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My self-summary
INTJ. Film. Music. Art. Scorpio sun. Leo Moon. Scorpio
rising. I'm a fiercely creative individual with a healthy interest in pre-post-modern twentieth century art. I like lemurs and three-toed sloths. I enjoy cooking without recipes, industrial design, making films, writing, making photographs, encasing things in resin, designing custom furniture, playing Scrabble, taking things apart, building things, building things from the leftover parts from taking things apart, and am currently making an ARP-2600 from scratch just because I can. I have a strange sense of humor that causes me to consider "Blue Velvet" one of the greatest comedies of the eighties. I am currently obsessing about my next tattoo. I make rash judgments about people by looking at their music collections. I don't like heat. Anything above sixty-eight degrees with no humidity is heat. I have never drunk white wine, nor do I intend to. Minervois is my drink of choice. Or water, if I need to operate heavy machinery. The older I get the more I consider my brain heavy machinery. I am more technologically savvy than most, and wish I could see the world in 2.35:1. Fnord.

I am intense, driven, and passionate.
I am cynical, sardonic, yet strangely hopeful.
What I’m doing with my life
Taking responsibility for it.
Setting intentions.
Living my passion.
Asking "Why not?"
Ripping things apart to see how and why they work.
Designing and making new things.
Modifying old things--everything old is new again.
Making films.
Making photographs.
Learning without limits.
I’m really good at
Everything I choose to be good at.
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes.
The fact that I'm a blur.
My interests are all over the map.
I am different.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: not so much...too many movies. I tend to read what I need to for the creative endeavors, films and photos in which I'm involved at any given time, which runs the gamut from philosophy to classics to theory to technical manuals to fiction.

Movies: Yes. Caveat: I am pretty disgusted with the state of American cinema these days, and not too terribly excited about anything that I've seen in recent years. This is likely exacerbated by the fact that I've spent the past year or so watching American cinema from the 70s and early 80s and realizing how f-ing awesome it is. The French Connection? Dog Day Afternoon? Serpico? C'mon. They don't make films like that anymore. Lately I've been catching up on Turkish, Danish and Middle Eastern Cinema. Nuri Bilge Ceylan, Fatih Akin, Michaelangelo Antonioni, Fritz Lang, Louis Malle and Jean Eustache are responsible for some of my favorites.

Shows: Episodic television, for the most part, makes me cringe. No, that's not quite right. Episodic television suggests that a sledgehammer through the screen would be appropriate. However, flatscreens don't give me the satisfying implosion and cloud of phosphorus that tube TVs do, so I've refrained. I've been watching Cosmos lately (both flavors) and am a tad horrified how it seems that the new version is "dumbed down" from Carl Sagan's version, and suggests that my suspicions about the state of science education in our consumer society are correct. That makes me sad.

Music: Yes. Grooving on vocaltrance at the moment. 70s rock. Some metal. Some hip hop. Some country. Love synth based britpop and new wave. Punk. Pop. My interest in classical stops at Baroque and resumes again in the Jazz Age. Opera, meh, all depends.

Food: Yes.
The six things I could never do without
sex, art, music, film, Minervois, good friends--my chosen family
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Monetizing my brain.
Choosing how to spend the limited time on this plane.
Non-linear time.
How to create the next thing I'm going to create.
On a typical Friday night I am
There is no typical.
I am living.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am an open book.

I speak LOLcat near fluently.

I study Enrgish.

I am an odd bird. Or is it an odd duck? But since ducks are birds, does it really matter? Oh, the places to which my brain can travel in the course of writing a simple profile....

I am intense and self-aware. However, call it Mars, call it left-brain, call it INTJ, I'm not the best at reading or responding to others' emotional subtleties. I'm not the best at coming up with words to describe my own. This tends to be problematic in close relationships, and is something that I constantly struggle to improve.

I am not less than a little neurotic about the phone. I miss the pre-cell days when I could be "away from the phone" to the point where I sometime choose to IGNORE my phone because unless it's bleeding, there's no reason I need to be at ANYONE'S beck and call 24-7 just because I can carry a phone with me. Besides, if it's bleeding, have the sense to call 911, which, as a point of reference, is NOT my number.

I'm REALLY good answering questions that begin with "Does this look good on me?" CAVEAT: I reserve the right to abstain from voting if anything empire-waisted is involved.

I tend to think faster than I talk. As a result, I sometimes say some pretty stupid things without thinking. I prefer written communication (strangely, texting for hours on end does not violate my personal ethic on not being on call 24-7) because I feel I can adequately express myself well enough to give people CONTEXT for the stupid crap I say.

I believe it's a myth that a single emotional connection can be everything to someone. We can have multiple emotional ties with multiple brothers, sisters, parents and grandparents, why do we not have the same capacity for love and connection with friends not related to us?

I doubt very highly that I'll ever get married again. I believe in relationships that are sanctioned by the partners within it, subject to the expectations and agreements made between those two people. It should be a union defined by intention, a union made by two independent persons who agree that coming together makes something better than the sum of its parts. Any of the property division or healthcare POA benefits that are automatically endowed by the act of marriage can be handled by an attorney a lot more effectively, and with a greater deal of intent and thought than a traditional marriage.

I happen to be an officiant and do some kick-ass, fully legal, non/anti-denominational union ceremonies.

Most of my closest friends are women. I find that most men turn me off the second they start talking. Most women I talk to tend to share this opinion.
You should message me if
1.) You're smart.
2.) You're well educated or hold an advanced degree from the school of life.
3.) You're comfortable in your own skin, and more self-aware than most.
4.) You take responsibility for the direction of your life and the choices you've made.
5.) You're a scintillating conversationalist with similar interests, attitudes and/or sensibilities with whom to hang out, collaborate, watch movies, share music, write, chat over cocktails and/or coffee, take road tips, exchange recipes, inspire each other, and whatever else our twisted little minds might devise. I'd love to meet someone to introduce me to new and exciting films and interesting music with which to expand my horizons.
6.) You like stories. I'm full of 'em.

1.) You have photos of yourself at a major league sporting event.
2.) Your profile mentions the Packers. OK. On points 1 & 2...it's not that I'm anti-sports...I just choose not to fill my brainspace with sports. If it's important enough of a part of your life to include in an online profile, this may cause some friction in a relationship if you expect us to share that interest. That's one thing around which I've never been able to wrap my head, and can't see that changing. Too much art and film theory rattling around in my brain to make room for a deep understanding of American football....
3.) You consider yourself a "dog person". I consider myself a "cat person". Ah, the eternal battle between the species. I find that people who consider themselves "dog AND cat people" are relatively sane, unless they begin to cross over into the wrong end of the "crazy cat lady" spectrum. But people who consider themselves to be just "dog people"? I'm sure your dog is the sweetest, most precious animal on earth, but, yeah. Dogs aren't my cup of tea; I prefer a warm kitteh on my lap while I'm working.
4.) Horses are expected to be a part of a relationship. "Horse people" don't bug me, it's just that I'm deathly allergic to them. The horses, not the people. Which I discovered while on a job at a therapy horse place somewhere in Ozaukee County. Holy. Mother. Of. God. I have NEVER wanted scratch my face off so badly in my entire LIFE. My doctor advised me to take five Claritin and have some keep an eye on me for dehydration so I could make it through the workday. That was just marginally better.
5.) You have EVER used the term "furkids". That just wigs me the f*%& out.
6.) Your Christian faith gets a mention in your profile, is one of the things you can't live without, or is featured in your screen name (Side Note: I'm sure ilovejesus3 is a great person, but WTF. ilovejesus1 and ilovejesus2 were already taken as screen names? O_o )
7.) You misplace apostrophe's [sic] in you're [sic] profile and don't know the difference between homophones and homonyms.
8.) You have grammar and spelling errors in a document you've had a chance to review and craft and correct over time.
9.) Your profile includes something like, oh, say, this: "I am a smart, driven independant woman..I am outgoin, open n honest n I stay real 100 percent of the time..I am spontanious n adventurous have a sense of humor n luv to laugh.." WTF. Where do I start. Two obvious spelling errors: INDEPENDENT and SPONTANEOUS. Outgoin; OK, I'll willing to call that a stylistic choice, but see #4. Missing apostrophes are misplaced. Or, shall I say missin'. "n" is not a word. I'm pretty certain that's not what they're talking about when they refer to "the 'n' word" and it's used 4 times. "Luv?" I can't imagine a context in which that's acceptable. If this person contacted me based on "You should message me if... #1", by the 6th word of your profile, you've negated the very reason you're contacting me. This, of course, can cross reference back to my Private Confessions. When men talk, I can barely make it past word 4.
10.) Your response to "I spend a lot of time thinking about..." is "I try not to." Seriously? Ugh.
11.) You have a picture of yourself shirtless and holding a fish in your profile.
12.) You have a picture of yourself holding anything dead in your hands for that matter. EXCEPTION: You're a performance artist and you have a link to the video.