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32 Cedar Rapids, IA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 27-50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 6:19am
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
5' 4" (1.63m)
Body Type
Full figured
Christianity but it’s not important
Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
Has cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hello there and thanks for stopping by. I'm hoping to find a long term relationship, but am not opposed to making new friends along the way. Everyone has a unique life story and I really enjoy hearing about them. As for what I'm searching for? I want a life partner--someone to come home to and share details about our days, make plans with, fall asleep next to and who makes me happy just by being near them.

I do support ethically non-monogamous relationships, but I am NOT looking for a quick hookup and I will not jump into bed with just anyone so I will not respond positively to messages for sex. I also don't condone cheating, so if your S.O. doesn't know you're on here, please pass me by. It means that I believe love isn't a zero-sum game, and that people should be free to explore the relationship possibilities that present themselves openly and honestly without damaging an existing relationship, provided everyone is in agreement. I think it's virtually impossible to expect one person to meet all the needs of another, and that there is a way to ensure each person has what they need to flourish and grow into the best version of themselves, instead of forcing them to go through life with a need unmet. That doesn't mean I am against monogamy with the right person, either. I simply think everyone should have the ability to find the relationship(s) that work for them without judgement from others.

I like to hit baseball or hockey games, play board & card games, go mini-golfing or bowling (most adults use bumpers, right?), throw darts poorly or hit pool balls with only slightly more skill, watch movies and cuddle, cook or go for a walk together. It's more about who I'm doing an activity with than the activity itself. I am an optimist, a mostly responsible adult, and always try to do what is right. I'm also mildly cynical, a moderate slob (trying to improve this) and I can be juuuust a little bit stubborn. Nobody's perfect, but at least I'm funny, right?

I have 3 cats. Fortunately I'm in no danger of becoming a crazy cat lady because I am not now, nor will I ever be, a lady! Seriously though, if you're allergic, this probably won't work out long term.
What I’m doing with my life
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I have a great job working in sales/marketing for an IT company, and I dabble in jewelry making, with an eye toward starting an online store by January 2016. (Wish me luck!) I bought a house here a couple of years ago and I'm learning the joys and pains of homeownership. Most nights can find me at home watching Netflix, reading, or making jewelry and I'd definitely enjoy being able to change that up a little with some new friends or a special someone.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
organizing things. I also dabble in a fair amount of craft-y type things like scrapbooking, knitting, photography, jewelry making, etc. I'm a decent cook who would like to learn more fundamentals and expand my repertoire, a very good friend and listener, and I excel at packing due to a talent for Tetris. Actually I'm awesome at Tetris. Consider yourself challenged!
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm a human!!! Run!!!

I have gotten many compliments on my smile or eyes, so I guess those are front runners. Otherwise, it probably depends on the setting I'm in.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: anything by Anne McCaffrey, Janet Evanovich, Laurell K Hamilton, JR Ward, or Dick Francis. I absolutely love to read! Mysteries, fun and lighthearted romance novels, sci-fi/fantasy, and historical fiction top my list but I always welcome suggestions for new authors.

Movies: I enjoy pretty much anything but horror/slasher flicks or slapstick/brainless comedy. Tommy Boy, Mr. Deeds and a few others are exceptions, but mostly because I find they have a good storyline/message despite the antics. Movies from my childhood like Willow, The Goonies, The Neverending Story, Disney movies, or Robin Hood: Prince of Thieves get watched on occasion. I definitely think sci-fi/fantasy and action movies are all pretty great, especially disaster flicks like The Core, Volcano or The Day After Tomorrow. I'm a Star Wars fan over Star Trek, but enjoy both. Feel-good romantic comedy, drama, or others can also be fun. I think I might actually join the crazy of Star Wars Episode VII opening night. The trailers keep giving me goosebumps.

Music: I run the gamut from musicals to hard rock, country to top 40, classical/instrumental/soundtracks to techno. I'm not a big fan of rap, opera or bluegrass. Or jazz, but I can usually deal with jazz in small-to-medium doses. My car radio is usually tuned to 102.9 (Cedar Rapids) or 92.3 (Waterloo/Cedar Falls). Mostly music for me is about the emotion it evokes. If it makes an impression on me I'm going to like it, regardless of the genre.

Food: I really really hate mushrooms, bananas and raw tomatoes. I enjoy cooking though and wish I had someone to cook for more often. I try to make healthy eating fun and interesting, so I often try to add new produce or seafood to my repertoire. Some of my best dishes are probably fried rice, chili, stuffed manicotti, herb chicken with rice, homemade pizza, and BBQ. I'm a decent baker too and have been known to bribe people with cookies. Now that I have a house I want to learn to grill. Watch out steak, here I come! My steak preference keeps changing as I get older. From well done as a kid to medium rare the time I'm 70 I suspect I'll just bite cows.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Friends & Family
The Internet
My furballs
My cloudlike bed and lots of pillows
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to live a good life, what that means, and what is really important to me.
What should I cook for dinner tonight?
Ideas for new jewelry pieces to create or new techniques to learn. Wire wrapping is kicking my butt so far.
Why online dating seems like a cattle auction, and does that make me a cow?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Binge-watching something on Netflix while working on my latest jewelry project, or spending time with people I care about.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I love most people's answers to this because they don't seem to grasp the concept. It's the most private thing I'm willing to admit, which means I'm okay making it public. So yeah, it's not actually private, it's just toward that end of the continuum.

So here's the unveiling of my most private public statement: I'm open to and/or interested in alternative relationships and lifestyles. If you're genuinely interested, feel free to ask what this means.
You should message me if
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-You are not allergic to cats.
-You put in the effort to fill out your own profile to a reasonable degree and maybe even answered some questions. A blank profile makes me wary.
-You are not a convicted felon (some exclusions may apply), axe murderer, or kingpin druglord. :-)
-You'd like to have a friendly debate about something on my profile.
-You aren't an unconvicted felon (again, some exclusions may apply), arms dealer, or human trafficker. :-)
-You took the time to actually read (or at least skim) my profile and not just look at the pictures.
-You showered in the past 36 hours. :-)
-You're looking for a genuine person to get to know and you actually want to invest time in developing a relationship.