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elephantom

33 F Chicago, IL

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Gay
Ethnicity
Hispanic / Latin, Other
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Overweight
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and very serious about it
Sign
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Not gay, but queer. Not looking to meet men romantically, but am interested in any/all genders for friendship. If you identify as queer, I'm down to chat.

I sneeze at your cats--due to allergies, of course--but I might fall in love with you if you have a dog.

If you are interested in trans* and queer advocacy, you should probably just go ahead and message me.

I am pansexual (which is like bisexual without the focus on a gender binary). I am also polyamorous, which means that I actually fall in love with people. I am interested in creating relationships with people that benefit all parties and are as sincere as possible. I cuddle with my friends and love to show affection. Communication and honesty are incredibly important to me.
What I’m doing with my life
Getting paid to intern as a writer/editor/researcher for a local magazine.
Singing you a song (though my TMJ might get in the way)
Reading. Watching film. Gaming.
Thrift store shopping (esp. Mondays and Thursdays at Unique)
Sharing and getting inspired and being emphatic and empathic and loving wordplay and other kinds of play.
Trying to be environmentally and economically responsible.
Being serious. Being seriously silly.
I’m really good at
singing, apparently. especially a capella jazz and blues.
anagramming and playing Scrabble.
being the snarkiest sweetheart you know.
writing and talking about film and literature and gender studies.
cooking you a decent meal, diet restrictions and all.
bringing people together.
cuddling and kissing and nuzzling.
topping?
The first things people usually notice about me
(I am not normally a quote person, but...)

"We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are."
— Anais Nin

Most people love my hair. My mother likes my smile the best.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Music: Scout Niblett, Blonde Redhead, Joanna Newsom. Cat Power, Nina Nastasia, Phosphorescent, Laura Veirs, Will Oldham, Jolie Holland, Nina Simone, Jason Molina. Four Tet, Hot Chip, Ratatat. The Make Up, Betty Davis, LCD Soundsystem.

Paper Moon. Let the Right One In. Amadeus. Royal Tenenbaums. The Big Lebowski. Blood Simple. Adventures of Baron Munchausen. Alien. All the Real Girls. George Washington. Children of Men. THX 1138. Moon. Junebug. Me and You and Everyone We Know. Secretary. Once. The Piano Teacher. The Piano. The Hours. The Squid and the Whale. Do the Right Thing. A Separation. Fargo. Grizzly Man. The Cruise.

Jamaica Kincaid. Jose Saramago. Kevin Brockmeier. Charles Baxter. Jeanette Winterson. Kazuo Ishiguro. Etgar Keret. Sharon Olds. When it comes to gender studies and queer theory, I like: Tim Dean. Michael Warner. Samuel Delany. Gayle Rubin. Jack Halberstam. Foucault, obv.

I have lots of food intolerances, but otherwise I love to eat all kinds of deliciousness. I tend to eat vegetarian at home, but my intolerances make me swing more omnivorously when I'm out.
The six things I could never do without
history, language, perversion, hope, emotion, and passion.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
defying gender norms. kissing.
film. literature.
health. food, delicious food, deliciously healthy food.
serious coffee and tea.
polyamory. queerness. hot, perverted, deviant sex.
words spelling and etymology.
society and injustice and community.
the wonderful things that people do to make this often-sad world a little brighter like:
art, music, kindness, volunteering, smiling, sharing, cooking,
loving.
On a typical Friday night I am
working, reading, biking around, seeing live music, watching a movie, hanging out and cuddling with friends, cooking a meal, throwing a little party, roaming around, beating you in scrabble or giving a good fight in most other board games.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like girls
  • Ages 25–55
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you think you are a good friend to your friends and you want more friends.

you think it's important to grow.

you think you are most of these: interesting, passionate, excitable, intellectual, loving, earth-friendly, kissable, musical, creative.

you are amazingly talented at scrabble.

you have a musical talent that you would like to share with me for possible collaboration or at least entertainment.

you are very serious about film and/or film theory.