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51 Mantova, Italy Man


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Last online
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Straight, Sapiosexual
5′ 9″ (1.76m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Mostly monogamous
Has kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Italian (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), Latin (Poorly), Other (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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My OkC username is Duefiori. I'm not going to activate A-list ever. So, in the remote case you like me, message me or we'll never know how it ended.

This profile is long, bordering on verbose. If this bugs you, take it as a pre-selection and kindly move on.

I am: an Italian; a husband (of doublematch); a father of two (boy, 2010, girl, 2011); quite overweight; a math teacher. That's, more or less, the deal.

There's more, of course: I'm a quite intelligent and nice guy, or so I'm told, and a bit of a geek; a happy fellow, young-minded enough to accept almost anything, old minded enough not to need to do it myself. I'm reasonably well-traveled, with a handful of good friends from a number of continents. OkC politics test says I'm a Socialist, which is probably true, even if I deeply distrust political, sexual and (god forbid) "lifestyle" codewords.

Se volete comunicare in Italiano, fate pure. Ma in Inglese ho più DVD carini da consigliarvi. Tra l'altro, ho scoperto che sto diventando decisamente bilingue, quindi se NON parlate Inglese le cose di cui possiamo parlare si riducono di parecchio.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Things are sort of ok. I have a cosy place to live (go Ikea!) with tons of books and DVDs and boardgames; a family of my own, complete of wife, kids and a Schrodinger number* of awesome cats.

The Main Event are my kids; they occupy 95% of what time I don't spend sleeping or working. Side thought: having children around makes me feel a) incredibly happy b) officially old generation c) responsible of myself for someone else. Further reproduction has been called off-the-table, given the lack of space, hands and money, in that order.

Teaching is the job I always wanted to do, and I'm doing it; it defines a big part of what I "am", rather than I "do". I believe that children are the future etc etc. On the other hand, it's not the most profitable of jobs. So, money comes and goes, and our bank account is in dire need of some intensive nurturing, since I'm currently the only provider, because of crisis blah blah.

A lot of the money that we used to spend in traveling is currently spent in just living, so we are limiting ourselves to small-time trips or hosting e-friends from around the world. So far, we hit Holland, England and Egypt; next in line, US West Coast (but that will need some saving), Argentina, Bahrain and the Philippines (favors to cash in), and then who knows: projects include Iceland, Malta, New Zealand and northeast US.

Time ago I was considering a second degree in Cognitive Sciences, but it got frozen. Meantime my wife is trying her first one in IT. We will probably end up waiting for the kids to get theirs. Who knows.

The rest of my time is spent trying to keep up with the world.

*Meaning, their number varies randomly from zero to three, and I don't know until I look. You know, cats.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing and reading in English (with heavy Italian accent, tho).
Locating quotes within Terry Pratchett's Discworld.
Math, teaching, teaching math.
Humdrum day-to-day life.
Reading, fast and a lot.
Humoring and pampering and cuddling people.
Catching blunders and silly stuff that people says*.
Meeting celebrities for complicated reasons.
Forgiving (but much less good in forgetting).
Handling kids and pets.
Logical and verbal skills.
Gift-making on any budget.
Sexual imagination, from vanilla to outright BDSM.
Trivia, about pretty much anything**.
Bridge, Boardgames and RPGs.
Explaining and teaching stuff, at any level of understanding.

I could just but hope to be good at parenting, and it looks like I'm doing fine so far.

*I collected 15 years of silly one-liners from my students, and a book will come out. Yes, really. Well, If the bloody publisher decides to honor the contract

**I have proof of that: in 2003 I won 35.000 € on Who Wants To Be A Millionaire. Seriously. And yes, I spent them all already. Manifold.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That would be my shape, looks and scruffy exterior, I guess. Oh, well, such is life.

The *second* thing they will notice is: you know, I really am one of the smartest and nicest guys around. I have been told so a lot, at least.

The third (if they get to it) is the 4-yr-old kid inside, for good or bad. Very few rose to the challenge, and only one is still managing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I have read lots, let's see...
- As a kid, Gianni Rodari, Jules Verne, Sid Fleischmann and books about ants.
- As a teen, Isaac Asimov, Richard Bach, JRR Tolkien and books about logic puzzles.
- In my university years Italo Calvino, Jorge Luis Borges, Hermann Hesse and books about zen philosophy.
- After university Terry Pratchett, Daniel Pennac and books about pedagogy and education.
- Nowadays: truth be told, I don't read much these days, mostly re-re-read; kids and stuff, you know. But I'm still fascinated by books about how mind and society work, like "Why beautiful people have more daughters".

Special mentions go to: Adam's Hitchhiker's Guide series, Asimov's Foundation trilogy, Bach's Seagull Jonathan Livingston, Neil Gaiman's Neverhwere (and Good Omens, but in my bookcase that's with the Pratchetts), Hofstadter's Godel Escher Bach, Pennac's Malaussene series, Pirsig's Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance, Terry Pratchett's anything, the Harry Potter series, Saint-Exupery's Petit Prince, Scott Card Ender/Bean series, Tolkien's Hobbit and Lord of the Rings. Lots, I said, plus a bunch of Italian stuff you won't probably know.

Brag time:
1) I had dinner once with Douglas Hofstadter and Umberto Eco (the same dinner, yes: five people).
2) I met Neil Gaiman, and drove him around for one day.
For real. Details on request.

Asterix, Calvin & Hobbes, Mafalda, most Disney, most Marvel/DC, absolutely NOT Japanese stuff, sorry. Wrong generation for that.

My two favorites are Order of the Stick and Xkcd, and they also get a small bit of my money on a regular basis. I regularly read Darths and Droids (and loved DM of the Rings), Girls with Slingshots, Questionable Content, Sinfest, The Joys of Tech, WuMo. Oh, and recently Oglaf (NSFW but funny).

Too many to tell. I tried a list, but it was too big so I moved it to my journal*. A very-shortlist: All That Jazz, most of Tim Burton, Back to the Future series, most of Mel Brooks' and Woody Allen's oldies, Disney Classics (most of them, not all), musicals with a plot (as opposed to movies with some singing), all of Pixar (with Shrek, Kung Fu Panda, How To Train Your Dragon, Cloudy With a Chance of Meatballs as add-ons), Lion King (the movie and the stage play), Lord of the Rings (that still only counts as one!), The Producers (BOTH movies and the stage play), most Marvel Comics movies, Star Wars (old trilogy only). If you notice a trend, yes, I go for reality-escapist genres, a lot. I'm very well aware of what's bad in the world, thank you. I don't need to spend money and time in watching it on purpose.

*UPDATE: I discovered, considerably late, that the journal section doesn't exist anymore. This adds up on the reasons why I will never, EVER pay subscription for this site. Match-com crew can suck any kind of balls they like.

Aside from movies, I go to theatrical shows too little to my taste (mostly because of children rather than money). When I go, I like:
- live performances: I remember an awesome exhibition of Japanese acrobatic cooks
- stand-up comedians: sadly, not many seen on stage, but I have plenty of recordings by Russell Peters, James CK, Robin Williams and all the great people from the 70s and 80s
- live musicals: I loved the live versions of Jesus Christ Superstar, The Rocky Horror Show, The Lion King, The Producers

As a general rule, I hate Italian TV (but not as much as I hate the guy who owns it). Luckily I have friends, cable and internet, and I watch, buy or download a lot of stuff from the UK and US: Agents of SHIELD, Blackadder, Crank Yankers, Hitchhiker Guide to the Galaxy, Monty Python's Flying Circus, Mythbusters and most of Discovery Channel, Ninja Warriors, QI, Saturday Night Live, Takeshi's Castle, The Big Bang Theory (I basically am Leonard), The Newsroom, Top Gear, Whose Line is it Anyway* (both UK and US versions). I also tolerate competitive reality shows if they actually can make, cook or sew actual stuff.
For parental reasons I'm currently quite stuck on junior channels: Handy Manny, Curious George, Jack and the Pirates, Peppa Pig, Dora the Explorer, you know the drill. Some of them are not actually bad, considering.

* I consider Colin Mochrie one of the funniest men alive. I would have had his babies. On the other hand, I also adore Russell Peters (see above) but I'd never marry him.

Weak spot, I'm really not that deep into music per se. In spite of the efforts of good friends to keep me up-to-date, my excitement for music has somewhat expired in my late twenties. Recently I reorganized my iTunes and realized it was well over the ten thousand pieces, but mostly I want a playlist to play as a random background, or "driving soundtrack" as I call it. I tend to go for classic rock, oldies, hummable pop stuff, or maybe "deep chicks with hot voices" (Tori, Sinead O'Connor, Alanis, Regina Spektor, you get the idea). Half of my list is Italian songs from the 70s and 80s (and some from the 30s and 40s too): if you are Italian you know what I mean, if you aren't you don't and likely won't get it.

E) FOOD. Yes, please.
Cooking, picking, buying, eating and sharing food is a true sociable and private joy. Any situation or person or country where food is just fuel, is just not me. Please, if I'll visit you, DON'T bring me to Italian places: I want to eat YOUR stuff. Side note: I tend not to drink much alcohol, and I'm insanely fond of water (gas, please).

Note to Italians only:
A proposito della musica italiana anni 70 che nomino sopra, credo che uno dei migliori dischi di sempre sia il concerto-tributo Faber: ci sono tutti i miei favoriti di sempre (tranne forse Dalla e Guccini) e il concerto è proprio molto bello. Inoltre:
A parte le cose citate sopra, mi piace molto il teatro satirico/cabaret italiano. Ho in particolare una venerazione assoluta per Lella Costa, il teatro di Giorgio Gaber, e soprattutto Marco Paolini (con o senza i Mercanti di Liquore). Piacere nascosto: Aggiungi Un Posto A Tavola.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
On my own. Entertaining and/or informative media (reading, movies etc). Trading knowledge, intelligence and small bits of cuteness. Some boredom-filler pastime (e-chat, games, hang-outs). Young girls aged 2 to 96. Activities related to good food. Humo(u)r of all sorts.

In a relationship. Fairness, trust, a small separate space, "anything goes" sex, mutual parenting if needed; number six is, sharing most of the "on my own" items above.

Things of this world (OR) things I could do without, but I feel A LOT better for having. A bottle of gas water in the fridge. My yearly participation to Festivaletteratura (google it). Internet chat. Occasional selected porn (who doesn't). Air conditioners. And I'd want my best friend back, but.

Note: I didn't put "a relationship" in the need-be. That's because my current sentimental life is awesomely happy, both sideways and downwards, and I just can't figure out how I managed to survive for years without it. I'll reconsider that should the need arise.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I'm cursed with an hyperintelligent and hyperactive brain, so I think a lot. When you grow up, this is not always a good thing: most of the time you feel alone as shit.

I used to hold some grudges about how people pick each other, and how nice guys always have a losing edge against handsome morons. But, lo and behold, the princess claimed the toad.

Someone said, in a past life, that I'm not that bad for someone my age. That kept me going for a long time. Then stuff happened, and now all I'm left with are two Muppets quotes:

"Is there more I could have said?
Now it's only pictures in my head."

"Yes some dreams come true
Yes some dreams fall through
And now the time has come for us to say goodbye"
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Currently, sleeping and dealing with the kids occupies the best part of ALL our nights. Before that, we used to sleep any old how, so we tended not to have a special schedule for weekends. Activities have, in time, included: a bridge playing night; snuggling while watching stuff; spending too much time on the computer with faraway friends; having dinner/movie out, on our own or with people. Or, well, sex (but see above about the current lack thereof). Finally, I am a selective procrastinator, so I could be up until (or starting from!) 4am grading school papers.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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For a tentative, and quite long, list of my well-settled flaws, you could have checked my journal, but see above at "Movies". And yes, Match-com sucks. So, here are the outstanding bits:

I tend to be a bit sloppy about self-grooming. Sorry.

I have an EXTREME intolerance to frustration. It's a feeling I seriously can't handle, be it against lack of will to communicate, tardiness, being promised stuff I don't get, frequent lying, you name it. I literally explode.

I have a serious open nerve against inconsistency and incoherence. If it's a rule, respect it yourself FIRST. If you don't, don't claim it is a rule. The same applies to lies, or half-truths.

Here's a big one: I believe in normal, and in anomalies, in the strict mathematical, non-judgmental sense. They define each other, and they need each other. Without the normal, the anomalous is just pointless randomness. Without the anomaly, the normal will wither and die. A big no-no, for me, is closed-mindedness, from either side of this philosophical duality. I constantly need to challenge both. Seems like a no-brainer, yet I had to pay a horrible price for that.

The bad stuff: my sugars got out of control. Time to take it seriously, there are two funny round faces here asking "What about me?"
You should message me if
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I really, really like to meet people, on and off line; so, go ahead. I like to have someone entertaining to chat with, female, for preference, but not strictly. A possible common interest could be trading vacations (we love that). For other options, we'll see.

As a couple, we would like to consider ourselves poly or at least mono-flexible. But, seriously, who has the time? Our sex life is currently severely crippled by ultra-minors. But I'm happy this way, for now. You may keep trying, tho.

Avoid messaging me if:
- you are seriously into religion and can't stand that I'm not. Sorry to be blunt, I respect the need for an imaginary friend, but I consider it exactly as such;
- you are a beautiful East-european, Southeast-asian, Caribbean or African girl and want to marry me. Nothing against any of these ethnicities, mind you. But, apart from the fact that I'm seriously taken, you will have to apply for your visa like everyone else;
- no, I don't want your hidden bank account treasury either.

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