This is an old profile that I had disabled, and I accidentally re-enabled it recently, forgetting which email was attached to which account. I am going about the process of updating this profile to reflect a certain part of me that is perhaps not as reflected by my newer profile. You can look at my other profile called elephurious if you would like.

If you are interested in any of the following, it is very likely that you should message me: Pathfinder, strategic board games, LoL (the game), Scrabble, and trans and queer theory. I am not just here for dating and snuggling and making new friends. I am here for nerding out. Also, I want to meet people who are at least some of these things: feminist, sex-positive, queer, polyamorous, studious, tender, emotive, musical, or artistic. (I have a fetlife. Ask me and I may tell you my name there.) I tend to trust okcupid's rating system because it has brought me much happiness!

"Consistency is not really a human trait." -Harold and Maude

I believe that friendship is a way of life, and therefore I prefer that my lovers be friends. On some level, I consider all of my friends lovers as well, because we love each other, and my love for friends can match the bond between many romantic couples. I take all of my loves seriously, whether or not they are romantic. Sometimes those lines blur easily, though all it takes is a conversation to make sure i know your boundaries. If you know what all of this means, please continue. My partner and I are extremely important to each other. We date people separately for the most part, because that just works better so far. I prefer it if we meet and like each other's friends at some point, especially when there is a romantic element involved.

I am pansexual (which is like bisexual without the focus on a gender binary). I am also polyamorous, which means that I actually fall in love with people, not that I sleep with everyone. I love a number of people, in a number of ways, and that does not detract from how much I love you. Other things this means to me (every person is different): I don't want to get married. I am not interested in just sleeping around (though there is nothing wrong with that--sex is awesome). I am interested in creating relationships with people that benefit all parties and are as sincere as possible. I cuddle with my friends and love to show affection to everyone as much as possible.

I care about natural cleaning products, eating healthy most of the time and saving the planet. I'm not a vegan or vegetarian but I love to eat that way! I attempt to shop local, organic and independent. If I am going shopping, I bring my own bag and encourage others to do the same.

Some people can't believe I am ever shy, but others can't believe I would ever swear. I am a nice person for sure, but if someone is an ass, I may need to stop myself from scrounging around for something to throw at him or her. You could say I'm an optimistic cynic. Or a realistic idealist.

/Trying to constantly do more with my education in English Literature and Gender Studies--like prepping for my Master's Program at The University of Chicago!
/Singing you a song (though my TMJ might get in the way)
/Wasting it on the internettes, including scouring okc for more amazing people who like to hold hands.
/Reading. Watching film. Gaming.
/Constantly evolving and self-analyzing and trying to make myself and the world a better place.
/Practicing mindfulness and love.
/Thrift store shopping (esp. Mondays and Thursdays at Unique)
/Sharing and getting inspired and being emphatic and empathic and loving wordplay and other kinds of play.
/Trying to be environmentally and economically responsible.
/Biking around--except my bike has been broken forever and no one seems to be able to fix it.
/Being serious. Being seriously silly.

being nice to my friends' parents (and most other people).
picking out clothes for you, especially from thrift stores.
putting an outfit together, especially one that is colorful and odd.
singing, apparently. especially a capella jazz and blues.
anagramming and playing Scrabble.
being the snarkiest sweetheart you know.
writing and talking about film and literature and gender studies.
cooking you a decent meal, diet restrictions and all.
bringing my friends together and making them have fun.
cuddling and kissing and nuzzling.
fulfilling the Gondryan ideal of becoming a stockholder of my own happiness.
topping?

(I am not normally a quote person, but...)

"We don't see things as they are, we see them as we are."
— Anais Nin

Most people love my hair. My mother thinks my smile is my best aspect. I am constantly, happily amazed at how different people are than my first impression of them. I usually feel that way when someone is walking off a stage. Maybe if I just imagine that everyone is secretly fabulously talented, my world will be a better place.

I like singers/groups who have strange voices like: Scout Niblett, Blonde Redhead, Joanna Newsom. I like singers/bands that are sad or part of New Weird America: Cat Power, Nina Nastasia, Phosphorescent, Laura Veirs, Will Oldham, Jolie Holland, Nina Simone, Jason Molina. I like electronic stuff that is both chill and dynamic: Four Tet, Hot Chip, Ratatat. I like stuff that makes me want to get down (though I generally don't dance much): The Make Up, Betty Davis, LCD Soundsystem. Basically, I want to meet people so they can introduce me to new music. That's really why we're all here, right?

I love film and analyzing it through specific lenses like Magic Realism or Feminist Theory or Queer Theory. Some moving pictures that leave me feeling better about the world (even if they leave me sad) are: Paper Moon. Let the Right One In. Amadeus. Royal Tenenbaums. The Big Lebowski. Blood Simple. Adventures of Baron Munchausen. Alien. All the Real Girls. Children of Men. THX 1138. Moon. Junebug. Me and You and Everyone We Know. Secretary. Once. The Piano Teacher. The Piano. The Hours (I love to watch this movie when I'm depressed and when I'm joyous). The Squid and the Whale. A Separation. Marwencol. Your Friends and Neighbors. Fargo. Grizzly Man. The Cruise. I love foreign film, indie film, classics, etc. My real list is so huge, but I am using a list here that would appeal to more people on the level of watching film with me. If your taste is more eclectic than this list, I will be greatly intrigued and would love to talk about it.

I always feel like my favorite books will be ones I read in the future. I often get hooked on specific writers like: Jose Saramago. Kevin Brockmeier. Charles Baxter. Jeanette Winterson. Kazuo Ishiguro. Etgar Keret. Sharon Olds. I try to read tons of books, all different types, all the time. When it comes to gender studies and queer theory, I like: Tim Dean. Michael Warner. Samuel Delany. Gayle Rubin.

oh food, how do i love thee? more than you will ever know. I'm highly allergic to onions in all forms and my body discriminates against lactose and spinach. So although I am not picky, I tend to eat very specific foods when I'm out. Luckily, I cook: octopus and squid, chana masala, tandoori chicken, pies, veggie stir fries, kale and sausage soup.

history, language, perversion, hope, emotion, and passion.

defying gender norms. kissing. nuzzling. eyegazing.
elephants.
film. literature.
school. health. food, delicious food, deliciously healthy food.
serious coffee and tea.
polyamory. queerness. hot, perverted, deviant sex.
words spelling and etymology.
society and injustice and community.
the wonderful things that people do to make this often-sad world a little brighter like:
art, music, kindness, volunteering, smiling, sharing, cooking,
and most especially loving.

working, reading, biking around, seeing live music, watching a movie, hanging out and cuddling with friends, cooking a meal, throwing a little party, roaming around, beating you in scrabble or giving a good fight in most other board games. friday night doesn't mean much to me since i don't care for bars and will go out any night of the week.

i love you. no, i do.

you are firmly polyamorous/open/non-monogamous or are just looking for friends.

you are okay with the fact that my time is very limited. i have a full-time partner and have a lot on my plate, like i like it.

you think you are a good friend to your friends and you want more friends.

you think it's important to grooooow.

you think you are more than one of these: interesting, passionate, excitable, intellectual, loving, earth-friendly, kissable, musical, creative.

you are amazingly talented at scrabble. or are a big nerd about LoL or Pathfinder and want to join in.

you have a musical talent that you would like to share with me for possible collaboration or at least entertainment.

you are very serious about film and/or film theory.