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46 El Cerrito, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 39–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 1:54pm
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Other, but not too serious about it
Graduated from masters program
Sales / Marketing
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Has kids, and might want more
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Before I get going on me, here's you:

You're a slightly goofy hopeless idealist cemented in realism.

You feel deeply and strongly about things. You have strong opinions and a passion for *something*. You want to share - to teach (me). You're creative and a little edgy. I love self-expression. Be comfortable in silence. Be comfortable being open and present.

Once in a while be comfortable eating with your hands. Once in a while be comfortable eating your own words.

Don't get me wrong - bugging out and being sad is perfectly acceptable. If you don't do it sometimes something isn't right with your universe.

Random stuff about me:

I grew up on the east coast (NY) and went to college smack in the middle of the country (Iowa). I love the bay area but miss New England's seasons - the smells and colors - wood smoke, apple picking and maple syrup candy.

I'm nostalgic but teaching myself to purge. I'm pretty idealistic. I put down deep roots.

I've seen a tornado and been through the eye of a hurricane.
I've floated on my back in the Dead Sea and watched the full moon rise above the hills of Jordan to the east (magnificent) only to have the experience interrupted by 4 IAF F-18s split the air above my head.

In the summer of 1977 my Dad and I were on the Long Island Railroad on our way to a Mets game when the great blackout hit. NYC shut down for three days. It was really hot on that train.

I remain to this day a pretty intense baseball fan (A's).

I'm getting back into skiing a finally bought a Tahoe season pass.

I hate the sound of mosquitoes buzzing around my room.

Eggplant makes my mouth feel prickly but I love babaganush.

Sometimes my house is messy.

I've mountain biked Nepal and Sri Lanka. I've been all over Europe, to Israel, New Zealand (2x) and to 48 states - all but but Alaska and N. Dakota.

I appreciate BRC as much for forcing me to shut down all electronics for a week as I love it for its self expression and the kindred spirits in my 40 person camp.

At 24 I drove from Key West to San Francisco in 45 hours (accompanied). Beaumont, Texas is an awfully long way from El Paso, Texas.

I think that's enough.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Being a dad.

Trying to figure out why my garage door opener is always on the fritz.

I work in technology. Most days I love what I do and get to work with a lot of really cool people. I spent six years working for a non-profit but succumbed to bills and such.

A few days a week run through the woods behind my house for meditation as much as anything else.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Admitting when I've screwed up.

Making people feel at ease - especially kids which is just as well.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've never taken a poll.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Writers insteads of books - Gabriel Garcia Marquez, Kurt Vonnegut, John Coetzee, Jhumpa Lahiri, Michael Chabon, Jonathan Franzen.

I like physical books. I've always loved the smell of the ink and watching the bookmark drift from the front to back.

Movies: John Hughes, Monty Python, Coen Brothers and Wes Anderson. I binge watch TV shows on Netflix.

Music: snippets - I can never get away from Led Zeppelin. I love Iron and Wine. Pearl Jam, Nick Drake. M. Ward. The Pixies. the Rolling Stones. Nicki Bluhm. U2. Smashing Pumpkins. Wilco.

Food? I have no idea what to do with this on account of the fact that I love food. I very much dig cheese, will kill for good fried chicken and love grilled asparagus. Being a bachelor means I don't cook at home much unless 20 people show up at my house for a dinner party.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Disclaimer: My kids aren't on this list. It would be akin to saying I couldn't live without my brain or heart. So here are 6 things I'd really rather not do without:

Running shoes
My pillow - I get all screwed up if I have to sleep in a hotel without it. Sleeping in a tent is a different story.
Really (really) good food.
the internet (yep. It's got something to do with my job. Besides, how would I check my OKC account without it?!)
My contacts

oh yeah -

7...ellipses, parentheses and other parenthetical forms - especially dashes.

(Not withstanding the brain and my heart.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
what I want to be when I grow up...
oh yeah, right...

Why I don't have any halfway decent pictures of myself.

Where you are (for real).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
It's Friday night so I better figure this out lickety-split. It will probably involve my pack of friends, a pub, beer and Yahtzee. At least that's what's been happening for the last few weeks (when I'm on parenting hiatus).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
There's lots to admit in private but for now you'll have to be satisfied with this:

I absolutely suck at parallel parking. It's endlessly frustrating. When I nail it I start texting people about my accomplishment. How emasculating is that?!
You should message me if
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Message me if you want to get a drink and chat about this, that and the other thing while sizing each other up.