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33 F Bensalem, PA

I’m looking for

  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 24–45
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 7:45pm
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Rather not say
Mostly anything
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hi! I'm me.

Here, have a random list of things I like:
skeleton keys
words (like 'quinquangle')
really old books (latest - 1828 dictionary! so awesome!)
assembling furniture
the oxford comma
black clothes
except for socks, which are best bright and colorful and interesting
compliments that do not involve insulting other people. "you're not like other women" is really not at all a compliment.

I am in a relationship with Neequxsan. He is most excellent. I am not monogamous, and neither is he. We date separately. I do have an interest in developing another relationship, but I have intense difficulty in forming any sort of relationship, including the friendship kind. I am not against casual connections as a concept, but my ability to do casual is really quite limited. I need regular contact, friendship, and some level of emotional connection. Without those things it’s just not going to work for me (I know, I’ve tried). He currently has a second long-term relationship; I do not.

Sometimes people like me. I have yet to really figure out why.


You know what would be nifty? An "I believe…" section. Here are some things that I believe.

That religion is personal, and “right” or “wrong” does not extend beyond the scope of our own nose. Believe or don’t believe whatever it is that you believe, and don’t use your belief or lack thereof to hurt people. The end.

That psychiatric issues count as medical issues.

That what you do with your body, whether by yourself or with consenting adults, is entirely your business, be it sexual or body modification or whatever else.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I’m disabled, in an invisible sort of way. Which is to say - no job. You really do need to be ok with that if we’re going to talk at all.

That said, I’m a crafter. I like to make things. Sometimes I do little things (amigurumi!) and sometimes I do big things (Fokker DR1 Triplane out of sticks! Medieval european leather shoes!). I absolutely love making things.

Other things I do include crochet, doodling, writing for my blog or just for fun, reading, slowly building a collection of very old reference and religious books, trying to manage one of my cat’s health, converting thrift store sweaters into yarn, and this list is getting long. Someday I might learn to sew my own clothes.

I like to assemble furniture, but I hardly ever get to do it.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
The aforementioned crafting.
Learning to do new crafts.
Being focused.
One-on-one socializing.
Hanging out with cats.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Eventually I plan to get a forearm tattoo. When I do, I am sure that will top the list, but at the moment it’s still in the commission stage. It's been in the commission stage for a loooooong time, but someday it will be done.

Also, I asked some people what the first thing they noticed about me was. Some of my favorites are:

"I forget who you were taking to, but I saw you get all happy and excited about whatever you were talking about, and your smile was just SO infectiously bright it made me smile."
(I really like this one!)

"pretty, slim, goth"
(I'm slightly more towards curvy than slim now, but other than that... ok, and "pretty" is subjective, but we'll just say it's true. ^_^)

"You were so shy when I first met you and I felt you did not realize how pretty you were (still are but talking about first thing here)"
(I'm still shy, but not nearly as much as I used to be)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I feel really awkward trying to fill out this section because I always skip it when I'm reading other people's profiles. However, apparently some people care about this stuff, so here goes.

books: Um. I like to read. I choose my books based on reading the description and thinking "that sounds interesting." I used to restrict my fiction to scifi/fantasy, but I've branched out. I also like non fiction, especially anything about neurology and anthropology, and I seem to be developing an interest in history. But mostly I just like to read.

Movies: As much as I normally love lists, filling out a list of movies (etc) that I like just sounds tedious. I'm not huge on movies, but I do enjoy them on occasion, especially if someone wants to show one to me. Also fun - watching a bad movie on netflix streaming with a friend or partner. Hilarity ensues!

Shows: I don't watch TV like a normal person, which is probably why cable TV doesn't work for me. I like to fixate on a show and watch it all the way through, watching a little bit every day. When I finish, I go on to the next.

Music: oh geez, I don't know. I'm still figuring out my new, changed musical preferences. Spotify is really helping here.

Food: CHOCOLATE holy shit. Also noodles. Nearly anything that is noodles makes me happy. Provided that it isn't spicy or mushy and I know what I'm eating, I am willing to try a large number of foods.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
How about six things that are important to me/six things I want to have?

a book to read
something to craft
close, intimate friendships
Stuff with which to write
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Autism/mental illness/disability, as I have a blog on those topics.

Whatever it is I am crafting.

Random test! Please put the word “spaghetti” towards the top of your message so that I know you read at least some of my profile.

How to navigate the incredibly complicated world of interpersonal relationships.

Whatever book I’m currently reading, and whatever books I read recently.

I've been trying to decide on another label for myself, this time in the activism type realm. I used to use "feminist" but I've gotten really uncomfortable with that word for a variety of reasons*. Nor do I like "egalitarian" or "humanist" or any other "we just want everyone to be equal" groups as I have had bad experiences with them as well. Instead I'm going for "intersectionalist." I'm sure it'll be a thing eventually.

*I'm increasingly wanting to note - the reasons I am not so cool with the word "feminism" are not at all the usual criticisms of feminism I usually see, and I don't want to be lumped in with the folks who think that feminists hate men or want women to rule the world or whatever else people like to holler about. I have become unhappy with feminism because it has so very much failed at intersectionality. While feminists are starting, barely, to become aware of the importance of race and sexuality as intersections to gender, they still tend to not even notice things like disability, mental illness, and other things that strongly impact my life. So while in many ways I support feminism, I cannot personally associate myself with a group that tends to forget my existence, or simply demands I conform to their ableist worldview.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Actually, I think I'm just going to talk about how I like to socialize here. I don't do parties or bars (mostly. I'm really curious to try riding a mechanical bull. I hear some bars have those things) or loud, chaotic, crowded places. I am an introvert - I do like to socialize, but I socialize like an introvert, not like an extrovert.

So I like lots of staying-in-type activities. Let's do crafting, or watch anime or we can show each other tv shows or movies we like, or just sit and have a conversation, or play games, or whatever else. Fun times!

Things I like out of the house include museums, thrift stores, used book stores, craft stores (wow there are a lot of stores on this list. I guess I like to shop, if it's the right kind of store), and probably other things I'm not thinking of right now. Do you have a fun activity that can be done with just two people? Let me know! I might just want to give it a try.

Group activities with structure can also be good, in limited quantities. I recently joined a larp and it looks to be oodles of fun.

Not related to socializing but a thing I do in the evenings is horseback riding! Once a week, usually but not always Tuesdays. I love it lots and lots and hope to do it forever.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Let’s pretend this said “personal” instead of “private,” shall we?
There are all sorts of personal things I’m willing to admit that people really should know about me before getting even vaguely close to me. Some have already been mentioned, but I might as well just put it here explicitly.

I am on the autism spectrum, with a diagnosis of Asperger’s Syndrome. This is a Big Deal.

I have struggled with severe depression and anxiety. They are medicated and doing really lots better (so nice!).

I have no job.

I have limited independent transportation (slowly expanding)(I do live near a train station and can get around that way, but it’s more limited than driving).

Gender-wise, I am most comfortable identifying as androgynous. You may use any gender pronoun you wish.

Current religious(ish) beliefs (subject to change): pagan/some sort of polytheistic panentheism, with a distinct streak of agnosticism.

kink: sadomasochist
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Fuck, I don't know. I guess if you think I might be awesome in some way. Or if you know of a place that has a mechanical bull people ride sometimes, so I can try it out.

hmm... though upon thinking about it, there might be some traits you could have that would, at the very least, increase our odds of being compatible in some way. Assume some flexibility when you read these.
~You know what it means to communicate with someone who is inclined towards the extremely literal. The myriad ways humans are indirect is exhausting for me to navigate, and it is such a relief to interact with someone who knows how to be direct.
~Whether you are an introvert or an extrovert, you are cool with low-key, one-on-one socialization. I love being a craft buddy, or a going-to-the-park friend or any number of other things, but I cannot be your party buddy or whatever.
~You are sex positive, and you actually know what that means.

Just a reminder - remember the spaghetti thing. It's important.