I believe I am intelligent and generally kind, I can be self-absorbed, but can also be very giving. I love to please, I read voraciously, love various kinds of movies, a gourmet cook . . . I am fairly active in the SCA and all its nuances. I am constantly thinking, I love to communicate, I am artistic, I draw, paint, and create, and have perfected my most recently learned skill, sewing. I love all things sci-fi/fantasy, aka, I have an extreme geeky side to myself that I embrace. I am pagan, and love spiritual discussion and discovery. Although all these statements would make a stranger find me dreamy and over-enlightened, I am actually very realistic and practical in my daily life. I am highly organized and highly clean. I like for things to be well-kept and beautiful around me. I try not to annoy people too terribly with the OCD qualities that make me this way.

I appreciate fine art, fine food, fine drink, antiquing, theatre, and appreciate the value of work and discipline to have a comfortable life. I also appreciate dive bars, cheap beer, loud concerts and parties with people I just met. I can go to indy movie marathons and watch crappy fifties sci-fi for hours. I can go to a honky tonk and fit in with the crowd (well, at least my accent and my upbringing). I love museums and art shows, but I am just as happy camping and going to the lake. I like to explore the city. I am always game for trying something new. A key talent is my ability to blend and coexist well in many different social atmospheres.

I set a standard on myself that constantly means I am striving to be more than what I can be, even if I rarely reach it. I love easily, I laugh easily, and although it may not be readily apparent in my personality, I am more accepting than I seem. I accept the hardships of life as fact, and can quickly rise to the challenge of each one, finding humor in the oddest or toughest situations and trying my best (but I am only human) to walk away being the best person I can be. If I couldn't laugh at life, I would have long ago been lost in a sea of my own despair. Humanity is amusing, none so much as (usually) myself. I have been told I am like watching cartoons - - amusing, entertaining and completely aware of myself and my surroundings.

I am working on developing my own business. It goes back and forth as to how exactly I aim to execute this plan, but the guiding and defining line is always to maximize my artistic creativity in the best possible way and to minimize my need to work for "the man". I have grown to hate "the man" in the past year and have come to the conclusion that I may never rise above my current situation in life, but that is a sacrifice I will gladly make in order to be my own person, not sell out and not work for a large corporation.

Dating for me has had its ups and downs in the past couple of years, this year specifically. It's funny - I wrote the paragraph below almost two years ago, but I think that it is just now that it truly can define me. I have gained a lot of independence in this past year, initiative to go, do and be with just me. I have found that I am very comfortable in blazing new paths alone, but I will never turn down the company of another like-minded person.

I am desiring of meeting new people and dating. I don't feel a biological clock and I view things like marriage and commitment as these hazy concepts of the future. I want to get in a nice, comfortable place with someone and just have some fu**ing fun, for gods' sakes. And then go from there.

I'm pretty liberal in my ideas of monogamy vs. polyamory and can wax philosophical on those subjects for hours. Basically, I am low maintenance. No, really.

I have many, many friends. I am VERY wary of introducing new people to them. If I do, you've reached the inner circle of trust. :-P I am wary of this because the world is filled with flakes and I am starting to think I am a flake magnet. As soon as I start to feel like I have met someone that both my friends and I can enjoy, something happens.

I have FOUR cats that are my children. *sigh* I don't want children of my own, I don't believe, but am very accepting of others with children or possibly adopting at some point in my life. I think I could have more fun with girls than with boys but my favorite kid in the world is my cousin's son Lucas.

I moved into a cute small house with a big yard about two years ago and am living alone for the first time in several years. The yard used to be my biggest frustration because I hate to mow, then I decided to have it done by someone else! Thus, I have recently developed a newfound interest in working in the yard and now I am constantly trying to figure out how to make it look cuter.

anything artistic. However, I have limitations defined by my interests, which sometimes annoys me. I try to describe it with this synopsis:

There are "inside the box" and "outside of the box" thinkers. I crave the creativity to be an "outside of the box" thinker, but I doubt that I ever will be. I must have the parameters of the box. I am defined by the box. However - - give me the box and the instructions. I will mostly follow them. I will enhance the nature of the box. It will be the most fantastic looking box money can buy and it will grab the typical audience's attention. It will not be very mysterious, you do not have to interpret the box. It will still be very much just a box. But d**n, it will be one finely decorated box, with an advertising strategy that will allow it to be the most popular and sought after box in the sea of other attractive boxes.

Yeah, so basically, my creativity relates to my life and business goals and reflects that by nature, I just like things to be pretty. Dam*it.

Things I am really good at, much to the dismay and/or appreciation of others: being a fashionista, telling others about their fashion faux pas (probably not so appreciated - I am working on it), social interactions and social awareness and being a social butterfly, coming up with fantastic ideas, cleaning (it's so sad), home decorating on a budget (or not on a budget), finding awesome things to do, finding cheap things to do, finding both awesome and cheap things to do, making unrealistic goals and then driving myself nuts over them, procrastinating, being annoyingly energetic, driving people nuts.

I'm incredibly short - - like, hobbit short. It is SO funny when people point it out. Oh, wait. It's not. Trust me, I am aware.

Dimples. I hate them.

Tits. I like them. Try to start off with a different subject. I am aware I have them, just like I am aware that I am short. If you can only go for the obvious, you are probably not creative enough to hold up the rest of the conversation.

Smile. I do. All the time. I have a bubbly good humor pared with sharp wit, social awareness and sarcasm. Reference: Betty Page (the naviety that many people are inherently good and sexuality is the gods good will and nature, too natural to be embarrassed by and as much a religion as any thing else sold today), Paula Deen ("Everything is better with butter, ya'll."), Ace of Cakes crew (funky with a love of cooking), Martha Stewart (perfection is the key to everything), Caroline Rhea (I'm cute, I'm bubbly, my sarcasm never gets annoying - - the cute and bubbly might).

Movies: Chasing Amy, Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil, The Nightmare Before Christmas, Elizabethtown, Moulin Rouge and Secretary, documentaries like Searching for the Wrong Eyed Jesus, Enron, 21 Days in America's Battleground, etc. Dark girly humor like But I'm a Cheerleader, Mean Girls, Drop Dead Gorgeous, good independents (200 Cigarettes) anything Kevin Smith or Tarantino. All comic book movies. Action movies that have a real feel as opposed to gratitious violence: History of Violence, Knockaround Guys, Things to Do in Denver When You're Dead.

Comedies that are actually funny in a dry or suprising way . . . perhaps I missed the bus here, but no, I really didn't find Nacho Libre, Napolean Dynomite or Anchorman that funny. I'm sorry. I didn't. I love lamp, that's about it . . . if someone could make me understand the humor, I'm game. Smoking a bowl beforehand does not count. Then, everything is funny.

Books: Cry to Heaven (Anne Rice), Sunshine (Robin McKinley), Reflections in a Jaundiced Eye (Florence King), Rice (Nickey Finney), The Fountainhead (Ayn Rand), The Silver Wolf (Alice Bordcht), Stranger in a Strangeland (Robert Heinlen), Henry & June (Anais Nin) . . . on a completely different level, cozy mystery novels . . . I can escape in a world where cats solve mysteries and there is nothing that reminds me of real life . . . sometimes I get enough of it, and deep and philosophical just make me think too much.

Music - - Rediscovering musical appreciation. Any suggestions? (Okay, in actuality, I am afraid to list any musical likes here, because I haven't really followed music in ten + years, with music, I have to be led to discover new things . . . um, I go to a lot of shows at the Melody Inn, I follow the Mummies quite closely . . . I went to MayDay this past year . . I need help in this area.)

Food - - I cook, therefore I am. (And apparently, I am a big nerd/geek/dork as well.) Food that is created with caring and intelligence, I can't give a generic answer like Italian, French, or Middle Eastern but instead focus on dishes that highlight a good ingredient or perhaps showcase the skill that was used in cooking it. I have several favorite menus . . . if I had to list favorite food items - - - salad, because it is so versatile. Red meat. Almost any vegetable that is undercooked, lightly braised and very crunchy.

I hardly ever go out to eat in this city because 1) I am frugal 2) I like other people to introduce me to new things 3) I enjoy cooking so much more at home for a large group. Given a choice, I will always choose to stay in and try a new menu for 6, 8, or 18 of my closest friends.

I will always go out to drink beer, however. I will no longer try to drive to do it. Long story.

My talent is chocolate. Shaped, poured, molded, baked, mixed, it is a fantastic medium in which to work. Piece of trivia: I am allergic to all forms except white chocolate. So, it is truly just an artistic outlet . . . and I love willing test subjects.

A recent reassessment now reads:

1) still and always, my cats to cuddle (one cannot be a self-proclaimed crazy cat lady without them - - also, this can be a form of wry humor and sarcasm and not nearly as frightening as it sounds)

2) my cell phone, computer, PDA or any other electronic device that allows me to stay connected way more than I have any need to be

3) sugar in liquid form, no matter how much I try to cut it out of my life

4) chapstick, layers of clothing and lotion from October until May every year, because winter is the most horrible thing I must survive in this city and more recently awesome wool peacoats and accessories

4) good beer - generally nice Belgians, light ales, anything easy on hops, Bell's Oberon is a fave, as is Stella Artois - side note: anyone that can introduce me to other beers that are comparable could definitely qualify as a "need" in my book or anyone that can just keep up with me and be my company in long hours and many pitchers at my favorite haunts

5) a lack of life drama - - I've learned from my own and I don't need to hold someone's hand while they are learning from theirs

6) water in all it's venues, it balances my "earth" and "metal" qualities

7) the ability to use the guideline of six as just a guideline and not a rule.

life, people and the motivations they have in doing the things they do.

whether or not doing the fair, just and right thing in life is actually making my life any better, or just building up some fantastic karma that I seem to not be tapping into.

Do people on this website judge me because I list my orientation as bisexual?

Do people ever read these profiles, or just look at the pictures on them?

And bits of random. I love to watch the news and find myself thinking about society, health care and tons of current events. I think about whatever project I am doing, finishing or beginning. I think about my lists. I love lists. I think about books I have just read or shows I have just watched. I generally never stop thinking, when you get right down to it.

drinking a beer and shooting a game of pool at the Cat, hanging out with my friends, going to an SCA event, working on a project, watching movies, going to a show, spending time with the important people in my life - my friends, who are without a doubt, the reason I reside in Indianapolis.

I think my parents were 70's swingers.

I have more than a passing interest and involvement in the bdsm/alt lifestyle/alt thinking gengres.

I never get bored with life, but find myself to be bored with people fairly easily. I secretly believe I will never meet anyone who can hold my interest for long periods of time.

you've read my profile before contacting me and therefore think we have "something" in common (anything, really), you can write in a reasonably intelligent manner, you can have several conversations before you mention anything about my "boobs" despite the fact they're clearly visible, you don't use the word "holla" and you might want to develop a friendship and possibly more.