I do support ethically non-monogamous relationships, but it does NOT mean that I am looking for a quick hookup and I will not jump into bed with just anyone. I also don't condone cheating, so if your S.O. doesn't know you're on here, please pass me by. It does mean that I believe love isn't a zero-sum game, and that people should be free to explore the relationship possibilities that present themselves openly and honestly without damaging an existing relationship, provided everyone is in agreement. I think it's virtually impossible to expect one person to meet all the needs of another, and that there is a way to ensure each person has what they need to flourish and grow into the best version of themselves, instead of forcing them to go through life with a need unmet. That doesn't mean I am against monogamy with the right person, either. I simply think everyone should have the ability to find the relationship(s) that work for them without judgement from others.
I like to hit baseball or hockey games, play board & card games, go mini-golfing or bowling (most adults use bumpers, right?), throw darts poorly or hit pool balls with only slightly more skill, watch movies and cuddle, cook or go for a walk together. It's more about who I'm doing an activity with than the activity itself. I am a realistic optimist and a mostly responsible adult, but I'm also a moderate slob (trying to improve this) and I'm pretty sure I snore. Nobody's perfect, but at least I'm funny, right?
I have 2 cats so if you're allergic, this probably won't work out long term. I recently (1/22/16) lost my first girl, Sierra, after almost 12 years.
I have gotten many compliments on my smile or eyes, so I guess those are front runners. Otherwise, it probably depends on the setting I'm in.
Movies: I enjoy pretty much anything but horror/slasher flicks or The Hangover-type comedy. There are exceptions, but mostly because I find they have a good storyline/message despite the antics. Movies from my childhood like Willow, The Goonies, The Neverending Story, Disney movies, or Robin Hood: Prince of Thieves get watched on occasion. I definitely think sci-fi/fantasy and action movies are all pretty fun, and disaster flicks like The Core, Volcano or The Day After Tomorrow are my guilty pleasure. I'm a Star Wars fan over Star Trek, but enjoy both. Feel-good romantic comedy, drama, or others can also be enjoyable.
Music: I run the gamut from musicals to hard rock, country to top 40, classical/instrumental/soundtracks to techno. I'm not a big fan of rap, opera or bluegrass. Or jazz, but I can usually deal with jazz in small-to-medium doses. My car radio is usually tuned to 102.9 (Cedar Rapids) or 92.3 (Waterloo/Cedar Falls). Mostly music for me is about the emotion it evokes. If it makes an impression on me I'm going to like it, regardless of the genre.
Food: I like most everything except for mushrooms, bananas and raw tomatoes. I enjoy cooking and wish I had someone to cook for more often. I try to make healthy eating fun and interesting, so I often try to add new produce or seafood to my repertoire. Some of my best dishes are probably fried rice, chili, stuffed pasta, chicken with rice & herbs, BBQ and alfredo sauce--I've pretty much perfected the Olive Garden's original recipe now and am starting to tweak it. I'm a decent baker too and have been known to bribe people with cookies. :-) Now that I have a house I want to learn to grill. Watch out steak, here I come! My steak preference keeps changing as I get older. From well done as a kid to medium/medium rare now...by the time I'm 70 I suspect I'll just bite cows.
A comfortable bed with lots of pillows
What should I cook for dinner tonight?
Ideas for new jewelry pieces to create or new techniques to learn. Wire wrapping is kicking my butt so far.
Why online dating seems like a cattle auction, and does that make me a cow?
So here's the unveiling of my most private public statement: I have an interest in certain kink/BDSM-type activities. I respect those that identify on both sides of the slash but anyone who approaches me expecting me to display submissive and/or meek behavior, pay him the Domly deference he feels he is due, or wants to immediately invoke a D/s dynamic will be strongly rebuffed. This especially applies to first messages. If you cannot be bothered to get to know me as an equal, autonomous and fully capable person then I cannot be bothered to give you my time or attention.
-You put in the effort to fill out your own profile to a reasonable degree. I'll read it before I message you, or respond to a message you send me.
-You are not a convicted felon (some exclusions may apply), axe murderer, or kingpin druglord. :-)
-You appreciate a woman who doesn't feel men should be used for free dinners and drinks and who will offer to pay for a date with the expectation of actually paying for it.
-You aren't an unconvicted felon (again, some exclusions may apply), arms dealer, or human trafficker. :-)
-You think we might have some common ground or get along well together.
-You showered in the past 36 hours. :-)
-You're looking for a genuine person to get to know and you want to invest time in developing a relationship.