I'm finding my social calendar filling up now that I've dated some gentlemen met here and socializing heavily with a few others. My teeth are still my own hang up and yet almost all are highly supportive and a photographer friend took some photos of me when we shooting a model together. It's my new tattoo/weight loss picture.
If you are searching for a "Liz Lemon" type we should run away in an RV together. Deal like a mature adult with regards to my health problems and on my good nights I'll dance with you at a club or read to you or attend an opera. Health be damned: I can recover in front of a TV or in bed and do it again a week later. I've also rocked at lap dancing, though it was when I was younger and skinnier.
2013 was a year of massive strides in growth and was an example of the best of times and the worst of times. I'd really enjoy at least a bit of romance with a fellow geek. I'd be a professional as well, if not for my dammed disabilities. I'm funny, I definitely WTMI people, and I'm worth both spending time with and energy on.
Whilst very sick in 2012, due to a friend's generosity, I saw Stephen Hawking give a talk in Cupertino, went with friends of mine to a Comedy Central taping at The Fillmore, and saw Devo and Blondie at the Warfield. For a very sick & disabled lady in a wheelchair for seven months, I definitely spent 2012 exploring and making the most of the available cool options.
2013 I took myself off all opiates for my pain conditions: October 31st was my last pain killer dose and I've managed since just on OTC pain killers - I'm seriously proud of myself. I never took them except as prescribed, but almost ten years on them will harm anybody, so I am now rebuilding as my "self" returns.
2013 NYE was the best one I can remember and I'm so glad I managed to get myself into SF to visit a friend, go out to the Cat Club, and have a wonderful time because the staff and my friend were all supportive. I'm in pain, but I'm starting to live life again on my terms. My 45th birthday was amazing: tattoos, my labrette re pierced, Thai food with a friend, a stop off for decaf at Wicked Grounds, before heading to (yes, once again) the Cat Club...where my friends and the staff were once again awesome.
*** Join me in in watching Netflix/Amazon Prime/YouTube/TED and walking my dogs and cuddling whilst reading to one another and drinking tea or alco-pops or even Gentleman Jack straight with Coca~Cola chasers and eating veggie food.***
If you enjoy cuddling, watching movies, playing RPGs, reading, creating, cooking veggie foods, and keeping the melodrama in your life limited to books you read or movies you watch, we might make a good match. Those things make me quite happy.
I live with my Miniature Dachshund (Femme Pois) and Pembroke Welsh Corgi (Zweite 'Ein').
I've an aquarium that I enjoy watching. A plec named Feo has taken it over. He's over two-thirds the height of the tank.
I don't tend to exaggerate. Life remains bizarre enough I've no need to.
I know no relationship can complete me. I'm at a point where I feel ready to date again and allow a person close to me. Maybe even close enough to give full trust. But I believe my friends should _and do_ take precedence in my life.
I used to be poly and I know the rules and play by them fairly, yet I'm not up for a relationship with somebody who has a primary. I _might_ date somebody who is poly and has the desire to have me as their primary.
Currently I'm desiring a relationship that has at its center the foundations of peace, patience, quiet, and calm affection. A lot certainly stems from the fact my life has no place for high maintenance types or drama queens (male or female).
If a deeper and more physical love shows up, I will be happily surprised. As of 2011 I was divorced after a 12 year relationship, my ex and I had ten happy and loving years together and we tried remaining civil and friendly. I put in good effort and failed utterly. Yet I know that there may appear a shocking thing in my life: deep mutual love that brings good for both.
I modeled until I was diagnosed with Addison's Disease and put on steroids - I went from 105 pounds to 215 pounds in eight months in 2009-2010. I definitely feel sensitive about the change in my appearance, as well as the loss of my health and a feeling of not recognizing myself when I look in the mirror. I'm curvy, but people should try to keep in mind that has nothing to do with my personality before making a snap judgment that might stop you from gaining a wonderful new friend.
Besides, if things were to improve with my health, with a juice diet and reduction of steroids, I might get slender again. Though I'm not holding my breath, I've lost 40 pounds since getting off opiates for my pain (October 31st, 2013 was my last dose - pure willpower brought me out of that fog); I've also dropped my steroid dose. Maybe I will lose more. Last check I was 180. Only 45-55 more to go...
I love to do photography, to write song lyrics, autobiographical stories, and journaling, cook, design anything from photo shoot series to web applications. You can easily find something you want to read in my large and diverse book collection; it spans centuries and diverse fictions and serious philosophy or autobiographies or even my Terry Pratchett's Discworld collection or my Agatha Christie collection (which includes her two autobiographies or my favorite, her collection "The Mysterious Mr. Quin").
I think transguys (and lesbian transgirls) are sexy. Or hot. Depending on the person more than the strength of character capable of going through their change to what they feel is their proper gender.
I had major back surgery in January 2012 and spent almost six weeks in hospital. My health is pretty cruddy and things like this aren't that unexpected. I spent nearly three weeks in a hospital for a medical issue in early 2013. Not fun. But I'm better now.
Please do not offer me any "alternative" treatment ideas as in the past fifteen plus years I have tried this, that and the other thing. Ignoring that request is one of my biggest pet peeves and will turn me off faster than telling me that if I had a positive attitude I would get better. <-- The worst is when I've made friends on here and they forget this request. I mean it truly.
Thank you for your concern though. :)
I am honest, unique, and normal.