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I am loving, crazy, and funny
A problem with a number of these "fun" books is that they do not define what fun is and what rules the company should institute before letting the dogs loose.
Rule number one is to clearly explain to the employees what fun is and what it is not. Yes, this is a simple concept, but if not clearly expressed to your employees some will miss the point when you give them permission to have fun at work. So, make sure you spell out thoroughly what behaviors are not included in having fun. For example, fun is not telling jokes, engaging in pranks, and teasing coworkers. In other words, fun at work is nothing you would do at a party, i.e., leave the lampshade at the party.
Having Fun at Work Rules
Fun is not making fun of coworkers or management (No mimicking, no teasing, no mocking)
Fun is not telling jokes (No ethnic jokes, no off-colored jokes, no dark humor)
Fun is not practical jokes or pranks
Fun is not sexual
Fun is not deceptive
Fun is not gambling
Fun is not sarcastic
Fun is not making fun of the company
Having true fun at work is very similar to the type of fun you have when playing a sport or performing. For example, think of the last time you were playing a sport or performing in front of an audience. Do you remember how you channeled your attention and energy to the point that you lost track of time and everything else in your life, so you could focus on your performance? Do you remember how much fun it was getting congratulations from your teammates or from the audience? And even though you were completely exhausted following your performance, do you remember how great you felt inside afterwards? This is the type of fun that best fits the workplace. In other words, the best type of fun for the workplace is playful fun, competitive or noncompetitive, that generates congratulations and cheers from coworkers. Additionally, sporting or performance types of fun fit well within the workplace where employers generally want employees to have energy, drive, talent, determination, competitive spirit, and be goal orientated.
What does playful sporting or performing fun at work look like? Imagine two cooks who decide to compete on how many pancakes they can make on a busy Sunday morning. The cooks encourage the waitresses to sell pancakes, and encourage the prep cooks to make as much pancake batter as possible. At the end of the work shift, the cook who makes the most pancakes gets his name engraved on a spatula. In this example, the cooks were involved both in completing and performing.
(Note: the workers and not management should generate fun at work. Management should simply not get in the way of a truly fun time.)
Fun at work generally translates into increased productivity, increased employee morale, and decreased turnover. It also reduces the need for workers to take mental health days. Just remember to follow rule number one, simply explain to your employees what fun is in the workplace.
"What's the problem?" the docotor inquired.
"Well, I'm 35 years old and I still have no luck with the ladies. No matter how hard I try, I just seem to scare them away."
"My friend, this is not a serious problem. You just need to work on your self-esteem. Each morning, I want you to get up and run to the bathroom mirror. Tell yourself that you are a good person, a fun person, and an attractive person. But say it with real conviction. Within a week you'll have women buzzing all around you."
The man seemed content with this advice and walked out of the office a bit excited. Three weeks later he returned with the same downtrodden expression on his face.
"Did my advice not work?" asked the doctor.
"It worked alright. For the past several weeks I've enjoyed some of the best moments in my life with the most fabulous looking women."
"So, what's your problem?"
"I don't have a problem," the man replied. "My wife does."
Thus you come face to face with various problems, if you make up your mind to pursue your own pleasure. This is true not only of those who want to enjoy theri life, but also of those who pursue their own interests, or, who want to lead a 'desirable' life. Then will emerge the problems of what makes their real intersts, or, what is really desirable, soon emerge. There may be some people who want to live according to their impulse or inner drive without worrying about anything else. They think it is not necessary to think about anything as long as they do what they cannot help but do like the artists who create according the artistic impulse. There are surprisingly many young people who want to know what they really want, admiring the impulsive life. But the artistic impulse is valuable because it is artistic, not because it is an impulse. If human beings were given the impulse to dig the ground with no reason, they could say they could not help but dig the ground. But it does not follow that digging the ground is valuable. There are in fact many things which can be said to be what one 'cannot help but do'. Nobody would find it wonderful, even if one can not help but do it, to shoplift impulsively, or to fall asleep or jiggle one's legs against one's will. If all people lived according to their impulses, the world would be full of criminals. Probably the people who follow their impulses most faithfully are senile people and toddlers. You have only to wait to become senile. Thus if you want to lead a impulsive life, you will be faced with the problem of which impulse to choose and which to repress. Some poeople might claim that there is no need to think about anything since all they want is to feel satisfied or peaceful. But they can not avoid problems, either. If all you want is to get the feeling of satisfaction or peacefulness, then what you are satisfied with would be irrelevant. All that matters would be to get the feeling, so you would be completely happy, for example, to take medicines which cause you such a feeling, or similarly, to stimulate your brain electronically. Nothing else is relevant. Are you really happy with this? I think most people would find this unsatisfactory and think it necessary to consider what you should be satisfied with.
Thus you can not stay immune to the above problems whatever life style you may choose. That is what Plato and Aristotle thought about 2500 years ago.
A further problem is that you cannot have another person do your thinking on your behalf. In the case of physics or building a house you can have someone else do part of the work and take up where they leave off. But this is not always true. You cannot say, "As I have practised a foreign language to this point, upi can carry on now", "Please listen to the music instead of me" or "I have had your lunch, so you don't have to". The same is true of philosophical problems. You cannot have someone else think about those problems instead of thinking about them for yourself. You may think that you have only to be told the conclusion, leaving the problems to the philosophers. But first, it is doubtful that you can rely on philosophers. Secondly you have to decide by thinking yourself which philosopher is right, since philosophers have in most cases different opinions. Suppose God (or a most reliable philosophical genius) appears, and says, "The conclusion is to eat ten bowls of noodles a day". Do you obey this? Of course this may sound absurd, but the reasoning behind this commandment might be beyond comprehension. However, I doubt that many people would obey. Would even those that do so not someday give up obeying, if God goes on to give seemingly absurd orders, such as, "In addition, eat ten bowls of curried ice cream along with a bowl of hot pepper a day"? For each person there would be a situation where they could not continue to obey God. It is your own judgement that decides whether to accept someone's conclusion or not. You have to judge yourself whether you should accept the conclusion God reaches or not. There might be some people who are determined to obey whatever God or the genius may say. That would make them a kind of robot. Are you satisfied to live the life of a robot? If you wish you were a robot, then are you satisfied to be a vending machine which dispenses goods according to which buttons are pushed? If you don't mind becoming a vending machine, then what about a washing machine, which works according to the buttons pushed, an electric kettle, which boils water at the pust of a switch, the toilet, which is flushed at the push of a handle, or a dust bin, which accept litter as long as it has space? Isn't there at least one among these things that you do not want to be? Even if you don't mind being a robot or a toilet, that is your own choice, so that you are responsible for the consequences. Anyway, nothing, be it God or a philosoper, can live your life or die your death instead you. What makes the situation even more complicated is that your choice in most cases has effects on other people, and sometimes on future generations, for example by creating environmental problems. We are responsible not only for ourselves, but also for many other people, so are required to make wise judgements.
Are the above arguments convincing? If you accept these arguments, then it seems to follow that it would take a lifetime to consider all the problems and no time would be left to enjoy life. There are two possiblities here. One is that there is some mistake in the above arguments. The other is that human beings can really not enjoy life. I think the former is true. But I shall not provide the explanation here because of lack of space and incovenience. Anyway, as long as you cannot find the answer to the above question, you are in an impasse where you cannot enjoy life. To consider how to get out of there is one of the jobs of philosophy. To consider how to drive people into it is also one of the jobs of philosophy.
�� Do something different. Spending the weekend doing the same thing at the same place can get a bit monotonous. Why not have a beach braai at designated spots, go to the drive-in, visit the casino (without your bank card), have a picnic under the stars, a pool party, a sober drive along a scenic route, or even a fondue of some sort. Chocolate always seems to be the most popular.
�� Be brave. Ask that girl out that you've had your eye on since last year's Valentines' Day. What do you have to lose?
�� Go to the movies, go and have a meal out somewhere, or take out a couple of DVDs and phone a few friends and invite them over.
�� If you are really exhausted, consider getting into bed with a good book. Depending on the book, this can also be extremely entertaining. Video games can also be entertaining, but they're not very social.
�� Watch the game with a few mates, have a few beers (that's if you're not driving) and light a fire.
�� Go see a concert or a live performance.
�� Throw a house party with your friends. This can be fun if you are certain about the house not getting trashed. Get everyone to bring something, so you don't spend the evening in the kitchen. Or even better, inform the neighbours that you will be having a street party. These can become quite entertaining.
�� Arrange with a long lost friend to go out somewhere. Old friends usually have a way of making the night interesting, since there is so much catching up to do.
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