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significantsoil

27 F Boston, MA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 4:37am
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Buddhism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Education
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Hi! I'm in a relationship, and I'm eager to meet new friends of any gender or orientation.

I moved to Boston almost ten years ago for grad school, and I still think that snow is otherworldly. I'm a nerdy and bookish person who works with people all day, and nobody finds this paradoxical if all I tell them is my job title. I rather like it--it lets me be a little bit of a performer and a little bit of a counselor while being paid to listen and talk about cool ideas. Spirituality and mental health are very important to me. I think a lot about privilege and fairness and myths and intersections, and I try to not only think and interrogate but also choose and do. I love beautiful things and compelling ideas, and I especially love enjoying them together as forms of art, music, theater, etc. Thinking of gender and orientation as binaries doesn't make much sense to me--for me, it feels like a spectrum. If (like me sometimes) you're really far on one end of that spectrum, that doesn't mean there isn't one.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a community college professor. I teach philosophy, history, ethical hacking, and assorted other things. I don't understand how to work and think and teach in only one discipline at a time. Big questions require resources from philosophy and history and literature and music and film and new media and the sciences and just about everywhere. I'm lucky enough to have found a professional role where this interdisciplinarity/short attention span is reckoned an asset-I get to teach something new almost every semester. This semester, one new challenge is a seminar on love and hate. Many of my students are marginalized in at least one way, and it matters--a lot--that I'm doing something that attempts to heal some of the inequality in our world. I'm intermittently trying to finish my Ph.D. dissertation, too--that project looks at alternative theater, preaching, piracy and remix in the age of Shakespeare.
I’m really good at
Asking questions
Learning about 25 words of a new language and then getting distracted
Explaining big ideas in simple ways
Listening
Looking up pop culture references I don't get on Wikipedia (I didn't go to high school, so my trove of cultural references is weird.)
Coming up with explanatory analogies that don't quite fit the thing I'm trying to talk about.
Quoting poetry rather than thinking of original things to say
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Music: Recent iPod selections include Nicolas Jaar, Charles Ives, James Blake, Gotan Project, Osunlade, The XX, Fionn Regan, Bright Eyes, Stephen Sondheim, Right Away Great Captain, Anais Mitchell, Tierney Sutton, Steve Reich. Latest obsession: Damien Jurado.

Food: mushrooms, cheese, arugula, beets, good tomatoes, baklava, mahmoul, almost anything with lemon or ginger, barely-cooked eggs, vinegar and other sour things, shortbread, pretzels, muesli, licorice, lychee, burnt sugar candy, oranges, miso, popcorn, fresh warm yeasty bread, bagels...the list goes on.

Foods I cheat on my vegetarianism for: prosciutto, pho, lox, toro, soup dumplings.

Books: Books are and have been so central to my life, it's hard to choose favorites--there are so many. Lately, I've been reading Arcanum 17 (Breton), Flannery O'Connor's prayer journal (in facsimile! thanks, Harvard Book Store!), Last Night (Salter), A Burning Desire (Griffin). Orfeo (Powers) is my most recently-finished book--I love novels about ideas; also, Messiaen. Latest download (I kindle, because having a large library on my phone is more important--usually--than the sensual pleasure of turning pages) is Peter Matthiessen's In Paradise. I keep starting Aisthesis (Ranciere) but getting distracted by prettier words, such as local poet Tino Villanueva's So Spoke Penelope, a poem cycle from Odysseus' wife's perspective which pushes both my beautiful-poetry buttons and my ancient-epic-women buttons.

Shows: What I'm enjoying currently: Game of Thrones (But I started reading the series in 2004!), Downton Abbey, Scandal, Homeland, United States of Tara. What I will rewatch: Six Feet Under, Frasier, Twin Peaks.

Movies: I discovered film (like Columbus discovered America) about two years ago and I'm hooked. The most memorable films I've seen recently were Amour, Holy Motors, and Samsara. Also, Mean Girls.
The six things I could never do without
curiosity
friends
touch
stories
strangers
quiet
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Not thinking.

(Edited: this is a reference to meditation.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't know how to ride a bike.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 26–38
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
you care about something and work on it and take pride in it and flap your hands when you talk about it.

you want someone to read aloud with. Poetry, plays, whatever.

Fixing the world matters to you. Doesn't have to mean that you identify as lefty or progressive--fine if you do though--but being in tune to ideas of injustice and privilege and intersectionality and marginalization is helpful.

you love stories.