I am an open book.
I speak LOLcat
I study Enrgish
I am intense and self-aware. However, call it Mars, call it
left-brain, call it INTJ, I'm not the best at reading or responding
to others' emotional subtleties. I'm not the best at coming up with
words to describe my own. This tends to be problematic in close
relationships, and is something that I constantly struggle to
I am not less than a little neurotic about the phone. I miss the
pre-cell days when I could be "away from the phone" to the point
where I sometime choose to IGNORE my phone because unless it's
bleeding, there's no reason I need to be at ANYONE'S beck and call
24-7 just because I can carry a phone with me. Besides, if it's
bleeding, have the sense to call 911, which, as a point of
reference, is NOT my number.
I'm REALLY good answering questions that begin with "Does this look
good on me?" CAVEAT: I reserve the right to abstain from voting if
anything empire-waisted is involved.
I tend to think faster than I talk. As a result, I sometimes say
some pretty stupid things without thinking. I prefer written
communication (strangely, texting for hours on end does not violate
my personal ethic on not being on call 24-7) because I feel I can
adequately express myself well enough to give people CONTEXT for
the stupid crap I say.
I prefer non-monogamy because I believe it's a myth that a single
emotional connection can be everything to someone. We can have
multiple emotional ties with multiple brothers, sisters, parents
and grandparents, why do we not have the same capacity for love and
connection with people not related to us?
I doubt very highly that I'll ever get married again. I believe in
relationships that are sanctioned by the partners within it,
subject to the expectations and agreements made between those two
people. It should be a union defined by intention, a union made by
two independent persons who agree that coming together makes
something better than the sum of its parts. Any of the property
division or healthcare POA benefits that are automatically endowed
by the act of marriage can be handled by an attorney a lot more
effectively, and with a greater deal of intent and thought than a
traditional marriage. It's also a political statement. I refuse to
marry until every one of my non-heterosexual friends can do what I
can do just by signing a piece of paper in front of an
I happen to be an officiant and do some kick-ass, fully legal,
non/anti-denominational union ceremonies.
Although I consider myself bisexual and am equally attracted to men
and women, most men turn me off the second they start talking. Most
women I talk to tend to share this opinion. Not that they're
bisexual, but that men are a turnoff the second they open their