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31 Seoul, South Korea Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 28–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 6:51pm
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
5' 3" (1.60m)
Body Type
Other and laughing about it
Dropped out of University
Doesn’t want kids
Has cats
English (Fluently), Korean (Somewhat), Japanese (Somewhat), French (Somewhat), Sign Language (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am a cheerfully geeky Quaker gal. I love books, movies, board games, and webcomics, and I spend almost all of my time attached to the internet. I am a sucker for strong design, and when I drive past old houses I am gripped with a nigh-irresistable urge to go poke around their insidey parts and see how they're put together.

I am polyamorous and in an open marriage. This means I can have more than one romantic relationship at a time, and my husband is supportive of my freedom. I do love my husband dearly, but I'd still like to develop one or two more committed relationships. I like having a collection of people to spend time with and love.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm preparing for a long term move to South Korea starting in early spring of 2016. I've been putting a lot of time lately into learning the Korean language and learning about the culture, and I get ridiculously excited whenever I recognize words or understand cultural references.

Professionally, I own an independent webcomic studio/publishing company. I letter and edit the comics for print and handle the business side of things, and my husband is the artist and author.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Words! I love English, and I enjoy sharing all the quirky things that make it fun. I'm an editor, so it's really rewarding for me to help someone bring out the potential in their writing. Words are important to me, they're part of my family culture (the last four generations are published authors). Snark is also part of my family culture, and that too is immediately obvious.

I'm good at random intuitive leaps and collecting tidbits of information like some sort of demented trivia magpie. I do pattern recognition and spatial thinking by nature, so I look at something and immediately have an insight about it, and then I have to sit back and figure out why that's what I came up with. This can be confusing for other people, if they don't know that the intuitive leap came first, but it also makes me really good at seeing through problems.

I'm also a pretty good cook, when I have people to cook for.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Good or bad, people usually notice my honesty.

Also my hair, which is a perpetually unruly mass of auburn curls. Think Pre-Raphaelite, it's a comparison that's been made more than once.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Georgette Heyer, Terry Pratchett, Seanan McGuire.

I love standalone works of fiction, the kind of book that makes you laugh, and think, and glad you've read it. In truth, I will read anything you put in front of me.

TV: Leverage, Phineas & Ferb, Doctor Who, British comedies, and of course things by Joss Whedon. Korean television, because I'm trying to get a feel for the language. I spend way too much time watching TV, really, I've got something of an addiction.

Food: Despite my ridiculously small stomach capacity, I love food as an experience. Here in Korea, I have yet to find any food I haven't liked. (Correction... 멍게 is completely disgusting.)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My loved ones
My brain (imagination, processing power, memories, etc.)
Freedom (both physical and in the form of choices and opportunities)
A notebook and pen
An internet connection
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Problem-solving, communication, and trying to sort out where do I go from here.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Interested in spending time with people. Going out or staying in doesn't matter, so long as there's social interaction. In person, because one can only spend so much time attached to the internet.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I live most of my life like an open book, but it doesn't come naturally. I decided a long time ago that my deeply private nature wasn't actually good for me and made a conscious effort to change how I relate to people.
You should message me if
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You're curious, and want to ask an interesting question and then converse about a variety of subjects.

I like meeting new people and always have room for new friends, so please do ask whatever springs to mind.

Please DO NOT message me if you're just looking for something casual and short term, or if you don't respect the difference between polyamorous and promiscuous. I don't want sex unless I'm in a relationship with my partner, and for me those kinds of relationships begin as friendships and take some time and effort to develop into anything else.