For a disabled and misanthropic person, I find my social calendar filling up; I socialize heavily considering my health. I'm lucky that I've made some truly good and long-term friends through this site.
I've definitely realized I'm a bi-romantic asexual and it's a learning process. It doesn't mean I don't want a relationship - it just means any relationship will have to respect my limits whilst respecting my partner's possible needs. As of August 6th I've fallen (mutually) in love with my best friend and she's now my girlfriend, but it's complicated and she can't move with me and so we're just enjoying the time we have together - and she understands the whole thing I'm going through.
And yes, I would like to get married, maybe be a kickass stepmom (or adopt or not - I'm flexible about the having children part), and spend nights cuddling on the sofa. Open marriage so you can get laid? I'm an asexual, bi-romantic, nest-desirous woman, so of course I'm not adverse to that.
Right now I'm dealing with some intense ongoing oral surgery that is stretching out through August of this year. I'm mostly out of the dating scene whilst I heal. But new friends to watch movies with? Yes, thank you. 😊
So my life is changing from East Bay, CA to Cleveland, OH. I'm not even 50% positive that I should be doing this, but I am 100% doing so.
If you enjoy cuddling, watching movies, playing RPGs, reading, creating, cooking veggie foods, and keeping the melodrama in your life limited to books you read or movies you watch, we might make a good match. Those things make me quite happy.
I live with my Miniature Dachshund (Femme Pois) and Pembroke Welsh Corgi (Zweite 'Ein') and a roommate.
I've an aquarium that I enjoy watching. A plec named Feo has taken it over. He's the height of the tank.
I don't tend to exaggerate. Life remains bizarre enough I've no need to.
I know no relationship can complete me and I'm ready to allow people close to me full trust. I believe my friends should _and do_ take precedence in my life.
I used to be poly and I know the rules and play by them fairly, yet I'm not up for a relationship with somebody who already has a primary. I _might_ date somebody who is poly and has the desire to have me as their primary.
Currently I'm desiring a relationship that has at its center the foundations of peace, patience, quiet, and calm affection. A lot certainly stems from the fact my life has no place for high maintenance types or drama queens (male or female).
I love to do photography, to write song lyrics and semi-autobiographical stories, do hardcore journaling, bake, and design anything from photo shoot series to web applications. You can easily find something you want to read in my large and diverse book collection; it spans centuries and diverse fictions and serious philosophy or autobiographies or even my Terry Pratchett's Discworld collection or my Agatha Christie collection (which includes her two autobiographies or my favorite, her collection "The Mysterious Mr. Quin").
I think transguys and transgirls are sexy. Partially due to the strength of character necessary for going through their change to what they feel is their proper gender.
Perfect dates: Staying in: Watching Netflix/Amazon Prime/YouTube/DVDs, walking my dogs, and cuddling whilst reading to one another and drinking tea or whiskey straight with a soda chaser and maybe eating homemade veggie food. Going out in the Bay Area: Let's have Ethiopian or Thai, and hit DNA Lounge or Cat Club after Wicked Grounds, then return to walk my dogs. They are my children, after all, so they're part of the package. In Cleveland? No idea. Probably a similar set up.
I am honest, unique, and normal.