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28 Durham, NC Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 23–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 10:25am
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Judaism, and somewhat serious about it
Working on Ph.D program
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Has cats
English (Fluently), Hebrew (Okay), Yiddish (Poorly)
My self-summary
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Sassy, brassy, Jewish lady from New York City living in the dirty south, but that doesn't mean I'm not going to wear all black, talk fast, walk fast, and be generally New Yorker-like. Let's be real here.

I snort when I laugh, can be aggressively banterful, and am generally pretty bawdy.

Old Hollywood glam does it for me. I like watching Studio-Era films and wearing red lipstick.
What I’m doing with my life
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grad schooling and academia.

experimenting with analog photo techniques and technologies
knitting things I never end up finishing.

loving black kitties, specifically one very special one named Gilda.

i like sketching and drawing
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
looking retro without looking hipster. my friend recommended i make a blog to inform others how to do just this. i dont think it can be taught...

also, thinking about writing.

giving random things important names. i have a stuffed whale named Hermie. his given name is Herman Melville, my car is named Rita (as in Hayworth).
The first things people usually notice about me
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that I look like Regina Spektor (or Kat Dennings, Kate Winslet, ScarJo, Christina Hendricks....pick your poison).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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books: my favorite books are always changing: right now I'm really enjoying Thomas Mann's The Magic Mountain. I enjoy obscure 19th-century novels, lots of Jewish American lit or Jewishly related things like Sebald's work, and weird ass spiritualist/occult writing from the 19th and early 20th centuries.

music: things that get my toes tapping or my heart feeling or my head thinking (or all of the above).

Gilda (with the glorious Rita Hayworth, also the namesake of my kitty), Return from the Ashes (1965), Mulholland Drive, Borderline (1930)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my Hasselblad, fondly named Hedy
retro-style brassieres (these babies work wonders)
light of my life, my kitty, Gilda!
red lips
my sewing machine: just started learning and I'm obsessed
swimming: my best ideas come after lap swimming; something about being immersed in the water. clarifies and distills things.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
starting a klezmer burlesque dance troupe down here, but there aren't enough jews down here. alas.

how H&H Bagels closed forever and forever while I'm living here in NC. so much unspeakable grief. oh to have that everything bagel with Flaum's lox spread. oy, what a shanda!

how Fritz Lang's Metropolis and Jim Henson's Fraggle Rock are so very similar. don't let those cute little Muppets fool you--it's really all about the proleteriat working underground for the bourgious up above. haha. i'm a nerd with comi tendencies. so what.

whether i'll lose my New York accent down south. gah. if i come back saying y'all, i'm hoping someone will slap me hard to get it out of me. Update: Been here three years and still say "youz guys." I'm doing pretty well, then.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
hoping there's a dance party in Durham where i can shimmy and wiggle to my heart's content.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I've got 5 pairs of glasses (I think...I've lost count at this point) that I match to my outfit of choice. And they're pretty much all cat eye.
You should message me if
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You think I sound brilliant and arresting and want to figure out how to enjoy this town with me.

You like live jazz/things like that and would like to listen to some music together.