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33 Bensalem, PA Androgynous, Woman

Androgynous, Woman

I’m looking for

  • All who like bi women
  • Ages 24–45
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 10:07am
Bisexual, Pansexual, Queer
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Rather not say
Mostly anything
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I think I’ll start with what is probably a deal breaker for a lot of you - I am polyamorous/non-monogamous and currently in an open relationship with jythexinvok. They are quite spiffy. Just to be clear, we do our dating separately. Currently Jythie is my only “R”elationship.

Random things about me:

crazy cat lady
horseback rider, english style
lover of goofiness
etc, etc, etc

I asked jythie what they think I should remember to include, and they mentioned my literalness. So I’ll mention it - I am inclined towards the extremely literal. I am slow with my metaphors and don’t do well with coded speech. For instance, I only just learned, a few months ago, that “I want to get to know you better” is actually code for “I want to get into your pants.” Before that, I had absolutely no idea! Knowing that sure does explain some confusing and awkward interactions in my past, though.


You know what would be nifty? An "I believe…" section. Here are some things that I believe.

That religion is personal, and “right” or “wrong” does not extend beyond the scope of our own nose. Believe or don’t believe whatever it is that you believe, and don’t use your belief or lack thereof to hurt people. The end.

That psychiatric issues count as medical issues.

That what you do with your body, whether by yourself or with consenting adults, is entirely your business, be it sexual or body modification or whatever else.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I’m disabled, in an invisible sort of way. Which is to say - no job. You really do need to be ok with that if we’re going to talk at all.

That said, I’m a crafter - yet another of my obsessions. I like to make things. Craftyish things I do include leatherworking (I’ve made shoes a few times, and plan to continue to do so. ^_^), assembling kits (the more challenging the better), doodling, papercrafting, crochet, spinning, assembling furniture, and pretty much anything else that strikes my fancy.

I am working towards a point of being able to volunteer at the barn where I ride. I think I will get there sometime next year, and then I will spend at least some of my days shoveling horse poop and doing other barn things.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
The aforementioned crafting.
Learning to do new crafts.
Being focused.
One-on-one socializing.
Hanging out with cats.
Being silly.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
At this point, my hair.

Eventually I plan to get a forearm tattoo. When I do, I am sure that will top the list too, but at the moment it’s still in the commission stage. It's been in the commission stage for a loooooong time, but someday it will be done.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I feel really awkward trying to fill out this section because I always skip it when I'm reading other people's profiles. However, apparently some people care about this stuff, so here goes.

books: sci fi/fantasy, old classics, the occasional epic or saga, and non fiction regarding anthropology, neurology, occasionally history, and who knows what else. Also, I like to collect really old reference and religious books. As in, 100 years old or more.

Movies: Eh, whatever. Movies are a thing to watch while snuggling, and occasionally a thing to seek out if something looks awesome. Mostly the snuggling, though.

Shows: I don't watch TV like a normal person, which is probably why cable TV doesn't work for me. I like to fixate on a show and watch it all the way through, watching a little bit every day. When I finish, I go on to the next.

Music: oh geez, I don't know. I'm still figuring out my new, changed musical preferences. Spotify is really helping here.

Food: CHOCOLATE holy shit. Also noodles. Nearly anything that is noodles makes me happy. I am moderately experimental with food, within my texture issues.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
How about six things that are important to me/six things I want to have?

a book to read
something to craft
close, intimate friendships
Stuff with which to write
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Autism/mental illness/disability, as I have a blog on those topics.

Whatever it is I am crafting.

How to navigate the incredibly complicated world of interpersonal relationships.

Whatever book I’m currently reading, and whatever books I read recently.

Civil rights issues and oppression/discrimination - sexism, ablism, racism, homophobia, transphobia, neurodiversity, etc etc etc
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At home, crafting with some TV on in the background. That’s actually how I spend most of my evenings. Exciting, I know.

Let’s talk a bit about how I like to socialize. First of all, I strongly prefer to do my socializing one-on-one. Group socializing is complex; I generally can’t keep up and struggle with sensory overload. Plus, well, I just like one-on-one better.

Staying in with a friend or more-than-friend is a thing that sounds awesome to me. Cuddling, crafting, playing video games, talking about what we are passionate about or just gabbing about whatever, goofing around, etc all make for fun times for me.

There are some out-of-the-house things I like to do too. Museums of pretty much any sort delight me, but especially if they have please-touch exhibits. I get entirely too much joy wandering around craft stores and thrift stores. Walking in a park is lovely. It would be cool to get to do indoor rock climbing again, but I don’t have a climbing partner so it hasn’t happened in years.

I do have limited group activities. I recently started doing a larp thing (yep. I’m a nerd), and when I can I attend rituals with my grove (religious group). Both are super awesome, and wipe me out completely.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Let’s pretend this said “personal” instead of “private,” shall we?
There are all sorts of personal things I’m willing to admit that people really should know about me before getting even vaguely close to me.
I have struggled with severe depression and anxiety. They are medicated and doing really lots better (so nice!).
Current religious(ish) beliefs (subject to change): pagan/some sort of polytheistic panentheism, agnostic, attend rituals with druids
kink: sadomasochist
gender: androgynous/queer

Once someone on this website criticized me for being too open on my profile and not leaving any mystery, so I figure that I’ll also say - I don’t particularly care about mystery. I really don’t see the appeal. I want connection and intimacy, and they don’t seem to mesh well with “mystery” for me.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Gonna change this up to a “what I’m looking for” section. Actually, maybe it would be better put at “things I am interested in finding” since “looking for” isn’t quite right.

Things I am interested in include conversation, friendship, activity partners, and relationship-y connection. Since it’s difficult for me to form connections, I am probably going to focus more on conversation and friendship, and if something more happens, well, that’s awesome.

I like people of all genders, but am particularly attracted to those who present androgynously in some way. Queerness, of any sort, is awesome.

Also, fair warning, I'm pretty terrible at actually getting around to asking to meet, even when I message first. I have no idea when or how to do that, so I kinda just don't, and I have a sneaking suspicion (though I cannot be sure) that I have lost opportunities because I failed to suggest meeting up or I missed hints or something.