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46 M El Cerrito, CA

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 35–48
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 2:36pm
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Other, but not too serious about it
Graduated from masters program
Sales / Marketing
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids, and might want more
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Before I get going on me, here's you:

You're a slightly goofy hopeless idealist cemented in realism.

You feel deeply and strongly about things. You have strong opinions and a passion for *something*. You want to share - to teach (me). You're creative and a little edgy. I love self-expression. Be comfortable in silence. Be comfortable being open and present.

Once in a while be comfortable eating with your hands. Once in a while be comfortable eating your own words.

Don't get me wrong - bugging out and being sad is perfectly acceptable. If you don't do it sometimes something isn't right with your universe.

Now I go...some stuff...

I grew up on the east coast (NY) and went to college smack in the middle of the country (Iowa). I love the bay area but miss New England's seasons - the smells and colors - wood smoke, apple picking and maple syrup candy.

I'm nostalgic but teaching myself to purge. I'm pretty idealistic. I put down deep roots.

I run because it's just as good for my head as it is for my body. I'll take the woods over pavement. I curse headphones. I *try* to get in couple of marathons a year.

I've seen a tornado and been through the eye of a hurricane.

what else...

I've floated on my back in the Dead Sea and watched the full moon rise above the hills of Jordan to the east (magnificent) only to have the experience interrupted by 4 IAF F-18s split the air above my head.

In the summer of 1977 my Dad and I were on the Long Island Railroad on our way to a Mets game when the great blackout hit. NYC shut down for three days. It was really hot on that train.

With that in mind I remain to this day a rabid baseball fan (A's).

this too:

I can't stand the sound of mosquitoes buzzing around my room.

I've never been able to acquire a taste for eggplant (it makes my mouth feel prickly) though I love babaganush.

I've mountain biked Nepal and Sri Lanka. I've been all over Europe, to Israel, New Zealand (2x) and to 48 states - all but but Alaska and N. Dakota.

I appreciate BRC as much for forcing me to shut down all electronics for a week as I love it for its self expression and all of the kindred spirits in my 40 person camp.

At 24 I drove from Key West to San Francisco in 45 hours (accompanied). Beaumont, Texas is an awfully long way from El Paso, Texas.

That's just some stuff...
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Being a dad.

Trying to figure out why my garage door opener is always on the fritz.

I live in Berkeley and work (technology) in San Francisco and Menlo Park. I love what I do and get to work with a lot of really cool people. I spent six years working for a non-profit but succumbed to bills and such.

I try to run most days of the week. It's good for my head as much as my body. I like to keep to the woods where I can listen to the wind in the trees as my feet slap against the earth.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Admitting when I've screwed up.

Making people feel at ease.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I've never taken a poll.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Writers insteads of books - Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Kurt Vonnegut, John Coetzee, Jhumpa Lahiri, Michael Chabon, Jonathan Franzen.

While I'm here, I like physical books. I've always loved the smell of the ink and watching the bookmark drift from the front to back.

Movies: Anything John Hughes, Monty Python, Coen Brothers and Wes Anderson (Bottle Rocket especially).

Music: snippets - I can never get away from Led Zeppelin. I love Iron and Wine. Pearl Jam/Eddie V., Nick Drake. M. Ward. The Pixies. the Rolling Stones. Nicki Bluhm. Fruit Bats. Smashing Pumpkins. Wilco.

Food? I have no idea what to do with this on account of the fact that I love food. I very much dig cheese, will kill for some good fried chicken and love grilled asparagus. Being a bachelor means I don't cook at home much unless 20 people show up at my house for a dinner party. Racer 5?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
*I'm not including my kids on this list. It would be akin to saying I couldn't live without my brain or heart. So here are 6 things I'd really rather not do without:

Running shoes
My pillow - I get all screwed up if I have to sleep in a hotel without it. Sleeping in a tent is a different story.
Really (really) good food.
the internet (yep. It's got something to do with my job. Besides, how would I check my OKC account without it?!)
My contacts

oh yeah -

7...ellipses, parentheses and other parenthetical forms - especially dashes.

(Not withstanding my brain and my heart.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
what I want to be when I grow up...
oh yeah, right...

Why I don't have any halfway decent pictures of myself.

Where you are (for real).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
It's Friday night so I better figure this out lickety-split. It will probably involve my pack of friends, a pub, beer and Yahtzee. At least that's what's been happening for the last few weeks (when I'm on parenting hiatus).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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There's lots to admit in private but for now you'll have to be satisfied with this:

I absolutely suck at parallel parking. It's endlessly frustrating. When I nail it I start texting people about my accomplishment. How emasculating is that?!
You should message me if
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I'm out of creativity.

Message me if you want to get a drink and chat about this, that and the other thing while sizing each other up.