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54 M Oakland, CA

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Black, Native American, White, Other
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Other, and laughing about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from law school
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), Japanese (Okay), Spanish (Okay), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Exceptionally well traveled; sensual, affectionate, monogamous (when committed); spiritual; meditation; regularly enjoy exercise, friends and adventure - both the dramatic AND the simple; determined to become as wise as possible; love to LAUGH and figure out fun/interesting things to do.

I am an adult that likes to have BIG fun. I have broad interests and love to indulge/surprise my partner.
What I’m doing with my life
entrepreneur; executive; internet software; law; public service; exercise; reducing stress; spending quality time with friends; philanthropy; always trying to grow...
I’m really good at
helping to solve problems; calming down a stressful/negative situation (I don't panic)

Making you laugh (clever and silly humor)
The first things people usually notice about me
I look younger than I am; smart
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Food: Really good wine & organic/independent farm grown preferred; All kinds of Asian; I am basically a pescaterian (fish/seafood) and a bit of a foodie...u can eat anything

Activities: Beach, mountains, sailing, flying, general exercise (heavy calisthenics/yoga); of course, occasional camping. I love outdoors ...and a dancefloor

Play/Theatre: love all live art forms.

Music: Live music of ALL kinds; I LOVE dancing to Deep House (no techno), hip hop, reggae, African Beat, salsa (love the music/not great dancer), even including 80s new wave (from British to B-52s to Talking Heads etc...u get it); indie rock

Books: Usually for content not author; biographies; history; international intrigue; mysteries; current events

Movies: International intrigue/spy; Mysteries; Foreign; and yes, I will see big budget blockbusters

Art: Contemporary/modern-paintings, sculpture, photography; also non-Western; I am on the board of a museum
The six things I could never do without
trust; deep friendship; respect; laughing (occasionally out-loud/belly laugh); passion for something; exercise; frankness; love; music (9)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Society as a whole; Travel. I have circled the globe 10x (extended: Tokyo, Singapore, London, India, Paris); and how to lead the life I want to...preferably with a partner ;)
On a typical Friday night I am
1) Going to dinner (likely in SF) with friends then drinks/movie/dancing; or at home watching PBS (often Charlie Rose, MHz etc.), a movie (esp Foreign), Netflix House of Cards or House of Lies
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I like sex with women only (not a homophobe; consenting ADULTS can do whatever. I'm just surprised by the messages I get from this diverse group here on OKC); I am a widower-together 10 years (she passed in 2003), no kids; I am very comfortable with love and commitment. Oh yeah, I like passionate connections NOT passionate arguments (disagreements are normal/strong opinions welcome)
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 38–48
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
You want to meet a guy who has done a bit, actually tries to use the wisdom gained from experience, prefers/appreciates youthful energy, is not so judgmental when it comes to others, likes fun especially in small groups, still believes in love and is GENUINELY open to the new...a big part of this journey called life...