Queer, radical/anarchist/anti-capitalist, poly, kinky, femme-inist, nerdiest of nerds, sub-y, herbalist, bookseller, wanderer, sex-geek, sometime painter, all the time knitter, aspiring homesteader, owner of the world's largest dress-up collection (wigs included), & voracious bibliophile.
I'm a little timid at first, but given a minute, my goofy and overly-enthusiastic self will come out.
I'm head-over-heals for a boy that until, quite recently, lived very far away: ever_curious26. We live together now, and are generally 'sold seperately' for dating purposes. I do value having folks in my life know each other, so if that's something you're comfortable with- awesome! We can all play board games?
Though in real life I happily date folks of a variety of genders & orientations, including hetero cis-guys, I'm mostly on this site to meet queers of all stripes.
I'm looking for, in no particular order: friends to drink coffee with while crafting at cafes; toppy playmates who'd like to give me lovely bruises; folks who want to go out to a talk on radical history, or Bawdy Storytelling, or drag me off to the woods to wildcraft; friends who want to cook dinner together, nerd out on star trek and make out.
In general, I appreciate good conversation and intimacy, even in super short term sexy time relationships.
Also, I just don't instant message. It squeebs me out for some unknown reason.
In specific: spending my weekends at a sex educator training; volunteering at a rad free clinic; selling antiquarian books on the interwebs, slinging heirloom veggies at the farmer's market, and holding down the front desk at a collectively run acupuncture project; crocheting tiny adorable body parts; cooking my way through Alice Waters' "The Art of Simple Food"; drawing naked people & modeling for artistic types; climbing trees frequently; reading too, too much, always; making potions; finding dirt to play- I mean garden- in; lurking at coffee shops & community spaces (ahem *mission control*) working up the nerve to talk to lovely strangers; figuring out how a person feels sufficiently prepared to work as an herbal clinician, and watching all of Buffy (again)....
Always, the giant purse full of books. I may lean slightly to one side due to the weight, but I am never bored.
Also, I have been described as "a slutty gay man in a pint size lady body" and "a wholesome whore". Take from that what you will.
Movies: Any and all cheesy zombie/horror (Slither, Tucker and Dale, any and all Bruce Campbell, that one where Ron Jeremy's penis came to life and started killing people), dark comedies, and old school Katherine Hepburn/Spencer Tracy rom-coms (such delicious banter!). The Fantastic Mr Fox. And of course, Harold and Maude.
Music: Be Good Tanyas, Gillian Welch, Devendra Banhart, Kimya Dawson, Noah and the Whale, M. Ward, Lykke Li, The Blow, Jaymay, Vetiver, Joanna Newsom, Florence and the Machine, Edward Sharpe & the Magnetic Zeros, My Brightest Diamond, Fleet Foxes...
Podcasts: Savage Love, Fresh Air, Biodynamics Now, Madness Radio, Radiolab, This American Life, The Herbal Highway
TV: Any and all things Whedon-esque especially Buffy the Vampire Slayer and Firefly, Star Trek (original series and TNG), Arrested Development, Archer, Six Feet Under....
Food: Anything that comes from a truck! Really, really spicy things! In general: good meat stuffs (have recently re-discovered this after many meatless years), abundant veggies, crusty homemade bread. Also, Indian, Thai, sushi... I just really like food, ok?
Physicality (touch, motion, cuddling, sex...)
Conversation, of both the deep and silly varieties
Large, accessible bodies of water
On Friday nights, as on every night, I often end up naked.
Yeah, I'm that special.
In person, I'm generally the opposite of private. I'm a big fan of lay-it-all-on-the-table type friendships, where you can talk about anything from your kinkiest kink to your particular brand of crazy and where it came from. Sometimes this makes for inappropriate meal time or public conversations, apparently.
Bonus points if:
-You are working on ways communities can resist/heal from damage done by our dominant culture: are you involved anti-police terror work, or harm reduction, or food security, or prison abolishment...? I want to hear it all.
-More generally: you have something that you're completely, absurdly passionate about. People who can truly nerd out make me happy.
-You find playfulness/levity valuable, in spite of-or because of- all the big struggles that are part of life in this world. Perhaps you want to join me in: watching all the Star Trek, cooking elaborate meals from my garden, craft time, finding occasions for costume wearing, playing all of the board games, movie nights/cuddle piles, bus stop make-outs...
-You want to take me climbing around something awesome and abandoned.
-You want to be my partner in crime at Kinky Salon or kink event. Extra, extra points if you're a rope top who also likes impact play, or if you want to beat me up a bit in the hot queer porn you're filming.