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My self-summary
I am a cheerfully geeky Quaker who revels in books, movies, board games, and Learning All the Shiny New Things. I spend about a third of my life traveling, it's a good way to have adventures and see all my people.

I love getting to know new people, and maintain a lot of loving friendships, all of which were grown from wacky conversations, either online or in person. I'm also polyamorous, so sometimes those friendships turn into relationships, too. I mostly like having a collection of people to spend time with and love, even if many are long distance and so don’t often get to be snuggled in person.
What I’m doing with my life
Professionally, I've been running an independent webcomic publishing company for the last decade or so. I letter and edit the comics for print and handle the business side of things, while my husband is the artist and author. I've been scaling back my duties lately, though, to make room for learning things and travel.

There's a lot of the world I still want to see (preferably with company, hint hint), so I'm also preparing to move back to Seoul for a few years. It's a beautiful, vibrant city and a great base for traveling. I've been putting some time into learning the Korean language, so now I get ridiculously, childishly excited whenever I recognize words or understand cultural references.
I’m really good at
Words! I love sharing all the quirky things that make English fun, playing with words, and having conversations full of snark and banter and whimsical nonsense... and, regrettably, sometimes even puns.

I'm good at random intuitive leaps and collecting tidbits of information like some sort of demented trivia magpie. I see weird patterns, and it makes me a good person to talk through problems with.

I am an expert at crashing every single vehicle I ever attempt to pilot in a video game. This would be much more impressive if it were on purpose.
The first things people usually notice about me
My hair. It's a perpetually unruly mass of auburn curls. Very Pre-Raphaelite.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food

I will read anything you put in front of me, but lately I've been reading pulpy serials from the late 19th and early 20th centuries. Arsène Lupin stories, etc. All time favorite authors include Terry Pratchett, Georgette Heyer, Seanan McGuire, and Kevin Hearne.

TV & Movies:

Leverage is my absolute favorite show. It's five seasons of heists and cons with sterling character development throughout.

Also liking Archer, Phineas & Ferb, Doctor Who, British comedies, and many but not all things by Joss Whedon. Gotham is growing on me, with the most ruthlessly mathematical shot composition I have seen in a long time which perfectly suits the mood of the show. And I am giddy for Galavant.

I watched a ridiculous amount of Korean television this past year trying to get a feel for the language, and am now kinda burned out on it.


I love food as an experience. It's one of my favorite adventures, because it almost always works out well. Except for 멍게, which is the worst thing I have ever put in my mouth and was a terrible, terrible decision.
The six things I could never do without
My loved ones (felines included)
My mind
Freedom (both physical and in the form of choices and opportunities)
A notebook and pen
An internet connection
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Problem-solving, communication, and trying to sort out where do I go next.

Lately I'm spending a lot of my free time writing. Sometimes about sexuality, relationships, and my personal take on ideas related to acceptance of self and of others, but also about anything geeky which delights me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Interested in spending time with people. Going out or staying in doesn't matter, so long as there's social interaction.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
These days, I have virtually no filters. I speak to strangers as though we're the best of friends, confide whatever comes to mind, and am truly interested in whatever someone else wants to share. I don't much see a point in being reticent. However, being open isn't the same thing as being connected, that still takes time.
You should message me if
You're curious, and want to ask an interesting question and then converse about a variety of subjects, hopefully becoming good friends in the process.

If I already sent you a nosy question, it's because I'm genuinely interested in your answer and in getting to know you and am offering you an opening to converse with me like a real human being. I am sometimes annoyingly personal with my questions, because I routinely forget that normal humans do have filters. On the other hand, I am a very safe person to discuss personal things with, so please consider answering anyway.

Please DO NOT message me if you can't respect the difference between polyamorous and promiscuous. I am not interested in disposable relationships of any variety, and I don't ever sleep with people I'm not already emotionally close with.