I'm not monogamous, I'm polyamorous (poly). It's meaning is different for everyone, so knowing me is important to understanding me, and the manner in which I manage my relationships. I express a lot of love, both platonic, as well as romantic and emotional. I tend towards long-term relationships, but I enjoy sharing casual intimacy with friends as well.
I have one amazing life partner of three years, and am sadly transitioning out of another life partnership of eleven years. I also date and have other intimate friendships as well. I've always had better success developing intimacy with others in the real world, but have had some wonderful experiences meeting people here too. I write very few people here online. If I introduced myself to you, it's because I read your entire profile, and most of your Q&A, and I found you generally awesome and attractive and want to chat a little and possibly meet. Regardless of physical attraction, however, I never presume to decide what I will desire with a person beyond platonic friendship until they and I begin learning about one another. Personal chemistry is important to me, and I won't expect anything extraplatonic without it.