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44 M Oakland, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 9:35pm
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids

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My self-summary
I'm pretty direct/honest/genuine. I will tell you my feelings, and thoughts, and what is working for me and what isn't. I hope you will do the same. If I am insecure about something I will say that.

Most people seem to enjoy my company and I can appreciate things about anyone, so it's really more about finding someone I want to be around a lot of the time, and around whom I really shine.

During the week I enjoy ordinary pleasures such as watching movies, dining out or making food at home. I used to go to lots of artistic or cultural events and performances, but now I'm more of a participant than a spectator so I'd rather do something amateur than watch a professional.

I like to be physically active outdoors but I am no super-athlete. I ride my bike, go for walks, and like waffles on the porch in the morning sun. I instigate adventure. I travel internationally and sometimes unintentionally. I climb mountains and haunt deserts. I'm an adventurous eater. I like gardening, climbing, and making jokes. I give good road trip.

To me more interesting than what happened to you is what you thought about it, or how it made you feel. What is most attractive to me is successful and easy communication, usually that means literal, simple, direct speaking. Especially the ability to work through problems. I converse well with foreigners cause their speech ain't so flowery.

I like people adept at meaningful or at least fun experiences. I like people who say 'yes!'.

I prefer a committed relationship but also open to dating and friends.
What I’m doing with my life
i work at a non-profit, I am mildly political active about the things I care the most about, I try to be a good person and make the world a better place. Other than that I want to enjoy life as much as possible!
I’m really good at
not doing something just because that's how everyone else does it. changing the way i think based on new information or perspective. admitting i'm wrong. apologizing. keeping good spirits and endurance under challenging circumstances. not blaming others for my emotions. well alright the last one i'm not "really good" at but I would say "pretty good"
The first things people usually notice about me
I am "present" or "authentic". I think that is because I am comfortable with my vulnerability. Brave doesn't mean I'm not afraid. In fact bravery means there IS fear.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
movies: Lathe of Heaven, Sarcasm, Weeping Camel
books: Dune, Geek Love, Barbara Kingsolver

Lana del Rey, dubstep, CocoRosie, the Knife, Krisna Das, Nick Cave

These days I am reading a lot of literature on the biological origins of consciousness and emotions.
The six things I could never do without
I don't like this title so I shall name things I would prefer to not do without;
alpine wildflowers
colored earth
playing hand drums
my emotions, because that's the whole point of it
indoor plumbing, bonus for heated!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
what i want.
and i don't mean wondering what i want, i KNOW what i want.
I mean figuring out how to get it. And how to be when I don't
On a typical Friday night I am
movie & making food, campsite, visiting friends in other towns
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
i have a bald spot

(but, it's not from aging, its from an injury! lol)
i think it's growing back
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 32–48
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you've been dating jerks or uninteresting persons.