If you are interested in any of the following, it is very likely that you should message me: Pathfinder, strategic board games, LoL (the game), Scrabble, and trans and queer theory. I am not just here for dating and snuggling and making new friends. I am here for nerding out. Also, I want to meet people who are at least some of these things: feminist, sex-positive, queer, polyamorous, studious, tender, emotive, musical, or artistic. (I have a fetlife. Ask me and I may tell you my name there.) I tend to trust okcupid's rating system because it has brought me much happiness!
"Consistency is not really a human trait." -Harold and Maude
I believe that friendship is a way of life, and therefore I prefer that my lovers be friends. On some level, I consider all of my friends lovers as well, because we love each other, and my love for friends can match the bond between many romantic couples. I take all of my loves seriously, whether or not they are romantic. Sometimes those lines blur easily, though all it takes is a conversation to make sure i know your boundaries. If you know what all of this means, please continue. My partner and I are extremely important to each other. We date people separately for the most part, because that just works better so far. I prefer it if we meet and like each other's friends at some point, especially when there is a romantic element involved.
I am pansexual (which is like bisexual without the focus on a gender binary). I am also polyamorous, which means that I actually fall in love with people, not that I sleep with everyone. I love a number of people, in a number of ways, and that does not detract from how much I love you. Other things this means to me (every person is different): I don't want to get married. I am not interested in just sleeping around (though there is nothing wrong with that--sex is awesome). I am interested in creating relationships with people that benefit all parties and are as sincere as possible. I cuddle with my friends and love to show affection to everyone as much as possible.
I care about natural cleaning products, eating healthy most of the time and saving the planet. I'm not a vegan or vegetarian but I love to eat that way! I attempt to shop local, organic and independent. If I am going shopping, I bring my own bag and encourage others to do the same.
Some people can't believe I am ever shy, but others can't believe I would ever swear. I am a nice person for sure, but if someone is an ass, I may need to stop myself from scrounging around for something to throw at him or her. You could say I'm an optimistic cynic. Or a realistic idealist.