I am thorough, curious, and impassioned. I try to be attentive, compassionate, and honest.
Eleven years ago, I moved to Boston for graduate school, and it has become my home. I'm a nerdy and bookish person who works with people all day, and nobody finds this paradoxical if all I tell them is my job title. I like it--it lets me be a little bit of a performer and a little bit of a counselor while being paid to spark and hear amazing ideas.
I feel at home in spaces of introspection, creativity, and inquisitiveness. I don't love adversarial debates, but nothing makes me more excited (well, almost nothing) than a far-reaching and deep-diving conversation. On just about any topic, including (often especially!) topics I had minimal interest in before the conversation began. Tell me about your passions and dreams and what you hold dear!
I definitely like excellence, seriousness and intensity in my leisure activities. High "intellectual" content can be fun, but meaning matters more. Real conversation, engaged problem-solving (whether in the form of games or in the form of talking about social problems), extraordinary art, incredible connection--this is what life is for, no?
Spirituality, aesthetic experience, and justice are very important to me, and they aren't separable for me. I think a lot about privilege and fairness and myths and intersections, and I try to not only think and interrogate but also choose and do. I love beautiful things and compelling ideas, and I especially love enjoying them together as forms of art, music, theater, etc. Art with meaning matters to me, and it's often a better vehicle for my learning about and understanding the world than almost anything else.
Thinking of gender and orientation as binaries doesn't make much sense to me. I guess a spectrum works, but I see it as a different shape, more three-dimensional. I do like the Genderbread Person, though. http://itspronouncedmetrosexual.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/03/Genderbread-2.1.jpg Regardless of the shape you use to think about gender and orientation, it's often quite appealing to me when a person exhibits both masculine and feminine traits. "Queer" most definitely describes my sexuality.
I'm in an open relationship, which I talk about a bit more later on in this profile. I'm open to additional connections of various kinds, from ephemeral to more consistent.