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drphoenixx

36 / F / gay / Single

Indianapolis, Indiana

The Skinny

Last Online
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Ethnicity
White
Height
5' 4" (1.62m).
Body Type
Average
Looking For
New friends, Long-term dating, Short-term dating, Activity partners, Long-distance penpals
Smokes
No
Drinks
Sometimes
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Education
Working on Ph.D program
Job
Education / Academia
Income
Rather not say
Kids
Likes children
Pets
Owns dogs and Likes cats
Languages
English

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I am devilish, dastardly, and delicious.

My Self-Summary

It is difficult to summarize a self....I like people and try to play well with others. I don't usually bite. I'm a thoroughly decent person who is kind to small children and furry creatures. I love a good tortilla chip, loud thunder storms, university libraries, a good shiraz, and scantily clad women. I also enjoy traveling and exploring new places, taking naps, philosophizing. and eating desert first.

I have a very good reason for not putting a clear picture up on the web. I would be glad to send you one though. Lately, I have had to start looking like a professional and grown up, but I am most comfortable in a pair of jeans, boots, and a t-shirt. I exist all over the gender universe in presentation. It depends on the day.

What I’m doing with my life

Trying to accept the unacceptable
Trying to squeeze enjoyment from dissatisfaction
Trying to finish my dissertation so I can have a real "career."
Trying to understand how 1/2 of the country could have thought voting for Bush was a good idea.
Learning to just be
Searching
Trying to get through it all with as much dignity as possible

I’m really good at

Thinking, and then thinking some more.
Listening

The first things people usually notice about me

I really don't know. After we meet, you should tell me what you noticed. I just looked and noticed a mop of dark blond hair and an unfortunate pimple. The latter is probably much more noticeable to me.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

Favorites in no particular order:

Books: Roland Barthes, "A Lover's Discourse." Nicola Griffith's "Slow River," Kate Bornstein "Gender Outlaw", Pema Chodron's work, Tolkien, anything by Shakespeare. I really love quite a number of books and authors, however. I love to read and wish I had more time for fiction.

Music (for today): The Stills, Snow Patrol, Teegan & Sara, Yellowcard, Smashing Pumpkins, Keane, Editors, The Cliks, Linkin Park, Annie Lennox, Damien Rice, Indigo Girls, Weezer, Bach, most other music, as long as it's good!

Movies/TV: Michael Moore, Star Wars, Battlestar Gallactica, Meerkat Manor, It's Me or the Dog, the Closer, Children of Men, La Femme Nikita, many more

The six things I could never do without

Love
Books
Laptop
Modern pharmaceuticals
Hot showers
Music

I spend a lot of time thinking about

Me, and you, and that person over there, and that other person.....

On a typical Friday night I am

Procrastinating on my dissertation by doing any number of activities. At the moment, I just moved to a place where I know very few people, so the activities are often solitary unless I drive to Chicago.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

I often eat cereal for dinner. It is a sad state of affairs.

You should message me if

Anything I have said has struck a chord, or if you are mostly sane, fun, somewhere close to my age, have similar interests, and need a partner in crime. Also, I am a recent transplant to the area and wouldn't mind some friends to show me around the town.