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sophovore

27 Boston, MA Woman

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My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Buddhism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Education
Income
Rather not say
Status
Single
Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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I moved to Boston almost ten years ago for grad school, and I still think that snow is otherworldly. I'm a nerdy and bookish person who works with people all day, and nobody finds this paradoxical if all I tell them is my job title. I like it--it lets me be a little bit of a performer and a little bit of a counselor while being paid to listen and talk about cool ideas.

Spirituality and mental health are very important to me. I think a lot about privilege and fairness and myths and intersections, and I try to not only think and interrogate but also choose and do. I love beautiful things and compelling ideas, and I especially love enjoying them together as forms of art, music, theater, etc.

Thinking of gender and orientation as binaries doesn't make much sense to me--for me, it feels like a spectrum. If (like me at particularly femme moments) you're really far on one end of that spectrum, that doesn't mean there isn't one.

I feel at home in spaces of introspection, creativity, and inquisitiveness. I don't love adversarial debates, but nothing makes me more excited (well, almost nothing) than a far-reaching and deep-diving conversation. On just about any topic. That doesn't mean it's all serious all the time. Farce can make me laugh reliably, and I've played at doing improv comedy. I keep meaning to go back to ImprovBoston's "Yes And Workshops". [Edit: And now I've signed up for Standup 101 there!] And board games are awesome.
What I’m doing with my life
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I arrived at a certain ivy-covered institution in Cambridge in 2004, was completely baffled, and after a couple of years, somehow managed to earn a master's degree and get an opportunity to teach at the same place. After three years of scintillating conversations in discussion classes filled with brilliant, elite-or-soon-to-be-elite people in courses on things like rhetoric and medieval English law and the intersections of music and political theory, with mounting pressure to do research and ignore that teaching stuff, it occurred to me that, despite the scintillating conversations, I might not be in the right place for me.

Now, I'm a community college professor--associate professor, to be precise. I went to a community college myself, and my work is deeply meaningful to me for that reason and other reasons. I teach subjects including philosophy, religious studies, history, ethical hacking, and assorted other things. I don't understand how to work and think and teach in only one discipline at a time. Big questions require resources from philosophy and history and literature and music and film and new media and the sciences and just about everywhere. I'm lucky enough to have found a professional role where this interdisciplinarity/short attention span is reckoned an asset-I get to teach something new almost every semester. This semester, one new challenge is a seminar titled, "How should we live?" where we will read things from Epictetus to Weil.. Many of my students are marginalized in at least one way, and it matters--a lot--that I'm doing something that attempts to heal some of the inequality in our world.

I am still intermittently trying to finish my Ph.D. dissertation, too--that project looks at alternative theater, preaching, piracy (as in TPB, not as in Blackbeard) and remix in the age of Shakespeare.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Asking questions
Learning about 25 words of a new language and then getting distracted--Privet! Kemon achhen? Ana bekhair. Jag ar ledsen. Cam on.
Explaining big ideas in simple ways
Listening
Looking up pop culture references I don't get on Wikipedia (I didn't go to high school, so my trove of cultural references is weird.)
Coming up with explanatory analogies that nearly fit the thing I'm trying to talk about.
Learning a new game by playing along without reading instructions.
Quoting poetry and plays rather than thinking of original things to say
Paying attention to what's in front of me
Being obsessively honest
The first things people usually notice about me
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You'll have to tell me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Music: Recent beloved iTunes and Spotify selections include Nicolas Jaar, Elliott Smith, Charles Ives, Luke Parkin (Love "Things I Didn't Know I Loved"), Gotan Project, Osunlade, Iron and Wine, The XX, Fionn Regan, Bright Eyes, Stephen Sondheim, Fiona Apple, Right Away Great Captain, Anais Mitchell, Tierney Sutton, Steve Reich. Latest obsession: Elise Caron. Andreas Scholl's voice is transcendent, whether it's in folk song or Rodelinda--I'll listen to anything he's singing.

I went on a solo road trip recently and was unexpectedly not able to use Spotify, so I ended up plugging in my not-often-used iPod and working with whatever was on it. That trip's listening included: James Blake's Overgrown and Enough Thunder, Fela Kuti's Authority Stealing, Joni Mitchell's Court and Spark, Bonobo's Black Sands, the original cast recording of Jason Robert Brown's The Last Five Years, Atoms for Peace's Amok, Digable Planets' Reachin' (A New Refutation of Time and Space), a Thievery Corporation playlist, the Magnetic Fields' 69 Love Songs, and an album of some of the Child Ballads. It was sort of fun to play within constrained choices. Like a sonnet.

In music, I like either interesting sounds or beautiful stories, or, better yet, both.

Food: mushrooms, cheese, arugula, beets, good tomatoes, baklava, mahmoul, almost anything with lemon or ginger, barely-cooked eggs, vinegar and other sour things, shortbread, pretzels, muesli, licorice, lychee, burnt sugar candy, oranges, miso, popcorn, fresh warm yeasty bread, bagels...the list goes on.

Foods I cheat on my vegetarianism for: prosciutto, pho, lox, toro, soup dumplings.

Books: Books are and have been so central to my life, it's hard to choose favorites--there are so many. Instead I will tell you recent books, not favorite books. Lately, I've been reading and loving Amitav Ghosh's Sea of Poppies, Anne Carson's Antigonick, Nicholas Wolferstorff's Lament for a Son, Victor Rios' Punished: Policing the Lives of Black and Latino Boys, the collection xoOrpheus, and also reading (and also loving) the Harry Potter series for the first time. Latest download (I kindle, because having a large library on my phone is more important--usually--than the sensual pleasure of turning pages) is Denis Johnson's Jesus' Son. I've really been getting into popular treatments of scientific concepts, especially ideas that straddle science and philosophy--Alan Lightman, David Eagleman. (Hint: if you do science/math and can explain the ideas you play with to me, we will have fun. Or at least I will.)

Shows: What I'm enjoying currently: Game of Thrones (read the first four books before the TV series existed), Downton Abbey, Scandal, Homeland, United States of Tara. What I will rewatch: Six Feet Under, Frasier, Twin Peaks.

Movies: I discovered film (like Columbus discovered America?) almost four years ago and I'm hooked. The most memorable films I've seen recently were Amour, Holy Motors, and Samsara. Also, Mean Girls. Also, Waiting for Guffman.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
curiosity
friends
touch
stories
strangers
quiet
laughter
Eight.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Not thinking.

(Edited: this is a reference to meditation.)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
THAT I AM.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I don't know how to ride a bike.
You should message me if
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you care about something and work on it and take pride in it and flap your hands when you talk about it.

you're highly social, a strong Myers-Briggs E (extrovert)--I enjoy taking on a listener role in groups, and I find that I do really well with partners and friends who take on the talker role. (INTP, by the way.)

you want to play games. (I think this is the part where I try to make a joke about "game-players" in online dating and the fact that I like to play actual games--Avalon, Anomia, others that don't start with A.)

you want someone to read aloud with. Poetry, plays, whatever. I read aloud and memorize poetry and other things for fun.

Fixing the world matters to you. Doesn't have to mean that you identify as lefty or progressive--fine if you do though--but being in tune to ideas of injustice and privilege and intersectionality and marginalization is nice.

You cringe at the mixing of Greek- and Latin- derived word parts in my username but like the idea anyway.

You can make me laugh. I think the fact that seriousness is my default setting makes people think I'm Graham Chapman's military officer character from Monty Python. You know, "this has gotten entirely too silly." In reality, I'm much more of a John Cleese in the argument sketch.

you love stories.

**I'm interested in making new platonic friends with whom I might not otherwise have crossed paths--and also interested in dating. Because people are lovely sources of knowledge and joy in all sorts of roles. Although I'm interested in a variety of affectionate intimate relationship structures and ways of being, I'm too enthusiastic to do detached, ultra-casual dating, so if you click "someone for tonight" on that question over in the questions section, we might be better off exploring friendship than dating.**