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27 Brooklyn, NY Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 26–35
  • Near me
  • For short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
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5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body type
Strictly anything
Working on space camp
Open relationship
Mostly non-monogamous
English, Japanese (Poorly), Latin (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Autodidact, Japanophile, unabashed transit nerd, urbanist, native Brooklynite, Chicagoan for a spell, voracious reader, food thinker, taste tinkerer, bicycle enthusiast, friendly introvert.

Quiet but opinionated, principled but open-minded, grounded in reality but prone to flights of fancy and heady idealism, a little hardheaded but soft on the inside. Believer in process and the pleasures of slow, analytical thinking. Deeply skeptical of the rhetoric of efficiency and techno-idealism.


I. I'm in an open relationship with a wonderful human being. (He's my primary partner.) Thus, I'm here to meet folks for casual fun and such. That's not to say I don't want to connect with other humans on a genuine level (I do), but I'm also not looking for serious commitment. If that presents a problem, I'm probably not the girl for you.

II. This thing is rather wordy, not necessarily because I'm looking for someone who likes or agrees with everything put forth here, but more because I'm a poor editor of my own words and get excited about a lot of things.
What I’m doing with my life
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Wearing many hats. I studied art history and now work at a food education non-profit. I used to cook at a restaurant on the side, too, but gave that up when it became too draining. The kitchen is always calling, though.

I lived in Japan for two years but would like to live abroad again or take time to travel extensively at some point, ideally soon. Ultimate career fantasy (or eventual reality?): travel/food writer, or perhaps owner of a guesthouse on a remote Japanese island. If I could be paid to sift through dusty archival documents and photos for a living, that would be pretty neat, too.

Currently questioning my desire to be in New York for the long haul. I've come to realize I like quiet and being in the woods, both of which are rather hard to come by here.

Oh, and I take quite a few photos, which you can check out
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Navigating and exploring cities and new neighborhoods. Remembering birthdays. Bumping into things. Tearing produce to shreds with my knife.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I'm staring intently at something seemingly mundane, like snow on subway tracks or the fractal patterns of tree branches. Watch on the right wrist. Deep voice. Gamine, I guess?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Words, ideas, theories: Thomas Sugrue / The Origins of the Urban Crisis. Terry Smith / Making the Modern. Wendell Berry / The Unsettling of America. Jonathan Safran Foer / Eating Animals. Junichiro Tanazaki / In Praise of Shadows. Hal Foster / Design and Crime. Rosalyn Deutsche / Evictions: Art and Spatial Politics. Samuel Zipp / Manhattan Projects. Shizuo Tsuji / Japanese Cooking: A Simple Art. The Baffler is a perpetual favorite, and one of the few magazines I actually read cover to cover.

Visual: Man on Wire, Dog Day Afternoon, Serpico, Sans Soleil, Jiro Dreams of Sushi, most Ozu films. Brutalist architecture washed in late winter afternoon light, subway maps and signage, Toshio Shibata's photographs.

Aural: lots. Went through a punk phase in an earlier life but these days mostly listen to various forms of electronic music. (Other genres are more than welcome.) On current rotation: Jackie-O Motherfucker, Slint, Holden, Kangding Ray, Caribou, Midori Hirano. Always: Tortoise, Rei Harakami, Aoki Takamasa, Oval, Labradford, Benoît Pioulard, Loscil, Nicolas Jaar, Kevin Saunderson, Shugo Tokumaru, Akufen, most anything on Kranky and 12k. Sometimes a lil rocksteady and classic ska, in nostalgic moments.

Edibles: almost anything. Especially: handmade soba noodles (hot or cold), croissants and other buttery/flaky/crumbly things, umeboshi, ika shiokara, black kale doused with olive oil and pomegranate molasses, homemade mayonnaise, cabbage in browned butter, tiny strawberries, various bitter greens, lotsa hops, as much cardamom as possible, fresh tofu with ponzu, pickled daikon, pizza (both high and low), perfecting pour-over coffee at home.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Readin' (paper only, please), warm socks, the electrifying feeling of meeting someone who "fits" (as a friend, lover, or otherwise), visual stimulation and inspiration, running/biking/dancing/bodymovement, a well made drawing/writing implement (preferably with black ink and a .28 mm tip).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Who and what shapes urban space. The form and function of public housing. The importance (and unfortunate neglect) of infrastructure. The role of cultural institutions in urban development and so-called "revitalization." Class dynamics and neighborhood change.

This essay:

Minimalist living / making do with small spaces / tiny houses.

Family, where "home" actually is, and how to create a sense of belonging and cultivate community regardless of where I am.

Relocation, and how to find a balance between solitude and urbanity.

What to cook / eat for breakfast / lunch / dinner / every other occasion. New uses for yuzu koshō. The mystery of how to achieve proper ratios of dashi : shōyu : mirin : sake.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Cooking for myself and/or others. Taking a new route home for the sake of scenery. Quite possibly taking a bath and reading. Sometimes dancing in a dark room until the wee hours.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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To admit, or to admit here? If we're talking the latter: I like to wash my feet before going to sleep.
You should message me if
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- The fact that I'm in a relationship doesn't bother you. Better yet if it turns you on.

- You're down for fun times: GGG, d/s, kink, and all the rest.

- You're wickedly smart but not a jerk about it. Weird is good, too.

- You know how to wield a knife.

- You'd like to go on a wandering walk or exploratory bike ride (and are comfortable with not using your phone to navigate).

- You're willing to forgive delays in communication. I'll try to respond promptly, but there is life to be lived offline.