Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am a cheerfully geeky Quaker
gal. I love books
, board games
, and webcomics
, and I spend almost all
of my time attached to the internet. I am a sucker for strong
design, and when I drive past old houses I am gripped with a
nigh-irresistable urge to go poke around their insidey parts and
see how they're put together.
I’m a very social creature and enjoy loving generously, so I tend
to develop a lot of intimate friendships. I like having a
collection of people to spend time with and love, even if many are
long distance and so don’t often get to be snuggled in
I am also polyamorous
, but it’s less common
for me to develop a sufficiently strong attraction to someone to
move the relationship beyond friendship. When it happens it’s
lovely, when it doesn’t, it’s still lovely.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm preparing for a move to Seoul, South Korea for a few years
starting in early spring of 2016. I've been putting a lot of time
lately into learning the Korean language
about the culture, and I get ridiculously excited whenever I
recognize words or understand cultural references.
Professionally, I own an independent webcomic studio/publishing
company. I letter and edit the comics for print and handle the
business side of things, and my husband is the artist and
I appear to be spending a lot of my free time blogging, mostly
about issues related to acceptance of self and of others.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Words! I love English, and I enjoy sharing all the quirky things
that make it fun. I'm an editor, so it's really rewarding for me to
help someone bring out the potential in their writing. Words are
important to me, they're part of my family culture (the last four
generations are published authors). Snark is also part of my family
culture, and that too is immediately obvious.
I'm good at random intuitive leaps and collecting tidbits of
information like some sort of demented trivia magpie. I do pattern
recognition and spatial thinking by nature, so I look at something
and immediately have an insight about it, and then I have to sit
back and figure out why that's what I came up with. This can be
confusing for other people, if they don't know that the intuitive
leap came first, but it also makes me really good at seeing through
I have expert level skills in crashing every single vehicle I ever
attempt to pilot in a video game. This would be much more
impressive if it were on purpose.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My hair is a perpetually unruly mass of auburn curls. Think
Pre-Raphaelite, it's a comparison that's been made more than once.
Also when I go a long time without coloring, you can see that I
have a white shock at my hairline, just like a badass comic book
Good or bad, people also usually notice my honesty.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Georgette Heyer
, Terry Pratchett
, Kevin Hearne
I also love standalone works of fiction, the kind of book that
makes you laugh, and think, and glad you've read it. In truth, I
will read anything you put in front of me, but lately I've been
reading pulpy serials from the early 20th century. Arsène Lupin
TV & Movies: Leverage is my all time favorite show, it's five
seasons of heists and cons with sterling character development
Also love Phineas & Ferb, Doctor Who, British comedies, and of
course many things by Joss Whedon. I watched a ridiculous amount of
Korean television this past year, because I'm trying to get a feel
for the language.
Lately I've really been enjoying Gotham, which has the most
ruthlessly mathematical shot composition I have seen in a long
time, though that also perfectly suits the mood of the show.
Food: Despite my ridiculously small stomach capacity, I love food
as an experience. It's one of my favorite adventures, because it
almost always works out well. Except for 멍게, which is the worst
thing I have ever put in my mouth and was a terrible, terrible
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My loved ones (felines included)
Freedom (both physical and in the form of choices and
A notebook and pen
An internet connection
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Problem-solving, communication, and trying to sort out where do I
go from here.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Interested in spending time with people. Going out or staying in
doesn't matter, so long as there's social interaction. In person,
because one can only spend so much time attached to the internet.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I live most of my life like an open book, but it doesn't come
naturally. I decided a long time ago that my deeply private nature
wasn't actually good for me and made a conscious effort to change
how I relate to people.
You should message me if
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You're curious, and want to ask an interesting question and then
converse about a variety of subjects, hopefully becoming friends in
If I already sent you a nosy question, it's because I'm genuinely
interested in your answer and in getting to know you and am
offering you an opportunity to converse like a real human being. I
usually ask about whatever seems most important to you, and when
people write to me I look for questions asked in a similar
If you can't be bothered to read my profile before talking to me, I
will not bother to answer you. Also please DO NOT message me if you
don't respect the difference between polyamorous and promiscuous. I
am not interested in disposable relationships of any variety.
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