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44 Oakland, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 32–48
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Jan 16
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids

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My self-summary
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I am direct, honest and genuine. Some would say even "real". I will tell you my feelings, and thoughts, and what is working for me and what isn't. I hope you will do the same. If I am insecure about something I will tell you, instead of acting it out.

During the week I enjoy ordinary pleasures such as watching movies, dining out or making food at home. I just noticed the words in the previous sentence can be switched around to get "making out" lol

I'd rather do something as an amateur than watch a professional.

I like to do activities outdoors. I like waffles on the porch in the morning sun so I can admire my garden. I instigate adventure. I travel internationally and sometimes unintentionally. I climb mountains and haunt deserts. I'm an adventurous eater. I like gardening, climbing, and making jokes. I give good road trip.

What is most attractive to me is good communication Usually that means our ability to speak simply about how we feel. I don't require we don't have problems, but I do want to get through them healthily.

I enjoy encountering different points of view. I'm told I'm easy to get along with. I like social situations and meeting people.

I like someone who has a good time. That means even if the circumstances are crummy, you still find something humorous or introspective about the situation. I like people who say 'yes!'.

I would like to fall in love again. But that can't be forced or hurried so I am also open to dating and friends.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
i work at a non-profit, I am mildly political active about the things I care the most about, I try to be a good person and make the world a better place. Other than that I want to enjoy life as much as possible!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being vulnerable and honest and disclosing secrets and asking the questions that need to be asked. I'm not conventional, instead I think about things then do what seems best for the circumstances. I am open to changing the way i think based on new information or perspective. I'll easily admit I'm wrong. I keep good spirits and endure under challenging circumstances. I try not to blame others for my emotions. When I get upset I try to not react, instead think about why it bothers me, then when I am no longer upset have the conversation to talk about it.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I am "present" or "authentic". I think that is because I am comfortable with my vulnerability. Brave doesn't mean I'm not afraid. In fact bravery means there IS fear.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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movies: Lathe of Heaven, Sarcasm, Weeping Camel
books: Dune, Geek Love, Barbara Kingsolver

Lana del Rey, dubstep, CocoRosie, the Knife, Krisna Das, Nick Cave

These days I am reading a lot of literature on the biological origins of consciousness and emotions.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I don't like this title so I shall name things I would prefer to not do without;
alpine wildflowers
colored earth
playing hand drums
my emotions, because that's the whole point of it
indoor plumbing, bonus for heated!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
what i want.
and i don't mean wondering what i want, i KNOW what i want.
I mean figuring out how to get it. And how to be okay when I don't get it.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
watching movie at home, making food or eating out, camping, visiting friends in other towns
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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i have a bald spot

(but, it's not from aging, its from an injury! lol)
i think it's growing back
You should message me if
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you've been dating jerks or uninteresting persons.

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