Queer, radical, poly, kinky, femme-inist, nerdiest of nerds, sub-y, doula, student herbalist, bookseller, wanderer, sex-geek, sometime painter, all the time knitter, aspiring homesteader, owner of the world's largest dress-up collection (wigs included), voracious bibliophile & lazy yogi.

I'm a little timid at first, but given a minute, my goofy and overly-enthusiastic self will come out.

I'm head-over-heals for a boy that lives very far away, ever_curious26. We date/play/love with full disclosure to each other, and he's my main squeeze. Though in real life I happily date folks of a variety of genders & orientations, including hetero cis-guys, I'm only on this site to meet women & queers of all stripes! (Ladies make me shy- thus, the internet.)

Also, I just don't instant message. It squeebs me out for some unknown reason.

Update 3/13: I promise I will trim this beastly section down soon, but for now: back in Oakland, splitting my time between here and Calgary. The description below is still pretty accurate, if you take out the snow stuff and add in: hanging out with chickens, braving my fear of hospitals to volunteer as a doula, putting rare books on the internets for money, taking an herbal first aid class and figuring out what the whole street medic thing is all about, re-learning how to ride a bike without crashing, modeling for figure artists, and attempting to figure out how a person gets to be in all the awesome queer porn that's made 'round here.

Update 11/12: So, that whole settling into one place thing? Didn't last so, so long- whoops! Having graduated from a year long herbal intensive (plant medicine is people's medicine!), I decided to procure a really warm coat, waterproof my boots, and brave the Great White North for some extended time with my partner.

So, currently occupying my time with: organizing a radical mental health support group (facebook.com/calgaryicarusproject, or email me if you want more info!), figuring out how to grow kale on a windowsill; attempting to make tuneful noises on my banjo; self-educating about social justice and harm reduction using the good old interwebs; trying to meet all of Calgary's radical folk, urban farmers, kinksters, nerds, artists, poly people and queers; attempting to treat everyone with my herbal first aid kit that I managed to squeeze in my suitcase, and getting profoundly excited when someone with a cold deigns to drink my boneset tea (it works, I swear!); drawing constantly- naked ladies! erm, I mean- figure drawing!; trying to discover if there is any need for an enthusiastic volunteer doula in this city; facing my profound fear of freezing and heading out to lurk at my local cafe, make art at Gorilla House's awesome live art battles, and any other fun/weird/random event you can point me in the direction of...

Mostly: figuring out the logistics of splitting my time between here and home (Oakland, Ca); learning how to plant roots while still indulging my ever-present wanderlust; and finding my tribe of queer/nerdy/playful/sex-positive/crafty folk, and work that sustains me/makes me feel like I'm helping create the kind of world I'd like to live in.

Being easily amused: give me a little music, a sunny spot in a park, a bad movie, pencil and paper, a talkative friend, a place to explore, miscellaneous craft supplies, shiny things or even a stick and I can be entertained for hours. Listening: I'm kind of a sponge for information. The flip side is that I'm very bad at remembering things. There's only so much space in my head. Cuddling and absentmindedly petting people as if they were felines. Laughing at myself, which is necessary because I fall down. A lot. Laughing at other people's jokes, especially bad puns; ever_curious26 has trained me well. Appreciating and partaking in all that is absurd/sarcastic/silly and/or snarky, while somehow managing to consistently appear entirely earnest and sincere.

The dresses? I have lots of them, in a variety of floral, old lady couch fabrics.
My smile? I've been told it's like the Gerber baby's. I like to think that's a compliment, something about my enthusiasm for life .
Recently, the crooked hair, that my sweetie swears I got solely for the purpose of appearing more gay, in order to attract more hot Oakland ladies. (Um, that's not the only reason...)
Also, often, the giant purse full of books. I may lean slightly to one side due to the weight, but I am never bored.

Nonfiction: Black Flags and Windmills: Hope, Anarchy and the Common Ground Collective, Sex at Dawn, The Revolution Will Not Be Microwaved (Sandor Katz), The Vegetarian Myth (Lierre Keith), Endgame (Derrick Jensen)[Note: recent trans-phobic awfulness has made me reconsider my fondness for these authors], Cunt and Rose (Inga Muscio), Pomosexuals (Carol Queen), Off the Grid (Nick Rosen), The Ethical Slut, Ishmael (Daniel Quinn), Nickel and Dimed (Barbara Ehrenrich), Delusions of Gender (Cordelia Fine) plus a whole bunch of books on herbs, midwifery, growing food.... Oh, and zines galore!

Fiction: Tom Robbins, Haruki Murakami, Charles de Lint, Francesca Lia Block, Jim Butcher, Neil Gaiman, miscellaneous urban fantasy wizardy/were-wolfy/vampire type stuff.

Currently Reading (in case you're as nosy as I am about people's reading habits...)-: Anatomy of an Epidemic: Magic Bullets, Psychiatric Drugs and the Astonishing Rise of Mental Illness; Common Ground in a Liquid City: Essays in Defense of an Urban Future; The World Until Yesterday: What Can We Learn from Traditional Societies?; White Like Me: Reflections on Race from a Privileged Son.

Movies: Harold and Maude! Any and all Bruce Campbell flicks, cheesy zombie/horror, misc. indie comedies.

Music: Devendra Banhart, Kimya Dawson, Noah and the Whale, M. Ward, Lykke Li, The Blow, Jaymay, Vetiver, Joanna Newsom, Florence and the Machine, Edward Sharpe & the Magnetic Zeros, Fleet Foxes...

Podcasts: Savage Love, Fresh Air, Biodynamics Now

TV: Any and all things Whedon-esque especially Buffy the Vampire Slayer and Firefly, Star Trek (original series and TNG), Arrested Development, Six Feet Under....

Food: anything vegetarian that can be made extremely spicy. Or anything from a food truck, if it comes from a truck, I'm happy. Lately, kale, all of the time, and toasted coriander. Yum:)

Erm.... Life would be rather unpleasant without:

Playfulness
Physicality (touch, motion, cuddling, sex...)
Books/Learning
Conversation, of both the deep and silly varieties
Large, accessible bodies of water
Spicy food

And glitter.

Intentional communities and why I loved living in one but felt like something was missing, gender, how to get more involved in radical politics, are people going to look at me funny if I wear my petticoats out in public and do I care, kink, who can I convince to come with me to this roller disco/80's dance parting/bawdy storytelling/zine making/kinky play party/drunk bingo, social justice, reproductive rights, DIY health, enthusiastic consent, civilization, vintage lingerie and whether or not I can sew a reasonable substitute for a bullet bra, what song my burlesque act will feature when I'm someday brave enough to get on stage, NVC, my dream home (an old Victorian filled with different generations of folk living collectively, growing food, raising chickens, playing music, healing each other, making art, laughing and dancing and kissing into the wee hours), how I should spend more time doing cool things than reading about them....

Nesting and reading; or going to an Alice in Wonderland themed rock opera and circus with my awesome new housemates; spending way too many hours cooking something delightful which will be consumed way too quickly; getting sweaty at a queer dance party; at the movies; playing pool poorly at a pub (alliteration!); at a play party; jumping in the station wagon for a spontaneous hot springs/camping trip....

That I'm shy... which means I have a tendency to get mini-crushes on awesome/cute/intriguing people's profiles, and then never work up the nerve to message them.

Yeah, I'm that special.

In person, I'm generally the opposite of private. I'm a big fan of lay-it-all-on-the-table type friendships, where you can talk about anything from your kinkiest kink to your particular brand of crazy and where it came from. Sometimes this makes for inappropriate meal time or public conversations, apparently.

I've also been told on multiple occasions that I'm A) a gay man in a girl's body, and B) an eight year old. Take from that what you will.

You want to! And you don't mind an occasional wait between replies: I check my account semi-frequently, but because I'm weirdly picky about things I write, I only reply when I've got the time to ponder how I can best express the random things that are floating around my head. Embarrassingly, this means I spent time on that very simple, "Hi, how are you?" email I wrote you.

Bonus points if:
-You play board games, like, all of the time.
-You have a tribe of weird/nerdy/funny/loving queers and you want to introduce me. Pretty please:)
-You've been known to use the phrase "Let's go on an adventure!"
-You don't get bored in thriftstores.
-You enjoy playing dress up, own feathers, glitter, wigs, vintage clothes or some sort of costume, and like to find occasions other than Halloween to indulge.
-You giggle a lot, or take pride in making others do so.
-You read a lot. Extra bonus points if its on women's/gender studies, queer theory, sexuality, or anarchism. Or if you can quote Jim Butcher.
-You've got nifty homestead or diy skills you want to show off.
-You have something that you're completely, absurdly passionate about (what it is doesn't matter so, so much). People who can truly nerd out make me happy.
-You're involved in social justice-y stuff, and want to share what you're up to.
-You want to be my partner in crime at Kinky Salon or kink event. Extra, extra points if you're a lady top with rope skills.
-You like a good movie night. You like it even more if it involves a cuddle pile.
-You want to take me dumpster diving.
-You like to express yourself verbally, and try to communicate authentically, even when its hard. Random bursts of verbal affection are also a plus:)
-You have zines to trade.