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30 • F • Chicago, IL
I’m looking for
- Ages 26–50
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last Online
- May 6
- 5′ 1″ (1.55m)
- Body Type
- Strictly anything
- Trying to quit
- Agnosticism, and laughing about it
- Leo, but it doesn’t matter
- Working on masters program
- Less than $20,000
- Relationship Status
- Relationship Type
- Doesn’t want kids
- Has dogs and has cats
- English (Fluently), French (Okay), Latin (Poorly)
Hiya, City of Big Shoulders, I'm back in your warm embrace.
I've moved to Oxford for the year to study feminist cultural anthropology and the history of embroidery with Oxford University tutors. I'll see you next year, Chicago.
I'm always studying which, for the Great Books College of Chicago, means a ridiculous amount of reading, primarily from the classic Western Cannon. I'm talking about the foundational texts of western thought, culture, civilization. Original sources exclusively, which is where the latin comes in handy. When I'm not reading the giant stack of books that has overtaken my life, I like to watch Toddlers & Tiaras. Don't get me wrong, I'm an NPR junkie, I love and prefer a good foreign/classic/black and white film, but there's also something fantastic about watching really big nut jobs after a long day of working my brain muscles. I listen to wbez obsessively, and prefer to have a cup of french press coffee with me whilst doing so. I'm a nanny, too, which I love as a job, but I'm nowhere near ready to have my own little kiddos. I also work as a costume designer for theater and independent films. And I procrastinate. Lots and lots of procrastination.
John Waters says the following about my life:
"We need to make books cool again. If you go home with somebody and they don’t have books, don’t fuck them."
"I thank god I was raised Catholic, so sex will always be dirty."
“Catholics have more extreme sex lives because they're taught that pleasure is bad for you. Who thinks it's normal to kneel down to a naked man who's nailed to a cross? It's like a bad leather bar."
"Don’t let them explore you until they’ve explored the secret universes of books. Don’t let them connect with you until they’ve walked between the lines on the pages."
Challenging the patriarchy.
Literature/authors: Audre Lorde (still picking up the pieces after reading her), consuming grief, kerouac, waiting for godot, bell hooks, jonathan goldstein, amy sedaris, david sedaris, marx/engels, atlas shrugged (if you notice and can explain the weird contradiction, you get major bonus points), Colette, bitch magazine, godel, descartes, lucretius' on the nature of the universe, the feminine mystique, tiffany's table manners for teens (1920's edition), cook's illustrated magazine, sherman alexie, dr. dolittle books (i desperately want to talk with animals), biographies of old hollywood stars, frederick douglas, ginsberg, edna st. vincent millay, margaret wise brown, anais nin, margaret atwood, a handmaid's tale, thoreau, william carlos williams, a midsummer night's dream, e.m. forster's A passage to india, gabriel garcia lorca, tom stoppard, sarah vowell, emily dickinson, c.s. lewis' chronicles of Narnia (not the movie), david rakoff, hannah arendt.
Music (the essentials): the Beatles, Lou Reed and the Velvet Underground, Johnny Cash, Paul Simon (graceland), Manu chao, Ben Kwellar, Vampire Weekend (my 2011 summer favorite, apparently), Moonlight Sonata (beethoven's piano sonata 14 in c# minor),
musical soundtracks: hedwig, rent, west side story, the rocky horror picture show, bye bye birdie, grease, les miserables
"the only people for me are the mad ones, the ones who are mad to live, mad to talk, mad to be saved, desirous of everything at the same time, the ones that never yawn or say a commonplace thing, but burn, burn, burn like fabulous yellow roman candles exploding like spiders across the stars" --Kerouak (i know, totally overused)
"Life's a banquet, and most poor suckers are starving!" --Auntie Mame
2. Libraries (or a good book collection)
3. Friends/family (possibly should have come before books...)
4. My vibrator. Sex, too, but definitely that first.
5. A phone with an internet connection (unless I'm in a foreign country or if I've decided to unplug for the moment)
6. A source of light
oh, and sex. I have the mind of a twelve-year-old boy. (stereotyping gender and then exploding the same stereotypes all in one breath...)
-You are a feminist whose actions reflect your beliefs
-You, too, are looking for a latin study buddy
-You're a redhead, if only because we fire-crotches have to stick together
-You should not message me if you cannot string enough words together to form a complete sentence.
-You should not message me if you think sending me a picture of your penis will make me swoon over you.
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