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46 San Jose, CA Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 26–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 6:09am
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Mostly other
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university

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My self-summary
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I am laid back, reliable, and emotionally-available. I am looking for a man with the same bearing to apply for a job as my boyfriend. No previous experience is required. Just an earnest desire to do a good job.

I enjoy word play, intellectual discussions, joking (even banter), and laughing. I appreciate time in nature (wandering or playing on beaches or near other bodies of water; treks or languid hikes in woods particularly near babbling brooks; fighting or wrestling with large wild animals - oh, wait, just kidding ... daydreaming there). I enjoy long meals with conversation, talking about everything and nothing (or long conversations with food).

Staying fit and understanding how the body works interests me. Playing tennis regularly helps to sustain me and makes me smile. Practicing martial arts consistently challenges me to develop something new (my interpretation and understanding of say a technique and its use), rather seeing the same thing differently or deeper. Functional fitness seems sensible and surprisingly like learning something forgotten (what kids know, but don't know anymore when they grow up).

Learning and growing are important to me, as is feeling useful.

I am drawn to health and healing modalities, spiritual things, healthy eating (fermented foods/natural probiotics, real food, nutrient-dense food), ecologically sound approaches, gardening, DIY, book clubs, farmer's markets, ...

Some traits that make my head turn: compassion, self-awareness, and/or grit (both common and uncommon strength and resiliency) ...
What I’m doing with my life
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I am trying to understand well what excites me, and I am trying to do those things.

I am drawn to health topics and healing modalities. I tend to sink deep into interests.

I worked for many years as a software engineer. I am semi-retired now. For me that means I am "retired" now and enjoying the free time while I am younger. However, the "semi" means that I may work some time in the future (if and when I need money).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
understanding others' emotions and motivations. I naturally try to imagine others' perspectives and world views. I can and have helped people solve problems amongst themselves and with systems (I am particularly good at debugging systems -- even those with which I am unfamiliar -- because I conceptualize well and I can believe the impossible for just long enough.)
The first things people usually notice about me
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Sometimes I can seem tough. While it's true that I can have an edge to me, it's only a part of me. From practicing martial arts this can show even more.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: The Name of the Wind (by Patrick Rothfuss), Chapterhouse Dune (by Frank Herbert), Born to Run (by Christopher McDougall), Mastery (by George Leonard), The Gifts of Imperfection (by Brene Brown), Mindset (by Carol S. Dweck), Why We Get Fat: And What to Do About It (by Gary Taubes), Ender's Shadow (by Orson Scott Card),

Movies: Shawshank Redemption, Powder, Phenomenon, Terminator, Aliens, Beautiful Thing, Get Real, A Room with a View, Shelter, Midnight Run, The Secret Life of Walter Mitty,

TV Series: Dr Who, The Good Wife, Suits, Emily Owens MD, The Newsroom (Aaron Sorkin is cool.), Buffy the Vampire Slayer (Joss Whedon has a talent for helping the audience connect emotionally with his characters as he tells his story), Design with the Other 90%, Up with Chris Hayes (I find him sexy - a combination of cute with smart or maybe smart with a touch of cute - but he mentioned on the show that he has a baby so he's taken, DAMN)

Music (Songs that I like): First Day of My Life (by Bright Eyes), Save Me (by Aimee Mann), Fidelity (by Regina Spektor), Creep (by Radiohead), Soul Eclipse/If I Could Write (by Sam Phillips), I Will Follow You Into the Dark (by Death Cab for Cutie), Human (by The Killers), Con te Partiro (by Andrea Bocelli), Sail (by Awolnation), Imagine (John Lennon), Everybody Talks (Neon Trees), Primadonna (by Marina and the Diamonds), Titanium (David Guetta), Next to Me (Emeli Sande), Pachelbel's Canon in D Major.

Food: Ribeye Steak, Green (and Purple) Grapes, Watermelon juice, Spareribs, Green Tea, Avocadoes (& Guacamole), Blueberries, Quinoa, Purple Potatoes, Brown Rice, ...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
family and friends,
some kind of physical practice (say martial arts or tennis),
deep conversation,
tasty food,
freedom to be,
learning and growing
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how to move well (in tennis, in martial arts, and probably metaphorically in life).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
relaxing at home.
You should message me if
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you see something in my profile, and you think we might be a match

OR, if we do not feel like a romantic match, but you believe we might be good or great friends, please message too. I am happy to cultivate friendship with those who are interested. For the longest time, developing community was more vital to me than anything romantic or sexual.