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eeems

28 Brooklyn, NY Woman

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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 26–35
  • Near me
  • For short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Aug 26
Orientation
Straight, Heteroflexible
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Education
Working on space camp
Job
Retired
Status
Open relationship
Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Speaks
English, Japanese (Poorly), Latin (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
***August 2015 update: I'm in the midst of an all-consuming, batshit crazy project at work for the next several weeks, so if I don't reply or don't write first, even if it seems we'd get along, please don't take it personally. Also out of town from 8/27-9/5, so there's that, too.***

Autodidact, Japanophile, unabashed transit nerd, urbanist, native Brooklynite, Chicagoan for a spell, voracious reader, food thinker, taste tinkerer, bicycle enthusiast, friendly introvert.

Quiet but opinionated, principled but open-minded, grounded in reality but prone to flights of fancy and heady idealism, a little hardheaded but soft on the inside. Believer in process and the pleasures of slow, analytical thinking. Deeply skeptical of the rhetoric of efficiency and techno-idealism.

N.B.:

I'm in an open relationship with a wonderful human being: RainHailSnowIce. He's my primary partner. Thus, I'm here to meet folks for more casual fun, both individually and in other arrangements. That's not to say I don't want to connect with other humans on a genuine level, but I'm also not looking for serious commitment.

This profile is rather wordy, not because I'm looking for someone who likes or agrees with everything put forth here, but because I'm a poor editor of my own words and get excited about a lot of things.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Wearing many hats. I studied art history and now work at a non-profit that addresses the intersection of food, education, and material culture. It's pretty much my dream job, though it takes way more of my time than I'd like. I used to cook at a restaurant on the side, too, but gave that up when it became too draining.

I lived in Japan for two years but would like to live abroad again or take time to travel extensively at some point, ideally soon. Other things I might like to do for a living: become a travel writer, own a guesthouse on a remote Japanese island, sift through dusty archival documents and photos.

Oh, and I take quite a few photos: www.flickr.com/eeems
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Navigating and exploring cities and new neighborhoods. Remembering birthdays. Bumping into things. Tearing produce to shreds with my knife.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I'm staring intently at something seemingly mundane, like snow on subway tracks or the fractal patterns of tree branches. Watch on the right wrist. Gamine, I guess?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Words, ideas, theories: Rebecca Solnit, always and forever. Thomas Sugrue / The Origins of the Urban Crisis. Terry Smith / Making the Modern. Jonathan Safran Foer / Eating Animals. Junichiro Tanazaki / In Praise of Shadows. Hal Foster / Design and Crime. Rosalyn Deutsche / Evictions: Art and Spatial Politics. Samuel Zipp / Manhattan Projects. The Baffler is one of the few magazines I read cover to cover.

Visual: Man on Wire, Dog Day Afternoon, Serpico, Sans Soleil, Jiro Dreams of Sushi, most Ozu films. Brutalist architecture washed in late winter afternoon light, subway maps and signage, Toshio Shibata's photographs.

Aural: Eclectic taste tending toward most things electronic. On current rotation: Jackie-O Motherfucker, a smattering of taiko drumming, Rei Harakami, Caribou, Unwound, Moskitoo, Shugo Tokumaru, most anything on Kranky and 12k. Rocksteady and classic ska, in nostalgic moments.

Edibles: almost anything. Especially: handmade soba, croissants and other buttery/flaky things, umeboshi, pomegranate molasses, browned butter, tiny strawberries, bitter greens, lotsa hops, as much cardamom as possible, pickled daikon, pizza (both high and low).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Readin' (paper only, please), warm socks, the electrifying feeling of meeting someone who "fits" (as a friend, lover, or otherwise), visual stimulation and inspiration, running/biking/dancing/bodymovement, a well made drawing/writing implement (preferably with black ink and a .28 mm tip).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Who and what shapes urban space. The form and function of public housing. The importance (and unfortunate neglect) of infrastructure. The role of cultural institutions in urban development and so-called "revitalization." Class dynamics and neighborhood change.

This essay: http://www.thebaffler.com/salvos/of-flying-cars-and-the-declining-rate-of-profit

Minimalist living / making do with small spaces / tiny houses.

Family, where "home" actually is, and how to create a sense of belonging and cultivate community regardless of where I live.

What to cook / eat for breakfast / lunch / dinner / every other occasion. New uses for yuzu koshō. The mystery of how to achieve proper ratios of dashi : shōyu : mirin : sake.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Cooking for myself and/or others. Taking a new route home for the sake of scenery. Quite possibly taking a bath and reading. Sometimes dancing in a dark room until the wee hours.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
To admit, or to admit here? If we're talking the latter: I like to wash my feet before going to sleep.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
- The fact that I'm in a relationship doesn't bother you. Better yet if it turns you on. (Keywords: GGG, d/s, kink, unicorn, couples, etc.)

- You're wickedly smart but not a jerk about it. Weird is good, too.

- You'd like to go on a wandering walk or exploratory bike ride (and are comfortable with not using your phone to navigate).

- You're willing to forgive delays in communication. I'll try to respond promptly, but there is life to be lived offline.