet new local friends at the moment, the queerer the better.

Interests include: Humans & nonhumans (cats, bats & rats, also dogs). Plants & flowers (succulents, air plants, lavender & roses). DIY crafts & cosmetics. Music of all kinds (especially but not exclusively punk, twee, post-rock, shoegaze). Tea & coffee, casually. Indulging my sweet teeth & my grumbly tumbly. Everyday adventures, looking for little things that bring joy. Consent & communication based relationships, showing affection & validating emotions. Tender kisses, cuddles & dirty kinky sex. Messy makeup & cute underwear as self care. Living with depression & growing from pain. Self-awareness, intersectional social justice, feminism, trans & queer rights, POC solidarity. Anti-assimilation, lol reverse racism. Body positivity & subversive femininity. Practicing radical self-love in a society that wants you to hate yourself.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I study comics, illustration, concept art, & character design. I also teach creative & academic art to kids in Cupertino.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
overthinking things, having feelings, daydreaming.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have funny hair & a ring in my nose. I am very short. I sound super gay. I smile easily. I get flustered easily. I am mostly quiet. I am often drawing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I get excited about lots of things. Let's have a conversation.

Otherwise, here are five songs for today:

#1 - Belle & Sebastian - I Could Be Dreaming
#2 - The Vaselines - Jesus Wants Me For A Sunbeam
#3 - Black Tambourine - For Ex-Lovers Only
#4 - My Bloody Valentine - Loomer
#5 - The Jesus & Mary Chain - Til It Shines
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
art / music / internet / friends / hygiene / good communication skills
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Art, music, self-care, the destruction of institutional systems of oppression, how bullshit the gender binary is, how to love, educate, & validate myself every day, cute cats.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Drawing, listening to music, cleaning rat cages, spending time with my partner/friends/roommates, crafting.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't assume that most people are good people. I'm almost always anxious about something. I'm kinky as hell.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.

- have a sensitive & nuanced understanding of gender/sex/sexuality
- like artsy/queer/femme stuff
- the patriarchy/whiteness/heteronormativity hasn't completely ruined you as a person and/or you are actively trying to unruin yourself

Extra points if you're tall & cuddly & kinky & you own cats. Let's go get coffee, or have a lovely stupid romance.