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  • Ages 32–43
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5′ 11″ (1.80m)
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Mostly vegetarian
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
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Has a kid
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I remember seeing a Peanuts comic strip once in which Charlie Brown's sister Sally was stressing out about having to write a 2,000 word report for school. She kept procrastinating on writing the paper, and finally, on the day the paper was due, she got up in front of the class to present the paper and said something like this: "I spent a lot of time trying to think of what to write for my 2,000 word essay. Then I remembered that it has been said that a picture is worth a thousand words." At this she held up two scribbled drawings. "So what we have here are a couple of pictures."

I can't draw any pictures to put on OKC, but since I'm tired of my boring old summary and I can't think of anything interesting to write to replace it, I'm reverting to the lazy person ploy of throwing up a few quotes that I like. Perhaps they might shed a light on me more than a bald summary would (or perhaps not; but even in the event that they're not, they might--hopefully--be a bit more interesting):

"When you plant lettuce, if it does
not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce. You look into the reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or our family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and arguments. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding. If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change."--Thich Nhat Hanh

"When I get big I’m going to be a humble little country doctor. I’ll live in the city, see, and every morning I’ll get up, climb into my sports car and zoom into the country. Then I’ll start healing people. I’ll heal everybody for miles around. I’ll be a world-famous humble little country doctor!" --Linus van Pelt

"Being a top musician is no big deal. Being a true human being is a very, very big deal. That’s what it’s all about. The more true human beings we become, the more that quality will emanate from our music. There’s no such thing as gaining spirituality from the music. The spirituality comes from within as we develop the qualities of God and surrender to that power."--Jim Blackley

Marge Simpson: “Homer, there’s a family of possums in here!”
Homer Simpson: “I call the big one ‘Bitey.’”

UPDATE: and here's another one I just read today (12/22/14) that I dig, from the great jazz saxophonist Eddie Harris (please excuse the sexist language): "Man often wants to be like others without first searching within himself to find whether his aptitudes sometimes are far greater than those of any of his counterparts."
What I’m doing with my life
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Trying to polish my approach (the endeavor seems to be an unending one). Spending time with my 17 year old son. Playing drums a lot.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Reading, writing, arithmetic (I was one of those nerdy academic types that seemed to do well at school, even though there were glaring gaps in my skill set in other areas), drumming, empathy, and listening. Also, reciting Monty Python monologues that I first memorized when I was 16 years old (and yes, you're right, I didn't score many dates back then). My specialty was the "Constitutional Peasant" sketch from the Holy Grail. My aforementioned skill at empathy has caused me to limit the amount I display this skill to people around me (although I will confess that sometimes the latter ends up getting the best of the former).
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm not sure about this. Perhaps that it doesn't take much to get me to smile or laugh (and not always at the most appropriate time).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Tolkien, Jane Austen, Dostoyevsky, Douglas Adams, John Dominic Crossan, Thich Nhat Hanh, Cervantes, Don Martin. I used to read voraciously as a kid, but I read less so now, mainly because most of my spare time is taken up with musical activities. When I do read, it's mostly non-fiction these days (which is strange, because I mostly devoured fiction when I was younger).

Movies: This is Spinal Tap (natch), Wings of Desire, Bullets Over Broadway, Gosford Park, Shattered Glass, Amadeus, Round Midnight, Waiting for Guffman, Office Space, Bowfinger (this one has gained me some ridicule, but I unashamedly proclaim it to be awesome), Blue Valentine (despite being one of the more painful movie-watching experiences of my life), and Groundhog Day.

I don't watch TV much these days. My favorite TV show is probably the Office (when Steve Carell was still on it). Other past favorites include Flight of the Conchords, Seinfeld, and Monty Python's Flying Circus. I also like Curb Your Enthusiasm and Louie.

Music: A lot of older stuff--jazz, blues, rock, soul/funk/R&B. I haven't paid too close attention to pop music of the last 20 years or so, which is a bit embarrassing, but not quite enough for me to start listening to top 40 radio. Some of my favorites are Otis Redding, Van Morrison, Clifford Brown, Mississippi John Hurt, Sonny Rollins, and John Coltrane. I was a massive Beach Boys/Brian Wilson fan when I was in high school, although I don't listen to 'em much now (although Pet Sounds and Smile are still two of my very favorite albums).

I've been mostly a vegetarian for about four years. The only time I eat fish is occasionally with sushi, which is probably my favorite food. I love all sorts of food--Mexican, Thai, Vietnamese, Indian, Italian, German, Ethiopian, Chinese, etc.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I don't know about "never," but some of the things I cherish are laughter, family, books, and music.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How fortunate I am, how I can help other people who aren't as fortunate as I am, how to not waste so much time, what motivates others, what motivates myself, whether I've done a decent job of preparing my son for success in life. Oh, and also the drums. I think about the drums a lot.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I'm often performing music on Friday nights (one the hazards of the job). When I'm not doing that, I'm usually spending time with friends and/or my progeny, or maybe I'm even on a date.
You should message me if
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Any and all messages are welcome (since I'm a guy, fortunately I can say that without running the risk of being deluged with a mountain of inappropriate and crude comments; I don't envy you women in this regard).