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43 City of London, UK Man, Cis Man, Genderfluid, Pangender

Man, Cis Man, Genderfluid, Pangender

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 25–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 2:45am
Bisexual, Queer, Pansexual
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body type
Full figured
Mostly anything
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Politics / Government
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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Conventional in appearance, radical in thought, word and deed, I am bisexual/queer, poly and kinky and looking to widen my group of friends. I have an awesome principal partner (non-binary/genderqueer academic) with whom I'm very much in love, but with the capacity to welcome other people into my life for company, conversation and maybe more.

I'm larger than life, loving, articulate, honest, passionate and committed, actively involved in public life and supporting charities, education and the arts. I love to meet people with strong personalities who can match me round for round in debate and who have opinions that they will stand up for.

Presenting as a bit of a bear myself, I have a serious soft spot for the queer and genderfluid, particularly tomboys, though in truth, I can find all genders, shapes, sizes and types of people attractive as often it is personality rather than looks that appeal.
What I’m doing with my life
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My working life is really quite peripatetic as I work part-time in sport administration, as well as being an elected councillor in inner London, a magistrate and serving as a charity trustee and school governor as well as being involved in assorted activist-y stuff.

Outside work, I enjoy live music (of all kinds); theatre; stand-up comedy; cinema; watching football/soccer (particularly women's football), cricket, rugby, and tennis; urban and country walking; swimming; reading; good food; decent wine and travel.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cooking, entertaining, helping other people to develop their careers
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Reading for pleasure tends to be fiction and non-fiction often around the themes of business, law and politics. As a quirk, I collect Antiquarian books about the City of London.

Movies: James Bond (esp. Connery and Brosnan) Any US politics: City Hall, Primary Colors, The Contender etc. British comedy/drama eg Love actually, Bend it like Beckham, films of John Grisham novels (The Rainmaker, The Runaway Jury, The Firm) Good Will Hunting, Meet Joe Black, Ocean's Thirteen, Devil Wears Prada, Brokeback Mountain, Boys Don't Cry, The Birdcage, The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo.

TV Shows: The Thick of It, The West Wing, Boston Legal, House MD, Spooks, Yes Minister/Yes Prime Minister, Morse, Kavagnah QC, Downton Abbey, Bremner Bird & Fortune, Mock the Week, Have I Got News For You, Dr Who, Torchwood, CSI, some Star Trek, Bad Girls, L Word, Tipping the Velvet, Lip Service, Hustle, House of Cards(US and UK), Orange is the New Black.

Music: Abba, Ani Difranco, Burt Bacharach, Basement Jaxx, Shirley Bassey, Coldplay, Daft Punk, Daliah, Dusty Springfield, Fatboy Slim, Florence & The Machine, Freemasons, Indigo Girls, Lady Gaga, K D Lang, La Roux, Madonna, Mel C, New Order, Pet Shop Boys, P!nk, Scissor Sisters, Jimmy Somerville, Space, Texas, Robbie Williams, The XX. Generically: House, Harder House, Trance, Swing, Jazz, Brass Bands and Cheese! Copland, Dvorak, Elgar, Gershwin, Handel, Holst, Mozart, Parry, Puccini, Rutter, Walton.

Food: modern British, European and Chinese
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My Friends
My iPhone
The West Wing
Sex - though cuddles and hugs are just as welcome!!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Other people and how together we can make society better.

The frustration of being culturally, empathetically and romantically attuned to the less conventional (especially dykes, tomboys, transbois etc.) and yet being trapped in this rather conventional bloke's body and hence not accepted by so many of those I feel I most comfortable with.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At home curled up on the sofa or out with friends maybe in a restaurant or enjoying a live performance, be it music, stand-up comedy or theatre. I can occasionally be persuaded out to a bar or pub and very rarely I can be tempted into a club, but be warned, if I start dancing, I often don't stop!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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After years of trying, I've found that whilst I find many cis men attractive and generally okay for brief encounters, there are very few that I would want a relationship with. I vastly prefer the company of women (particularly those of a queer disposition), genderqueer folk, and also some trans guys, for friendship and relationships (oh yes, and sex, of course!!).

And my ex says I do a good line in 'gay dancing'. I don't know what she means! ;)
You should message me if
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You like my profile and think we would get on.

Even better if you are:

- bi, queer, poly, and/or kinky

- interested in politics, which may be radical or alternative, or quite mainsteam. You might be a feminist (the best people are). You hopefully will be liberal in outlook and perhaps a libertarian or an anarchist. That would certainly give us something to talk about!

- a tomboy, butch, androgynous, genderqueer, or trans* (which would be interesting but by no means crucial)

- loving, passionate

and you like hugs, kisses, smiles, laughs

and crucially you accept that what is in someone's mind is more important than their look or your initial perception of them