I'm a 49 year old man (Jesus, that's true; it just happened). I work in the performing arts. I'm obsessed by language, ravished by music, intrigued by ideas and a sucker for the tactile. Moral questions fascinate me (face it, Casablanca's not a great movie just because Ingrid Bergman is stunning and Bogart is cool, it's a great movie because the hero has to make a moral choice) but what I mean by morality is very different from what George Bush and Stephen Harper seem to mean.

I have a son who lives with me 50% of the time. I'm on good terms with his mother. I'm on good terms with my recent ex, and (I think) all my exes. (Is that a word? Exes? You can say it, but writing it looks stupid.) Friendship, respect and trust are very important to me.

I'm interested in imaginative, open-minded, intelligent, sensual exploratory people. I'm perverse, intellectually and sexually. I'm very safety-conscious (at least sexually; I should be more safety-conscious emotionally). I'm sometimes obsessive about my work/vocation.

Editors

• Rain-in-Rainier

I'm writing, raising a child and trying to find enough work to get me through. I'm reading a lot.

good listener.
verbose talker,
love to argue,
decent cook,
sensual lover,
seem to be able to make people laugh, singularly and in groups

eyes?
Have no idea.

these lists are silly...
Still, I like reading them, so:
a) The Regeneration Trilogy by Pat Barker; War and Peace by Tolstoy; lots of stuff by Simenon, LeCarre, Vonnegut, Doris Lessing, Samuel R. Delaney

b) The Seventh Seal, The Seven Samurai, Spirited Away, Princess Mononoke, Indigènes

c) Portishead, Blind Boys of Alabama, Bonnie Raitt, Dave Brubeck, this mortal coil, Tom Waits, Peter Gabriel, Garbage, (I don't know, a gabillion things)

d) as long as it isn't fast-food (although I make exceptions: Chinese noodle-houses, that cheap Indian place in Tinseltown that makes very sweet Chai).

(besides air, water, etc, eh?)

My son,
some way of writing,
good food,
good tea,
something to read,
sensual contact

Death,
Politics,
Human Stupidity (sorry, was that redundant?),
Human behaviour

Hanging out with my son (I have him on Friday nights). You can come see a movie with us. If you're into medieval themes or tragic war stories (he loved Indigènes and Gallipolli). Or I'll see you on Saturday.

that I really liked Terminator 2. God forgive me.

You're in the Vancouver area. You're an intelligent life form. You're in the mood for a conversation about death, religion, politics, sex or any of the other things polite people don't talk about over dinner. You like to touch.