Message Him

Join OkCupid

Find better matches with our advanced matching system

An image of dso201
An image of dso201
—% Match —% Friend —% Enemy

dso201

30 / M / straight / Single

Manchester, New Hampshire

The Skinny

Last Online
Join Date
Ethnicity
White
Height
5' 8" (1.72m).
Body Type
A little extra
Looking For
New friends, Long-term dating
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Taurus but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from college/university
Job
Entertainment / Media
Income
$30,000–$40,000
Kids
Likes children
Pets
Likes dogs and Dislikes cats
Languages
English (Fluently)

Similar Users

Your Notes

Edit your notes

I am compassionate, A/V Obsessed, and snarky.

My Self-Summary

I'm a romantic, a cynic, a consumer, a commit-a-holic, an agnostic, a mostly-liberal socialist, a perfectionist, a completist, and an artist.

I have been known to be emotional, sexual, peculiar, attentive, distracted, goofy, deadpan, opinionated, accepting, GGG, chivalric, claustrophobic, affectionate, obsessive-compulsive, occasionally offensive, principled, nervous, sensitive, and comfy.

I'm a NH native who excelled at academics and performing arts stuff in high school. I attended NYU where I received a BFA in Film and Television Production with minors in Dramatic Lit and Music. I graduated in 2001 and spent that Summer finishing my thesis film (a feature-length musical on digital video that I now find self-indulgent and convoluted despite having some neat ideas and a few decent performances). I started looking for jobs right around the time that 9/11 occurred. This sent me packing back to NH. Since then, I've toiled in customer service jobs, had a brief engagement to a lovely girl who wasn't ready to settle down (at least not with me), spent 2 years back in New York unsuccessfully trying to break into "the industry," and returned once again to NH where I'm currently trying to regroup.

I often obsess over the works of Joss Whedon [Buffy, Angel, Firefly, Serenity, Fray, etc.), not just because I'm a massive fan, but because I'd love to model my career after his. Write some spec scripts, get noticed, work on some great movies and shows, executive produce my own series, and have a career in film and television. I also find that I tend to get along well with other Whedon fans. Recently, I've taken aim at possibly trying to join the Mumblecore movement. This would be a group of filmmakers making ultra-low budget movies focused on realistic characters, natural dialog, and relatable stories. For examples of the genre, seek out The Puffy Chair or Nights and Weekends.

So yes, I spend much of my time watching and studying infinite amounts of film and television. I find inspiration, emotional catharsis, and sometimes just good old escapism from these mediums and they are my passion. I don't watch TV because I'm lazy. I watch TV for inspiration. I hope to find someone who shares a passion for these things. I do make sure to get out and be around human beings every once in a while though.

My life (and computer) is full of music. My father and his father were musicians and it has been a big part of my upbringing. I enjoy food, although sometimes a bit too much. I love attending theatrical performances. I try to avoid sports but still find myself obsessively following the Red Sox and Patriots. It feels silly to get so worked up over something so insignificant, but I can’t help myself.

More than anything, perhaps, I love good conversation. I spend most of my day talking to complete strangers on the phone about power cycling modems and programming remote controls, so when I get the chance to actually talk to someone I like about things that really interest me, I can get a little carried away. Pretty much nothing beats that period in a relationship when you're getting to know someone, the floodgates open, and you just can't get enough. Endless phone conversation…sigh…

"If there's any kind of magic in this world it must be in the attempt of understanding someone."

Why I'm here...honestly...I'm lonely. I hate that when something really great or really awful happens, the only people I can think to tell are my parents and my friend in New York. I'm tired of buying single tickets to movies. I'm sick of driving into Boston by myself. I want someone to share things with. I want to hold a hand other than my own. This cuddle whore needs to turn a trick.

I'm a pretty emotional person and am looking for the same. I don't mean whiny. I mean someone who doesn't detach. Someone who rides all the bumps that life brings. Someone who can't help but show when they're unhappy. I want someone with a big heart.

Politically, I can't really see myself with an ultra-right-winger, but I'm pretty good about seeing past political beliefs. The whole political system is so FUBAR anyway, I envy anyone who sees enough good in it to believe in it anymore.

I don't need to be with a member of MENSA, but common sense and at least average book smarts would be nice.

I like people with a darker sense of humor. Well, I guess I require them. I think that humor is best when it's used to confront the things that make us uncomfortable. Thus, some people don't find me funny when I let my guard down and say whatever comes to mind.

Physically, I love a pretty face. I’ve found woman with no curves and women with extra curves breathtakingly beautiful (the female figure; good going there, nature). I’ll admit an attraction to pale skin and I can’t help but love a girl with tattoos or piercings, but they’re certainly not required.

Most importantly, be honest and be yourself. Don't tell me what you think I want to hear instead of what you really think and don't watch American Idol just because everyone else does. Do your own thing (even if that includes American Idol, shudder) and feel free to tell me if you think my recent script sucks the ass of a donkey (that would be ass ass), because it just might.

Side note: I don't drink at all, but have nothing against social drinkers. As long as you're not still in that phase of life where drinking seems like such an ultra-cool forbidden thing that you love getting soused regularly, or worse, can't have fun without getting a buzz on first, we're cool. Smoking is another thing. A lot of cigarette smoke really irritates my eyes and throat. I want the person I'm with to live a long healthy life and to give birth to nice healthy kids, and to have a kissable mouth. I'm not against getting to know someone who smokes, as long as they realize that being with me means eventually quitting.

Some people juggle geese.

What I’m doing with my life

I was recently forced into the Business Support department at Comcast, where I troubleshoot all sorts of issues for small business owners. I know the real reason our economy is in the crapper. I work with a fun group of people and it's nice to feel like I accomplish something (however small) in a day, but it's not what I went to school for and it's customer service which pretty much equates to being paid to be abused by the general public.

If I want to focus on the positive, I'm paying off debt, putting my time in with a decent company, gaining skills, and working on a plan whereby I can start to produce my own movies. It's frustratingly slow-going, but I think I've finally come up with a script-worthy idea that would be quite affordable to produce.

I’m really good at

...playing the euphonium, having no uvula, watching movies in marathon format, making lists, critiquing films and television, self-depricating humor, directing actors, being snarky, slipping but not actually falling, finding new obscure bands, introducing people to their new favorite movie/band/show, singing "Hell" by the Squirrel Nut Zippers or "Piano Man" by Billy Joel at karaoke, solving a Rubik's Cube (although it's been a while now), not getting speeding tickets, putting my foot in my mouth, getting rid of my own hiccups, being refreshingly (I hope) honest, and above all, commitment.

The first things people usually notice about me

If you happen to notice me while I'm still trying to get comfortable and am being somewhat quiet, I'm not too sure. I believe my eyes tend to stand out a bit, so maybe those. After a while of quietly assessing my surroundings, however, I tend to make silly jokes, then inappropriate jokes, and then I end up uncontrollably blurting out personal information. So usually I make a strong first impression. The good thing is that my total lack of a censor between my brain and mouth makes it easy to figure out if you'll like me.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food

(a) Harry Potter, The Lovely Bones, The Time Traveler's Wife, Candide, King Dork, anything by David Sedaris, Steve Martin, Roald Dahl, John Hodgman, or Chuck Palahniuk, Fray, screenplays, plays by Shakespeare and Arthur Miller, Watchmen, the works of Edward Gorey, and the occasional liberal non-fiction by people like Michael Moore. .

(b) All Time Top 20: United 93, Dancer in the Dark, Before Sunrise and Before Sunset, Magnolia, Amelie, The Sweet Hereafter, Pleasantville, The Lord of the Rings, Once, Rachel Getting Married, Three Kings, Serenity, Natural Born Killers, The 40 Year Old Virgin, Donnie Darko, Children of Men, The Fisher King, Bowling for Columbine, Love, Actually, and Waiting for Guffman. Top movies of 2009 so far: (500) Days of Summer, The Brothers Bloom, Passing Strange, Harry Potter and the Half Blood Prince, Away We Go, Where the Wild Things Are, District 9, Coraline, Whip It!, and The Invention of Lying. I don't hold myself to any one genre. Any movie that engages me emotionally, intellectually, or artistically, preferably in some combination of the three.

(c) Damien Rice, The Frames, R.E.M., Sixpence None the Richer, Patty Griffin, Aimee Mann, The Swell Season, Fiona Apple, The World/Inferno Friendship Society, Bjork, Angie Hart and her various bands (like Frente! or Splendid), Flogging Molly, Pink Floyd, Bob and Wendy, The Beatles, Radiohead, They Might Be Giants, Nickel Creek, Regina Spektor, Laurel Brauns... I look for music with strong melodies (sorry, rap), interesting harmonies and arrangements, unique instrumentation, and complex structures with extreme dynamics.

(d) Chicken parm, pizza, mint chocolate chip ice cream, diner burgers, dark chocolate, mashed potatoes with gravy, diet sunkist, peanut butter cups, and babies. mmmmm, babies.

(TV) Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Angel, Gilmore Girls, The Office (NBC or BBC), Six Feet Under, My So-Called Life, Joan of Arcadia, Arrested Development, Firefly, Freaks and Geeks, Farscape, Ally McBeal, Wonderfalls, Lost, Ed, American High, Friday Night Lights, Creature Comforts, The Wire, and Rescue Me. I tend to gravitate towards shows that take advantage of the serialized nature of the format. Also, I seem to love shows that get cancelled way too soon.

(Theatre) Rent, Death of a Salesman, Romeo & Juliet, West Side Story, Hair, Spring Awakening, Noise Off!, The Crucible, Into the Woods, and Olleana.

The six things I could never do without

My computer; complete with fancy schmancy internet access and a massive music collection. My lifeline to the world and holder of all things important.

My extensive DVD collection and Netflix subscription paired with my TV, DVR, and Surround Sound.

My 5 senses, particularly my hearing and sight.

My support network of family and friends. Small, but dedicated.

Making lists, which tend to always end up far more elaborate and much longer than intended.

Carbon. Ironically enough, it's also the thing most likely to bring about the end of days.

I spend a lot of time thinking about

...script ideas, the thoughtlessness and/or selfishness of most people, pretty ladies and what kind of person is behind their prettiness, trying to remember what it was I was thinking about 10 seconds ago, where it all went wrong, where it all went right, bettering myself, finding someone to settle down with, and pneumonoultramicroscopicsilicovolcanokoniosis. Damned volcanic ash...

On a typical Friday night I am

I am new to a snazzy Monday-Friday daytime schedule, so I'm kind of in the process of figuring out what to do with my nights. This month, it seems like concerts re the answer. I'll admit that I spend quite a bit of time watching movies and TV shows, but I tend to make those things far more social than most people do. I love attending concerts and theatrical shows. Going out to eat is fun so long as the company is right. I do read, but am falling behind on my stack of books. I do enjoy video games, but an embarrassed to have a stack of them being ignored while I play Left 4 Dead for the millionth time. I take trips to NYC to see a friend occasionally. I have found, however, that with the right person, it doesn't much matter what we're actually doing.

I'm very much open to new "Friday night" experiences.

The most private thing I’m willing to admit here

I honestly am an open book. If you really want to know anything about me, just ask. The only reason I ever hold back is if I feel I'm making the other person uncomfortable.

So in the interest of honesty, I had my uvula removed. I saw The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants by myself in a theatre filled exclusively with girls... and it made me all moisty-eyed...and now I own it on DVD...along with the sequel. I swear like a sailor when driving by myself or watching a particularly frustrating game. I go to sleep hugging a pillow because I don't have an actual person to hug. Dating makes me nervous. I don't take enough risks.

What else do you want to know?

You should message me if

You share similar interests or favorites.

You value honesty, but know how to be sensitive about demonstrating it.

You realize that any successful relationship requires a little bit of work, some give and take, and dealing with, not avoiding, conflict.

You're capable of commitment.

You like to talk about a movie/show/concert after you've seen it.

You don't use LOL unless you're actually laughing out loud.

You don't laugh out loud every 10 seconds or so.

You can speak and write at a level befitting at least a high school graduate.

You're happy and you know it.

You're the schizzle.

You have a good reason I didn't list here.

You've read this entire monstrosity. You deserve a medal.