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echo0383

31 M Santa Cruz, CA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 21–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 1
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, but not too serious about it
Sign
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Working on university
Job
Medicine
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Friends call me empathic, determined, funny, and – yes, it’s true --a charming nerd. I've also been told I'm mature for my age and an old soul. At 5'8" I'm about the average height for a guy, but this doesn't bother me and shouldn't bother someone who messages me. I'm not hung up on the physical, but some level of physical attraction is important and necessary. In some cases, that develops over time.

I'm interested in something meaningful with someone special. I'm looking to get to know someone who is compassionate, smart, funny, honest and who wants to grow into a place of commitment and intimacy. I want certain things for myself and am growing, but am also comfortable with my trajectory. I want to find someone who will accept and love me for me and expects the same.

10 random facts about me...

1. I have an adopted brother from Gambia who I met in Iceland...(my parents weren't able to make it legal since he's older.)
2. I’m a history buff... I'll tell you anything you wanted to know about Roman gladiators or the Battle of Gettysburg.
3. I know how to fence (with rapiers, not stolen goods)
4. I am a fan of mega-doses of fish oil
5. My Vietnamese Pot Bellied pig was named Amos (he was great...so intelligent and emotional!)
6. My childhood ambition was to be a veterinarian and so I established a pet-sitting business
7. My Enneagram type is a 2 ("The Helper") but very close to a 3 ("The Achiever")
8. I buy books faster than I read them
9. I am a Myers-Briggs “ENFP”
10. I'm afraid of clowns, particularly sad or hobo clowns...
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm a mental health counselor, now working full time as the manager of a recovery home for men. For the past 9 years I've been a volunteer suicide prevention/crisis counselor and training instructor. The guys at the home call me the “den father.” That’s not far from wrong.

Other relevant bio: I'm originally from Santa Cruz and went to college in Massachusetts before moving to L.A. After 10 years, I now find myself happy to be back in the Santa Cruz area. I'm blessed with a solid family and great friends.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making people laugh and feel at ease, empathizing, analyzing, caring for others as well as myself, mentoring/teaching/training, writing about what I feel is important/meaningful, working with adolescents, playing with kids and animals, wrangling wild animals & domestics gone feral when needed, volunteering, intelligent conversation, mixology (the art of making cocktails), buying, selling & "sniping" on ebay, Pictionary, Jenga, playing other board games while tipsy.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Blue eyes first. And then, hopefully, that I’m non-judgmental, compassionate and funny.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books:
The Road Less Traveled, Where the Red Fern Grows, Tuesdays With Morrie, The Great Gatsby, The Iliad, The Prophet, The Alchemist, The Dhammapada, Desiderata, The Gift of Therapy and pretty much anything psychology or philosophy.

Movies:
Silver Lining's Playbook, Good Will Hunting, The Shipping News, A River Runs Through It, Gone With The Wind (yes, really), Welcome to Sarajevo, The Talented Mr. Ripley, A Beautiful Mind, Scent Of A Woman.

TV Shows (current and all time):
X-Files (first few seasons where it was creepy and not all about aliens and conspiracies), The Walking Dead, Dexter, Seinfeld, Modern Family, House, Nip/Tuck (first few seasons before it just got ridiculous), Mad Men, Criminal Minds (apparently I'm a mix of Gideon and Reid), Chappelle's Show.

Music:
Very ecclectic...classical and anything ranging from say NWA to Enya. Artists on my iPod current favorites list include Ingrid Michaelson, Matt Nathanson, Bach, Mozart, John Mayer, Fleetwood Mac, and Coldplay to name some.

Food:
I'll eat almost anything... I'm kind of like a goat in that way (my mom had one growing up & he ate everything...even tin cans.) I'm not partial tin cans myself but I do like Mexican, Italian, tacos, pizza and a quality burger.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Family
2. Friends
3. Meaningful paid & voluneteer work
4. A desire for continuous personal growth
5. Spiritual awareness
6. Pen & pad of paper
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Dreams, the future, people I care about, how I need to travel more and where to next.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Heading out of town for the weekend, hanging out and having dinner with friends (often my friends from Italy) and occasionally talking someone down from a ledge.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm open and willing to share many things, but privately and mutually as intimacy deepens. Just a couple asides from that, I sometimes worry I'm a little too earnest or verbose in profiles, match question explanations, etc. Whatever, it's the genuine me & that's all that matters.
You should message me if
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You’re a genuine person looking for a special connection. If you take other people on their own terms. If you’re mature yet fun. If you’re a romantic at heart who will love someone for their true selves and expect the same.