37 Oakland, CA
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My self-summary
I'm a 37 year old man who got his masters degree a year ago to become a social worker. So I've got some student debt, some grey hairs starting to show up on the side of my beard, and in the past few years I've started to snore occasionally. Which is just to say that I am very human and I have my flaws. I thought it best to put them out there up front before we meet up and you get mesmerized by my walk (because really, it's one hell of a walk).

Outside of those little things though, I really enjoy being me. I speak thoughtfully, laugh loudly and dance like nobody is watching (although really, they all can't take their eyes off of me). I can solve the jumble in under a minute, convince strangers to hug each other and make people feel special... because they are.

My inner world is as amazing and mesmerizing as yours and if we can get comfortable enough to put them on display for each other, then we'll probably go on adventures so glorious that we might just change the outer world for everyone around us... or we might just really enjoy each other's company. Either way, that sounds like a decent evening. On top of it all, I'm actually generally humble and self-effacing when not forced brag about myself in summaries or award acceptance speeches.
What I’m doing with my life
I've lived a thrilling nomadic life, but I've been in the bay for almost 3 years now and am ready to set roots and call it home. I find myself constantly surrounded by exciting, innovative thinkers and I love the urban and natural adventures that are so easily accessible. I'm happy but never satisfied and constantly curious about the world around me.

I spend my days social working with middle schoolers. My job is amazing and I love it. Middle schoolers are the most confused, surly, amazing folks to be around and I don't want to brag or nothing, but I'm pretty damn good at what I do and that leaves me feeling pretty damn good about life. I am also hard at work on a top secret writing project that takes up a chunk of time.

I generally strive to be a better person everyday and try to create opportunities for those with few options.
I’m really good at
making people comfortable, laughing, creating improbable situations in my mind, breaking up fights between 8th graders. I once beat the devil in a dance contest.
The first things people usually notice about me
My backpack full of white male privilege. Yeah, I'm aware of it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
You probably shouldn't judge me by these things. A lot of my favorite people don't enjoy consuming the same media and tasty food as me, but here are a few samples of things I like in...

Books: The Brief and Wonderous Life of Oscar Wao, Skippy Dies, The Dancing Wu Li Masters, 100 years of Solitude, anything from Tom Robbins or Kurt Vonnegut or Italo Calvino or Upski or any other author that blew up my brain in high school and college. Roald Dahl had a profound influence on my childhood.

Movies: Most films directed by Coen Brothers, P.T. Anderson and Wes Anderson, David O'Russel, Darren Aronofsky, The Goonies, Rocky I, III, and IV and Putney Swope

Music: 70's Funk, 80's pop, 90's hip-hop, 00's downtempo electronic, 10's K-Dot. Really anything innovative and fresh. Music used to consume me, now I just consume it (and dance to it... and sing to it when no one's around)

Food: Pretty much all of it. Food is delicious and there are so many things out there I want to taste. Except beets... I don't like beets... don't know why.
The six things I could never do without
-Water (not just because humans need water to survive but because I drink much more of it than the average human)

-Family (I may not be living near them, but that's my home team)

-Friends (Worldwide crew and east-bay squad)

-Computerlike devices (I'm not proud of this dependency)

-Chocolate covered, peanut butter filled pretzels from Trader Joes

-Really, it's just 5. Give me, water, friends, family, phoneputers, and chocolate covered peanut butter filled pretzels and I'm good. Maybe a tent in case it rains.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Social Justice, songs that have amazing build ups, good ramen, how to better myself, how to create leverage points in social systems that will gradually better society. Where to find that next moment of ecstatic joy.
On a typical Friday night I am
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I share custody of a dog with my ex-girlfriend. I am an adult, who can be friends with an ex and not have it be weird and my dog is pretty much my favorite thing in the world. Still, I can understand that this might bother some people. So be it.
You should message me if
Just send me a message. It's not like you're donating a freaking kidney.