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ear-not-eye

37 Brooklyn, NY Woman

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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 34–43
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 6:49pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Middle Eastern, Black, Native American, Hispanic / Latin, White, Other
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body type
Fit
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from space camp
Job
Medicine
Income
Status
Single
Type
Monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Portuguese (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), Russian (Fluently), French (Okay)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Let's step off the screen and head into the forest, pitch our tent, spend the afternoon fishing, whip up a feast, and neck under the stars. I've got the gear. Just say when.

I am a funny, gregarious, story-filled extrovert whose life burst into full technicolor and drama right out of the gate (thank you, Soviet Union).
Until recently, I shaped my life around constant excitement and adventure, a far-flung trip or dinner party always on the horizon. Of late, though, I find myself building a more balanced life - my bustling weekdays evened out by quieter, more introspective weekends. I feel ever more inclined to retreat into nature (whether upstate or in my hammock in Fort Greene park), to seek deeper conversations in smaller groups, and to create meditative moments for silent self-reflection. Wondering if anyone else is feeling me here?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Bike commuting year round, building my own furniture, dancing, traveling up a storm, throwing big dinner and games parties, lookin for mah man.

I am a community primary care/HIV doc. My work involves, at its core, standing up for the bullied, fighting for social justice, making intense eye contact, and getting people to tell me their most intimate secrets. Oh, and syphilis.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Gabbin with just about anyone in just about any language and putting them at ease (especially parents...I am a parent whisperer)
Cookin som'm ferocious
Rigging my hammock up to trees with record speed
Shaking these them hips
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Who are these generically-eyed "people"? Just a hunch here but I suspect women notice my easy smile, gay men gravitate toward my dirty, irreverent sense of humor, straight men hone right in on the rack.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Music: Salsa, Samba, Bachata, Kizomba, Mbalax, Dancehall, Zouk, Cumbia, Konpa, anything and everything that moves me, physically. My favorite voices: Marisa Monte, Hector (swoon) Lavoe, Bonga, Oumou Sangare, Lhasa de Sela, Baaba Maal, Ismael Lo, Hector (bachateame mama) Acosta, Los Hermanos, Glen Hansard, Patrick Watson, Lura, Buika. And the list goes on and on... These days, though, my auditory space is filled mostly with WNYC and audio books.

My all-time favorite reads: The God of Small Things (India), The Bone People (New Zealand), Power of One (South Africa), Farming of Bones (Haiti), The Spirit Catches You and You Fall Down (Laos). The common thread is no coincidence...I do most of my reading in bed where my travel bug and my imagination do their devious scheming.

Movies: Waste Land, Searching for Sugar Man, Once, anything by Almodovar, Best in Show, Murderball, Cinema Paradiso (of course!), Coming to America, Night on Earth, Hedwig and the Angry Inch...inexplicably, anything with young Barbara Streisand.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Assuming I survive whatever calamity this question presupposes, I would need:
- an exhaustive supply of Lactase Enzyme
- my power drill
- my industrial-strength garlic squisher
- one or all three of my hammocks
- the seltzer maker
- my indestructible black havaianas
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I've been pondering this quote (heard on This American Life). If you relate to this, you relate to me:

"One thing you, who had a secure or happy childhood, should understand about those of us who did not. We who control our feelings, who avoid conflicts at all cost or seek them, who are hypersensitive, self-critical, compulsive, workaholic, and, above all, survivors, we are not that way from perversity and we cannot just relax and let it go. We've learned to cope in ways you never had to."
Piers Anthony, scifi author
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
If not driving away on a camping/hiking/kayaking adventure, I am biking home to rest up for my three-day weekend (I have been blessed with weekly Mondays off)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My cousin Katie has a triple nipple?

I am a grammar snob. I blame it on Ms. Aguirre, my fierce ESL teacher. (As a gentleman on OKC put it "Ms. Aguirre. Wrath of God!") Seriously though, boys, sloppy is...well... sloppy.

I'm not black, Latin/Hispanic, or other. I'm lily-ass-white. I just got tired of OkStupid's ethnic type-casting of my matches.

Oh, and perhaps this quote from my recently married male friend: "You are an amazing friggin catch all around! I mean you cook, you make money and barely spend it, you have great teeth, you constantly generate fun. But the fact that you come with no in-laws... that right there makes you the perfect package!"
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You don't intend this email to be the first of a long, devoted penpalship - I prefer the "email -> email -> meet -> (hopefully) repeat" approach to tackling this OkStupid adventure.

I find it difficult to summon inspiration to reply to one-line, unpunctuated verbal belches:
"id do you"
"hi howre you?"
"hi sexi cheers from Berlin"
"hows your weekend going?"

I value the art of conversation above many things (except, perhaps, apostrophes and grammar.) If you really want to start a conversation, I would encourage you to use your words (in clusters, full sentences, or even paragraphs), sneak in some punctuation marks, and say something!