I'm not monogamous, I'm polyamorous (poly). It's meaning is different for everyone, so knowing me is important to understanding me, and the manner in which I manage my relationships. I express a lot of love, both platonic, as well as romantic and emotional. I tend towards long-term relationships, but I enjoy sharing casual intimacy with friends as well.
I have two amazing life partners as of 2003 and 2012. We have individual open relationships, and date others independently. I've always had better success building intimacy with others in the real world. I write very few people here online. If I introduced myself to you, it's because I read your entire profile and most of your Q&A, and I found you generally awesome and attractive and want to chat a little and possibly meet. Regardless of physical attraction, however, I never know what I will desire with a person beyond platonic friendship until they and I begin learning about one another. Personal chemistry is important to me.