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49 Minneapolis, MN Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 37–99
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Today – 12:43pm
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Beyond the bare statistical list over there to the right, I am a computer geek with a penchant for psychology. I enjoy exploring cultures, people, values and morals nearly as much as I enjoy bits, bytes and finding yet another way to vanquish 6 opponents in a game of Civilization V.

I read a lot, yet not as much as I would like to.

I have a number of television shows I record, but I'm careful to set them up to only keep the last two, because I will go weeks without turning on the TV and I'd rather see the last couple episodes than the first few that I ignored.

I exercise regularly and I've been watching my weight since I quit smoking (Summer 06) I'm not fanatical about either exercise or weight but I do my best to keep on top of both so that I don't have to get fanatical about either later.

I am beginning to form a theory... those things that we aren't good about.. we can get better about if we just pay attention to them.. right now I'm using finances and weight as examples in my own experiment on this theory, but i suspect it could apply just as well to academics, spiritual well being and auto maintenance.

What I am looking for..

I want the physical. Not physical appearance.. I mean physical sensation. From your hand nestled in mine as we walk down the street to intense sensual thrusting in passionate embrace. Your lips on mine. The caress of flesh on flesh from the slow and tentative to strong and confident.

I want the emotional. No strings doesn't really have a meaning for me. Intimacy creates strings. The connection has to be more than physical or there's just no point. I'm not looking for strings that bind, I'm not going to get jealous of other relationships you have had in the past, have at the time or may have in the future. All I ask is what I offer in return. When we're together we take precedence.

I want the intellectual. Not intellect as it is measured by years of school completed or degrees obtained, intellect measured by taking an active interest in the world and what's happening beyond the horizon. Are you living life or marking time?

I'm looking for a sensuous lady who enjoys kissing. Preferably one who has other hedonistic tendencies as well. Age or size, while a factor, carry no where near the importance of what is between your ears. Pretty wrapping is wonderful, but what's inside?

Only one strict criteria comes to mind.. you must not be allergic to or dislike cats. :-) I share my living space with one long haired feline and one short haired who compete to see who sheds more.

I am introverted, extroverted, and passionate
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Less than I could be.. more than I thought I would?

I have occasional flights of fancy regarding starting my own business, but regrettably I tend to conclude I'm too unmotivated to put forth the necessary effort myself, and not rich enough to pay someone else to do with work executing the wonderful idea I came up with.

Feel free to steal the idea for putting out "My First Wind Farm" which should consist of a kit for the enterprising young environmentalist who can assemble three or four windmills, hook them up to generators and plug the resulting current into a pre-built converter box that can translate that direct current into normal household current, and that should plug into the wall.

The objective isn't to solve the energy crisis, but it is yet another way to get people thinking about how they can actually contribute to the solution. If this can be put together in such a way that it has an expected life span of 5+ years, generates enough power to pay for it's purchase in 2 years or less, I think it should sell nicely.

And it can replace all the ugly and useless whirlygigs in my neighbor's front yard.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Kissing, various computer games, sleeping. Fair at jumping rope, hula hoop, and juggling.. not all at the same time though.. that'd be really impressive.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Hmmm.. before I quit smoking.. that I smoke a pipe. Otherwise.. most often my eyes.. or my hair. My eyes are listed as Hazel on my drivers license.. which tends to translate to color dependent on my mood, what I'm wearing and any number of other factors. And my hair.. one of the results of the genetic lottery that I am pleased with. I get a flat top every 4 months whether I need it or not.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Hmmm. Movies, Princess Bride.. I watch it every once and while. Others in immediate reach Lord of the Rings, all 3, Star Wars], all 6, Various Pixar and Disney films, Rudy, The Cutting Edge, Indiana Jones, the last 4, The Mummy series, several seasons of West Wing, and Stargate SG1

Books, Mark Helprin's Winter's Tale I've bought more copies of this book than any other I've read.. I keep giving it out. Alternate histories, Fantasy, and science fiction are my usual fare. David Drake, David Weber, Eric Flint, Mercedes Lackey, David Eddings, Spider Robinson.

Music, eclectic.. My ipod has 1400+ songs on it.. from Adult Alternative to Swing, Urban and Vocal.. ZZ Top, Red hot Chilli Peppers, Ramones, Queen, Prince, Poison, Otis Redding, Ozzy Osborn, Marvin Gaye, Led Zepplin, Kid Rock, K.C. and the sunshine band, John Mellencamp, Joe Cocker, Harry Chapin , Emerson, Lake and Palmer, Bryan Adams, The Bloodhound gang, Billy Joel, Big Bad Voodoo Daddy, Beck, The Beatles, Bare Naked Ladies, Aerosmith and AC/DC (No, that's not everything, but I am trying to fill that last 700 characters after all)

Food, Pizza, Sushi, Red meat cooked Rare, Vegan Fare, French fries and gyros, turkey legs right off the Renaissance Festival grill. Mountain Dew, fresh cold water, Killian's, Bombay Sapphire and Tonic, V8, Walnuts.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Solitude, Good Company, a way to get online, family, my cats, books, lots of books.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Well at the moment I'm spending time thinking it would be nice if they were to clear old answers to questions if they are going to completely change the question.

Beyond that, I think about women a lot.. Well, I'm male and heterosexual that was likely a given.

I spend a fair amount of time analyzing myself as well, like this strong tendency to want things "complete" so having my profile appear at only 94 percent complete because OK Cupid uses this method to get people writing more in their profiles irks me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Online chatting with friends. Out (or in) on a date. Or very possibly off playing a game, currently that's been online Backgammon.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I see normal people.

Hmm.. actual private thing.. I'm more excited about someone who contacts me than I am about someone that I contact and responds to me. It might just be that I'm lazy, but I think there's just something more attractive about being the pursued when you're used to being the pursuer.

While I'm good with Their, There, They're, and almost always get the proper use of it's vs. its, one piece of proper usage that continues to allude me is Effect and Affect. It makes perfect sense when reading the difference between the two somewhere and I feel confident I finally have it understood right up to the moment I have to use one of the two versions and hit a brick wall determining which.

I'm also a huge fan of pillow talk... Let me admit something here.. If there's chemistry, early in the evening/date my mind isn't likely to be fully on the conversation we're having.. I'm getting lost in your eyes, your lips, elsewhere.. but much later.. rest periods.. that's actually a time I'm listening, hopefully we're both relaxed and comfortable so conversation is likely to flow better to all sorts of directions.

You should message me if
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If getting together with a separated near 50 year old male that is openly/honestly non-monogamous doesn't create a moral dilemma for you.

A word about age.. Take the age listed above with a grain of salt. I tend to generally follow the XKCD Dating pool theory.

But, if I list that age range in my "show me matches in this age category", I pretty much only see women at the extreme lower end of that spectrum because they outnumber those closer to my age by a large degree.

So.. I keep that list at a higher number to see more women in my age range and then just keep some match searches saved with the entire range.

You should message me if OKC has given you the More Kinky or More Interested in Sex personality awards and this does not compel you to try and explain them away. Sex is a good thing, liking sex is a good thing, if you're above average at something, be proud of it. ;)

You should message me if you are feel interested/intrigued, I suck at subtle. I require a clue by four.

You're happy texting, IMing, e-mailing, facebooking, etc when we're not together in person. I'm much more likely to drop a "I was just thinking about you" text than I am to actually call.

You can also feel free to message me if you'd like to have digital pictures of yourself taken. I have a digital camera and i believe everyone should have at least one picture to be able to send someone or post on their profile. Unless you're quick at changing, no more than three outfits for a given photo session.