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40 Chico, CA Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 23–53
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Apr 15
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Masters program
Has kids
English (Fluently), German (Okay), Japanese (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly), Portuguese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I grew up in the Bay and then the valley and came to Chico in 1997 a newlywed and CSUC transfer student. In 2008 I finished my work on my Master's in English with a focus on creative writing (I also have BAs in English and in Asian Studies).

I'm a nerdy, liberal, slightly introverted guy. Grew up reading comics and playing RPGs. Still enjoy a little of each as well as a little Playstation time with my kids. I LOVE to sing and try to go to karaoke every week if I can. I also love the ocean and try to visit it whenever I can.

I have primary custody of my four charming, healthy and intelligent children. They are with their mother on weekends, freeing those days up for all the kid-free dating and fun to be had
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Editing my book. Activism. Blogging at Bisexual Books. Doing my best to balance multiple non-overlapping social circles, be the best dad I can be and do my best to better myself and to enjoy life as I go.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Figuring out the endings to movies before the opening credits have finished rolling, being diplomatic, listening, cooking, being a dad. . .
The first things people usually notice about me
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I don't know. My eyes?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Best book: Rather than name titles, I'll toss out a good many of the authors I read: Stephen King, Chuck Palahniuk, Clive Barker, Patricia Briggs, George RR Martin. . .I grew up centered on fantasy and horror fiction, but I have a basic enjoyment of most anything good. I also read and do book reviews for Bisexual Books.

Best movie: I'm a huge cinema fan. I love movies. I have favorites in every genre.

Best music: The Pixies, Queen, Nirvana, the Decemberists, Frank Turner, Matt & Kim, Blink 182, Green Day, Foo Fighters, Throwing Muses, the Lemonheads, Dan le sac vs Scroobius Pip, De La Soul, Social Distortion, the Descendents, Rise Against, Tom Petty... clearly I have a stronger connection with rock and punk, but I have soft spots for most all music.

Best food: Mexican, Thai, Chinese, Cherries, Coconut.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my kids & friends, music, a cold drink, kinksters, internet access, books
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I think about my kids and whether I'm a good dad. I think about romance and finding someone. I think about non-traditional families. I think about writing and improving my health and how I need to do more of both of these things. I think about candle wax, and rope, and meteors, and what exactly I can do to survive the zombie apocalypse. And so very much else. I think about how nice it would be to just take a break from thinking for a while.

And I think about you; I wonder what you see when you're reading me, when you're meeting me; I wonder what makes you tick.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I go out from time to time, but I mostly like to relax at home. Two Fridays per month I'm spending the night working. Now Saturdays--Saturdays are for karaoke.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I believe in ghosts and other aspects of the paranormal. It's ok if you don't.
You should message me if
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you don't write in text speak. And, obviously, what you read here interests you.

And seriously, if you've made it through this far, SOMETHING must have interested you enough to keep going. Why not see what else may come?