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My self-summary
Even if you don't like me that much, take my Italy Knowledge Test!

Quickmatchers: my OkC username is Duefiori. I'm not going to activate A-list ever. So, in the remote case you like me, MESSAGE ME, or I won't know who you are and we'll never know how it ended.

I used to have 3000+ questions answered, but I realized that most of them were outdated. Working on it.

This profile is long, or even verbose. If this bugs you, kindly move on.


These are my main data:
- Italian, 1963
- married (with doublematch)
- father of two (boy, 2010, girl, 2011)
- quite overweight
- high school math teacher.

There's more, of course:
- a quite intelligent and nice guy (or so they tell me)
- a bit of a geek
- a happy fellow
- young-minded enough to accept almost anything, old minded enough to be skeptic about most of it.
- reasonably well-traveled, with a handful of good friends from a number of continents.

OkC politics test says I'm a Socialist, which is probably true; even so, I deeply distrust political, sexual and (god forbid) "lifestyle" codewords.

Se volete comunicare in Italiano, fate pure. Ma in Inglese ho più cose carine da consigliarvi. Se NON parlate Inglese, le cose di cui possiamo parlare si riducono di parecchio.
What I’m doing with my life
Things are sort of ok. I live in a small-yet-cosy home, with tons of books and DVDs and boardgames (see below); a family, complete of wife, kids and a Schrödinger number* of awesome cats.

My two kids occupy 95% of what time I don't spend sleeping or working. I'm officially Last Generation, and I love it. Further reproduction is off-the-table, given the lack of space, hands and money, in that order.

Teaching is the job I always wanted to have; it defines a big part of what I "am", rather than what I "do". I believe that children are the future etc etc. On the other hand, it's not the most profitable of jobs. So, money comes (slower) and goes (faster), since I'm currently the only provider, because of crisis blah blah.

As a result, we currently spend way less in traveling than we used to, so we are limiting ourselves to small-time trips or hosting friends and acquaintances (including you, why not). So far, we hit Holland, England and Egypt. We have favors to cash in, from Argentina, Bahrain and the Philippines. Future projects include Iceland, Malta, New Zealand, northeast US, but our dream vacation is a US West Coast road trip: I've been there already on my own, I really want to bring my family there, I have a two-week route already planned, and that will need a LOT of savings.

I have a lot of interest into Cognitive Sciences, and generally speaking in what makes a mind tick. I considered it as a second degree (my first being in Math), but things got knotty. Meantime my wife, with her unemployed-spare-time is trying her luck with IT.

*Meaning, their number varies randomly from zero to three, and I don't know until I look. You know, cats. At this time it's probably one.
I’m really good at
- writing and reading in English (with a heavy Italian accent, sorry).
- Terry Pratchett's Discworld trivia and quotes
- math, teaching, teaching math
- not getting bored from day to day
- reading, fast and a lot
- humoring and pampering people
- eavesdropping on silly stuff that people says*
- meeting celebrities (for complicated reasons)
- forgiving (but much less good in forgetting).
- handling kids and pets
- Googling
- logical and verbal skills
- gift-making on any budget
- patience
- sexual imagination, from vanilla to outright BDSM
- trivia, about pretty much anything**
- bridge, boardgames and RPGs
- explaining and teaching stuff, at any level of understanding.

I hope like hell that I'm good at parenting; it looks like I'm doing fine so far. Fingers crossed.

*I collected 20 years of blunders from my students, and probably a book or a blog will come out. Stay tuned.

**I have proof of that: in 2003 I won 35.000 € on Who Wants To Be A Millionaire. Really. And yes, I spent them all already. Manifold.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm not great at first impressions. I learned it the hard way throughout my life. Usually what comes through is my shape, looks and scruffy exterior, I guess. Or the fact that I talk too much. On the other hand, if you don't go past that, it's unlikely we'll click in any way.

If you DO go past that, the *second* thing they you'll notice is that, no bragging, I really am one of the smartest and nicest guys around. Try me.

There's a third layer, but very few get to it, for good or bad. Stay tuned.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
DISCLAIMER. We live in 70mq (or about 700 sqf) and we own (conservative estimate) about:
- five bookshelves (thank you, Ivar) with about 1,400 books
- 900 DVD titles (not counting multiple-disc stuff)
- 50 boardgames (either silly party games or high-end strategy)
- 10 different RPGs rulesets (including Toon)
- countless (really) kids' toys.
So, this part will be LONG. Be warned. Be very warned.

I have read lots, let's see...
- 0 to 10: Gianni Rodari, Jules Verne, Sid Fleischmann and books about ants.
- 10 to 20: Isaac Asimov, Richard Bach, JRR Tolkien and books about math and logic puzzles.
- 20 to 25: Italo Calvino, Jorge Luis Borges, Hermann Hesse and books about zen philosophy.
- 25 to 35: Terry Pratchett, Daniel Pennac and books about pedagogy and education.
- present time: truth be told, I don't read much these days, mostly re-re-read; I'm busy and I fall asleep after ten lines. I'm quite fascinated by books about how body, mind and society interact with each other.

Honorable Mentions go to:
- Edwin Abbot: Flatland
- Douglas Adams: the Hitchhiker's Guide penta-trilogy
- Isaac Asimov: the Foundation original trilogy
- RIchard Bach: Seagull Jonathan Livingston, and Illusions
- Italo Calvino: Invisible Cities
- Lewis Carrol (or, better, Charles Dodgson): his non-Alice math stuff
- Ernest Cline: Ready Player One (a must for any 80s geek)
- Umberto Eco: the Name of the Rose (and the movie wasn't bad)
- Michael Ende: The Neverending Story (2-colors edition!)
- Neil Gaiman: Neverhwere (and Good Omens, but in my bookcase that's with the Pratchetts)
- Douglas R. Hofstadter: Godel Escher Bach
- Roy Lewis: the Evolution Man (little known, but hilarious)
- Miller & Kanazawa Why Beautiful People Have More Daughters is one of my latest passions
- Audrey Niffenegger: The Time Traveler's Wife
- Daniel Pennac: the Malaussene cycle
- Robert Pirsig: Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance
- Rick Riordan: the Percy Jackson / Kane Brothers series
- JK Rowling: the Harry Potter cycle
- Antoine de Saint-Exupery: le Petit Prince
- Orson Scott Card: the Ender/Bean series
- JRR Tolkien: the Hobbit and the Lord of the Rings

I am a Terry Pratchett's orphan. RIP, Sir pTerry, and have fun with Douglas Adams and Graham Chapman.

Brag time:
1) On a memorable night I had dinner with Douglas Hofstadter and Umberto Eco.
2) I met Neil Gaiman and Boris Spasski once, and drove them around for one day.

For real. Details on request.

I have a bookshelf of them, with the complete collections of Asterix, Calvin & Hobbes, Lucky Luke, Mafalda, Tintin.
I like most Disney, most Marvel/DC (before they became a cheap-thrill soap-opera), absolutely NOT Japanese stuff, sorry. Wrong generation for that.

My two favorites are Order of the Stick and xkcd, and they also get a small bit of my money on a regular basis. I regularly read Darths and Droids (and loved DM of the Rings), Girls with Slingshots, Questionable Content, Sinfest, The Joys of Tech, WuMo. Oh, and recently Oglaf (NSFW but funny).

Too many to tell. A very-shortlist:
- my long lasting favorite All That Jazz; my most recent favorite The Congress (if you don't like either of them, chances for us to be friends lower a bit)
- most of Tim Burton
- most of Mel Brooks' and Woody Allen's oldies
- Baz Luhrman old trilogy: Ballroom, Romeo+Juliet, Moulin Rouge
- a choice of musicals: Seven Brides for Seven Brothers, The Sound of Music, Jesus Christ Superstar, A Chorus Line, Hairspray, Rent
- The Blues Brothers, of course
- The Rocky Horror Picture Show, of course
- most cult movies from the 80s (but they forgot Big Trouble in Little China)
- some selected world-famous Italian movies: Mediterraneo, The Postman, Cinema Paradiso, Life is Beautiful; see below for less world famous
- Disney Classics (most of them, not all)
- any Pixar movie of your choice
- other CGI cartoons: Shrek, Kung Fu Panda, How To Train Your Dragon, Cloudy With a Chance of Meatball are all great franchises; Ice Age and Madagascar are, frankly, not
- The Lion King (the movie and the stage play)
- The Producers (BOTH movies and the stage play)
- Back to the Future and Indiana Jones collections
- The Lord of the Rings (that still only counts as one!). And concerning The Hobbit... well, go check The Tolkien Edit
- most Marvel Comics movies, and eager for a total reunion of the legal rights
- not most DC Comics movies, apart from the recent Batman trilogy, which rocks
- Star Wars (old trilogy only - or maybe The Machete Order)
- The Matrix (too bad they never made any sequels)

If you notice a trend, yes, I go for reality-escapist genres, a lot. I'm very well aware of what's bad in the world. I don't need to spend money and time in watching it on purpose, thank you.

We are responsible downloaders: we test and, if we like, we buy. But our backlog of downloaded-yet-unwatched movies has reached critical status.

I go to theater shows way less than I used to (mostly because of children, rather than money). When I go, I like:
- stand-up comedians: sadly, not many seen on stage, but I have plenty of recordings by Russell Peters, James CK, Robin Williams and all the great people from the 70s and 80s
- live musicals: I loved the live versions of Jesus Christ Superstar, The Rocky Horror Show, The Lion King, The Producers
- live performances: I remember an awesome exhibition of Japanese acrobatic cooks

As a rule, I don't care for Italian TV. Luckily I have friends, cable and internet, and I watch, buy or download a lot of stuff from the UK and US, such as:
- Agents of SHIELD
- Blackadder
- Crank Yankers
- The Hitchhiker Guide to the Galaxy (UK TV series)
- Monty Python's Flying Circus
- The Muppet Show (high hopes for the next incarnation)
- Mythbusters
- Top Gear (yes, Clarkson sometimes is a douche; and?)
- Ninja Warriors (go Makoto Nagano!)
- Saturday Night Live (specially the 70s and the 90s)
- Stepehen Fry's QI (a must for any trivia lover)
- The Big Bang Theory (I basically am Leonard)
- The Newsroom
- Whose Line is it Anyway.* (both UK and US versions).

I love documentaries of all sorts; history and astronomy and nature are favorite. Also, if you consider it TV, any TED Talks.

On the contrary, I HATE wannabe documentaries, the likes of "Hey, look at what I'm eating" or "Hey, look at what I'm selling" or "Hey, look, a car". Sadly, this is two-thirds of Discovery, NatGeo or History Channel at this time.

I loathe and despise reality TV; I can tolerate competitive shows if they actually can make, cook or sew actual stuff, or anything with Tim Gunn in it. Our absolute favorite is Junior Masterchef Australia (Australia, yes; I can explain, if asked).

For parental reasons I'm frequantly stuck on junior channels. You know the drill: Handy Manny, Curious George, Jack and the Pirates, Peppa Pig, Dora the Explorer, Paw Patrol. Some of them are not actually bad, considering.

See above in "Movies" about our backlog of yet-untouched TV stuff.

* I consider Colin Mochrie one of the funniest men alive. I would have had his babies. On the other hand, I also adore Russell Peters but I'd never marry him.

Weak spot, I'm really not that deep into music per se. In spite of the efforts of good friends to keep me up-to-date, my excitement for music has somewhat expired in my late twenties. Recently I reorganized my iTunes and realized it was well over the ten thousand pieces, but mostly I want a playlist to play as a random background, or "driving soundtrack" as I call it. I tend to go for classic rock, oldies, hummable pop stuff, "weird chicks with hot voices" (Tori Amos, Sinead O'Connor, Alanis, Regina Spektor, you get the idea), some interesting ethnic or classical or plain weird.

Half of my list is Italian songs from the 60s, 70s and 80s (and some from the 30s-to-50s too): if you are Italian you know what I mean, if you aren't you don't and likely won't get it.

E) FOOD. Yes, please.
Cooking, picking, buying, eating and sharing food is a true sociable and private joy. Any situation or person or country where food is just fuel, is just not me. Please, if I'll visit you, DON'T bring me to Italian places: I want to eat YOUR stuff. Side note: I tend not to drink much alcohol, and I'm insanely fond of water (gas, please) and juices.


Amici Miei, Don Camillo, quasi tutto Nichetti (specialmente Stefano Quantestorie), Radiofreccia.
Confesso "Tutti gli uomini del deficiente", e sì, è un film cretino

Mi piaceva molto Stefano Benni (la produzione recente molto meno). Don Camillo di Guareschi. Cent'Anni di Roncofritto di Paolo Cevoli (provatelo!)

Altai&Johnson, Lupo Alberto, Sturmtruppen, Nick Carter, Cattivik e altri Italiani "d'epoca". E un sacco di Jacovitti e di Cavazzano.

Trovo che, a proposito di musica italiana anni 70, uno dei migliori dischi di sempre sia il concerto-tributo Faber: ci sono tutti i miei favoriti di sempre (tranne forse Dalla e Guccini) e il concerto è proprio molto bello.
E poi Enzo Jannacci e Bruno Lauzi.

A parte le cose citate sopra, mi piace molto il teatro satirico/cabaret italiano. Ho in particolare una venerazione assoluta per Lella Costa, il teatro di Giorgio Gaber, e soprattutto Marco Paolini (con o senza i Mercanti di Liquore). Con Paolini e i Mercanti ci sono pure uscito a cena (giuro). Piacere nascosto: Aggiungi Un Posto A Tavola.
The six things I could never do without
On my own.
- Entertaining and/or informative media (reading, movies etc)
- Trading knowledge, intelligence and small bits of cuteness
- Some boredom-filler pastime (e-chat, games, hang-outs)
- Young girls aged 2 to 96
- Activities related to good food
- Humo(u)r of all sorts.

(I just realized that I listed comics, chitchat, timewasters, chicks, food and laughter. I'm way less "bro" than that. Also, I didn't put "love" in the need-be: that's because my current sentimental life is awesomely happy, both sideways and downwards. I'll reconsider that should the need arise)

In a relationship. Fairness, trust, a small separate space, "anything goes" sex, mutual parenting if needed; number six is, sharing most of the "on my own" items above.

Things of this world (OR) things I could do without, but I feel A LOT better for having. A bottle of gas water in the fridge. My yearly participation to Festivaletteratura. Internet chat. Occasional selected porn (who doesn't). Air conditioners. And sometimes I'd want things back the way they were, but.

Six things I can bloody well do without:
- a smartphone: I own a dumbphone and I'm quite proud of that;
- pointless drama, both in real life and in social media;
- fashion (saving grace for Tim Gunn);
- mainstream TV ("Did you notice how Big Brother sucks this year?" "No.");
- worldwide gossip
- chain-mail bullshit and conspiracies.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I'm cursed with an hyperintelligent and hyperactive brain, so I think a lot. When you grow up, this is not always a good thing: most of the time you feel alone as shit.

I used to hold some grudges about how people pick each other, and how nice guys always have a losing edge against handsome morons. But, lo and behold, the princess claimed the toad.

All in all, I still think that I'm not that bad for someone my age.

Is there more I could have said?
Now it's only pictures in my head.
And yes some dreams come true
And yes some dreams fall through
And now the time has come for us to say goodbye.
On a typical Friday night I am
Currently, sleeping and dealing with the kids occupies the best part of ALL our nights. Before that, we used to sleep any old how, so we tended not to have a special schedule for weekends. Activities have, in time, included: a bridge playing night; snuggling while watching stuff; spending too much time on the computer with faraway friends; having dinner/movie out, on our own or with people. Or, well, sex (but see above about the current lack thereof). Finally, I am a selective procrastinator, so I could be up until (or starting from!) 4am grading school papers.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
There's a quite long list of well-settled flaws of mine. Point is, I learned to live with most, and I actually like a few of them...

I tend to be a bit sloppy about self-grooming. Sorry.

I have an EXTREME intolerance to frustration, be it against lack of will to communicate, tardiness, being promised stuff I don't get, frequent lying, you name it. I literally explode. I also don't tolerate well inconsistency and incoherence. If it's a rule, respect it yourself FIRST. If you don't, don't claim it is a rule.

A big one: I believe in what's normal and what's anomaly, in the strict mathematical, non-judgmental sense. They define each other, and they need each other. Without the normal, the anomalous is just pointless randomness. Without the anomaly, the normal will wither and die. A big no-no, for me, is closed-mindedness, from either side of this philosophical duality. I constantly need to challenge both. Seems like a no-brainer, right? Turns out, it isn't.

The bad stuff: I got type 2 diabetes. I slacked a bit, and then I reckoned it has possible serious consequences, involving my present and future life. And there are two funny faces here asking "What about me?".
You should message me if
If you read so far, go you! Yes, I want you to message me.

I really, really like to meet people, on and off line; so, go ahead. I like to have someone entertaining to chat with, female, for preference, but not strictly. A possible common interest could be trading vacations (we love that). For other options, we'll see.

As a couple, we would like to consider ourselves poly or at least mono-flexible (that's why I checked "mostly monogamous"). But, seriously, who has the time? Our sex life is currently severely crippled by ultra-minors. But I'm happy this way, for now. You may keep trying, tho.

Avoid messaging me if:
- you are seriously into religion and can't stand that I'm not. I'm a live-and-let-live atheist, I respect the need for a (sorry if I'm blunt) imaginary friend, but that's exactly what I think it is;
- you are a beautiful East-european, Southeast-asian, Caribbean or African girl and want to marry me. Nothing against any of these ethnicities, mind you. But, apart from the fact that I'm seriously taken, you will have to apply for your visa like everyone else;
- no, I don't want your hidden bank account treasury either. Try someone else, and best of luck to you.