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dtdave

45 / M / Gay / Single

New York, New York

His Details

Last Online
May 20
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m).
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other but not too serious about it
Sign
Libra and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from college/university
Job
Computer / Hardware / Software
Income
Rather not say
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Pets
Likes dogs and dislikes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Most profiles are written to portray their author as significantly more attractive, witty, intelligent and charming than the actual person is in real life. This is also one of those profiles, so in order to maintain the illusion you should probably not send me an email or try to meet me in person. ;-)

We were all raised on the fairy tale where Cinderella gets her handsome prince and they live happily ever after. Over the years most of us have had the chance to play the role of the prince, and sometimes even Cinderella, but the happily ever after part is harder to find. I don’t know what happily ever after looks like for me, but I’m pretty sure it won’t be as described in the fairy tales. As much as I love the idea of happily ever after and till death do us part, I’ve come to realize that long lasting relationships can have many different outward appearances. The one thing they do have in common is that those involved are committed to the relationship and that the individuals value the relationship as much, if not more, as they value their individual existence.

I love my job and I spend a lot of time at work, but it doesn’t keep me warm on cold winter nights and I can’t take it to the theatre or on vacations. (Okay, well maybe with my phone I could do the last two, but you get the idea)

I do have a physical ideal, but a little attraction goes a long way when there’s emotional chemistry. Personality really does count for more in the end but I typically like friendly, outgoing, fit guys. And I do admit that I am especially partial to thin, furry guys with dark hair--but nothing's set in stone.

I'm a morning person, but not one of those crazy ones who have to get up at 5 AM every day. I work a fairly regular schedule during the week and usually don't vary too much from that on the weekend. I can stay out late on a weekend and some cold winter mornings I could stay curled up with someone in bed until noon, but that's the exception rather than the rule. The only reason this is important is that if you're closing the bars at 4 AM every night then we're basically living in different timezones.

I can talk about about science, religion, politics, theatre and world events (if I haven’t been too busy at work and have caught up with the news in the last day or two). I can’t talk about celebrity gossip, real housewives or Lady Gaga’s latest single (though I do like her music). I know a lot, and I also know there's a lot I don’t know. I know sometimes I’m wrong. I suppose that makes me not so good a model of a modern major general. ;-)

My interests range from reading to theatre to discussing religion...and include just hanging out with friends, weightlifting, rollerblading, computers, ethnic food, sci-fi, dancing, cooking, quiet evenings at home curled up with a friend & a movie--and lots of other things.

I collect quotes which allows me to quickly come up with a bit of wisdom on pretty much any topic without having to think too much. It’s kind of like being Republican. For the record, I’m not Republican, nor would I date one.

If you’re outgoing, honest, ethical, smart, friendly and fit then we might be a match for dating or even just friends.

If you have a cat, smoke, shave your legs or have a closet full of designer labels, then chances are we’re not a match for dating.

I like reading, but never have enough time to read as much as I’d like. I like fiction and nonfiction, and read both. I read a lot of scientific articles to learn more about random topics such as “Hotness Delusional Syndrome” which causes average straight guys to hit on supermodels and causes gay guys to describe themselves as “VGL” in their profiles.
What I’m doing with my life
Working with some of the best people I’ve ever met at a job I usually love (except for the times it drives me crazy). I do IT project management and working at a small consulting company which is growing. Besides that, just trying to leave the world a better place...which is really freakin' hard with all the bloody republicans around.
I’m really good at
Organizing, fixing things, listening to people, computers, home improvement (more electrical, painting, tiling, plumbing...not so much decorating LOL), cooking, spelling & grammar (which comes in handy when I'm helping friends with resumes). :-)
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes....though if I've been going to the gym regularly for a couple weeks, then some people say my arms. LOL
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Just read The Graveyard Book by Neil Gaiman. He's a genius. I like reading both fiction & non-fiction. Sometimes I read something light like sci-fi or fantasy like Mercedes Lackey. Sometimes I read something on politics or science. I'll always pick up anything by Terry Pratchett. :)

I like live theatre more than movies. Bonus points if you love Stephen Sondheim. Hell, points if you know who he is. LOL Shows I love: Into Woods, Urinetown, Hairspray, Wicked, Sweeney Todd. Movies I like: All About My Mother, The Mostly Unfabulous Social Life of Ethan Green, Girls Will Be Girls, The Lion in Winter, The Women, Fried Green Tomatoes, Amelie, almost anything by Pedro Almodovar.

As far as TV goes, I've recently been watching American Horror Story and Walking Dead. I'm not a huge horror fan, but they're great. Also...Downton Abbey, True Blood, Big Bang Theory, Misfits, Modern Family, Family Guy. The Simpsons & South Park are always classics. That said...I don't actually watch TV too often though.

Musically I'm all over the board from pop to bluegrass to showtunes. The only thing I usually don't like is rap/hip-hop.

I like ethnic food like Indian, Ethiopian, Mediterranean, Chinese, Thai. I can find something to eat most anywhere and am usually not that picky with food.
The six things I could never do without
Friends, theatre, backrubs, books, computers, music
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Work. Well hey, it pays the bills and I like it...but outside that, thinking about socio-political & environmental issues and wondering when the revolution is coming. Lately I've been wondering a lot where I'm going to end up, because right now it doesn't feel like NY is it...but who knows. For a while I've been thinking the ideal place to settle in the future is a farm in a small artists community that's close enough to a city I could go in on weekends if something interesting is going on. Lately I've been reading a lot on sustainability and it sounds like a nice idea. Having a husband and a dog or two also sound like a nice idea. :-) And also thinking...what would Dolly do.... LOL
On a typical Friday night I am
Either at home with a movie, at the theatre or hanging out with friends. Work weeks are long, so Fridays are usually pretty quiet.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don’t like those shoes that look like monkey feet. They freak me the hell out and I think they look gross. I’m not a big fan of flip flops either.

I also think that the response "Nothing because then it wouldn't be private" is an annoying response to this question from people who don't understand superlative adverbs. So sue me because I paid attention in English class.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like guys
  • Ages 30–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners, long-distance penpals
You should message me if
Anything sounds interesting. If you're interested in chat, friends, dates or any combination of those.