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43 M Oakland, CA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 17
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids

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My self-summary
In general I would say I am happy energetic and humorous - or at least always cracking a joke (you'd have to decide whether they are humorous!)

I think I am unusual, interesting and very good company. Even my 17.2% enemies could not say I am boring!

I like to hear about your experience of something more than the actual thing. What turns me on most of all is understanding and being understood by the other person.

I am direct/honest/genuine. I will tell you my feelings, and thoughts, and what is working for me and what isn't. I hope you will do the same.

During the week I enjoy simple relaxing pleasures such as watching movies, eating out or making food at home, lying against each other without talking. Also I will go to artistic or cultural events, sometimes performances. I like to be physically active outdoors but I am no super-athlete.

I would like a long-term relationship but, but I would also enjoy something less committed such as dating.
I can't tell my connection about someone from this website So I'm interested in meeting people, and see how it goes. I'd rather meet too many people than too few :)
What I’m doing with my life
i work at a non-profit, I am mildly political active about the things I care the most about, I try to be a good person and make the world a better place. Other than that I want to enjoy life as much as possible!
I’m really good at
not doing something just because that's how everyone else does it. changing the way i think based on new information or perspective. admitting i'm wrong. apologizing. keeping good spirits and endurance under challenging circumstances. not blaming others for my emotions. well alright the last one i'm not "really good" at but I would say "pretty good"
The first things people usually notice about me
I am "present" or "authentic". I think that is because I am comfortable with my vulnerability. Brave doesn't mean I'm not afraid. In fact bravery means there IS fear.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
movies: Lathe of Heaven, Sarcasm, Weeping Camel
books: Dune, Geek Love, Barbara Kingsolver

Lana del Rey, dubstep, CocoRosie, the Knife, Krisna Das, Nick Cave

These days I am reading a lot of literature on the biological origins of consciousness and emotions.
The six things I could never do without
I don't like this title so I shall name things I would prefer to not do without;
alpine wildflowers
colored earth
playing hand drums
my emotions, because that's the whole point of it
indoor plumbing, bonus for heated!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
what i want.
and i don't mean wondering what i want, i KNOW what i want.
I mean figuring out how to get it. And how to be when I don't
On a typical Friday night I am
movies, campsite, visiting friends
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
i wear crocs (please don't hate me, i will explain)
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 32–48
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
these things are by no means required but they are perks. if you don't have them, believe me, don't let that stop you :)
I like climbers
i like to spend a lot of time together
I like people who are unusual or different
I like people who want to have a good time regardless of the circumstances
I am visually attracted to all types but especially Asian looks
I like people who want to go away for the weekends

If you think we are NOT a romantic match but do think it might be fun to do something with me, then you should write and just say that. I am open to friends/activity partners.