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36 M Oakland, CA

I’m looking for

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  • Ages 25–44
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids

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My self-summary
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For the sake of transparency, I thought it might be fun to put the things you may not like about me right up front. I'm pretty sure this isn't how you're supposed to do it, but if either of these things are deal breakers for you, better that you know now, rather than after you've been mesmerized by my walk. It's a hell of a walk.

I am a 35 year old man, who just received my masters degree in social work (my folks are proud). I once had some money... but now I have a condo in a city I don't live in, loan debt and the awesome earning potential of a social worker, so that dinner at Commis that I wanted to take you to may have to wait for a little (the future's bright, you just have to have some patience).

Also, I am a few months removed from a long relationship with a live in girlfriend. We're on good terms, but we share a dog. I adore my dog and am so glad for the time I get, but some folks might call this arrangement baggage, and while I might not agree, I can see their point.

But that's it. Everything else about me is entertaining and charming. No joke, I've got references. I speak thoughtfully, laugh loudly and dance like nobody is watching (although really, they all can't take their eyes off of me). I can solve the jumble in under a minute, convince strangers to hug each other and make people feel special... because they are. My inner world is as amazing and mesmerizing as yours and if we can get comfortable enough to put them on display for each other, then we'll probably go on adventures so glorious that we might just change the outer world for everyone around us... or we might just really enjoy each other's company. Either way, win!
What I’m doing with my life
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I've been in the bay for almost 2 years now and am ready to call it home. I find myself constantly surrounded by exciting, innovative thinkers and I love the urban and natural adventures that are so easily accessible. I'm happy but never satisfied and constantly curious about the world around me.

I just finished up my last semester in a masters program at Cal but am going to be continuing my field work interning as a clinical therapist in a middle school, before going to work at a different school next year. I am also hard at work on a top secret writing project that takes up a chunk of time.

I generally strive to be a better person everyday and try to create opportunities for those with few options.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
making people comfortable, laughing, creating improbable situations in my mind, breaking up fights between 8th graders. I once beat the devil in a dance contest.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My backpack full of white male privilege. Yeah, I'm aware of it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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You probably shouldn't judge me by these things. A lot of my favorite people don't enjoy consuming the same media and tasty food as me, but here are a few samples of things I like in...

Books: The Brief and Wonderous Life of Oscar Wao, Skippy Dies, The Dancing Wu Li Masters, 100 years of Solitude, anything from Tom Robbins or Kurt Vonnegut or Italo Calvino or Upski or any other author that blew up my brain in high school and college. Roald Dahl had a profound influence on my childhood.

Movies: Most films directed by Coen Brothers, P.T. Anderson and Wes Anderson, David O'Russel, Darren Aronofsky, The Goonies and Rocky I, III, and IV

Music: 70's Funk, 80's pop, 90's hip-hop, 00's downtempo electronic, 10's K-Dot. Really anything innovative and fresh. Music used to consume me, now I just consume it (and dance to it... and sing to it when no one's around)

Food: Pretty much all of it. Food is delicious and there are so many things out there I want to taste. Except beets... I don't like beets... don't know why.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-Water (not just because humans need water to survive but because I drink much more of it than the average human)

-Family (I may not be living near them, but that's my home team)

-Friends (Worldwide crew and east-bay squad)

-Computerlike devices (I'm not proud of this dependency)

-Chocolate covered, peanut butter filled pretzels from Trader Joes

-Really, it's just 5. Give me, water, friends, family, phoneputers, and chocolate covered peanut butter filled pretzels and I'm good. Maybe a tent in case it rains.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Social Justice, songs that have amazing build ups, good ramen, how to better myself, how to create leverage points in social systems that will gradually better society. Where to find that next moment of ecstatic joy.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I used to dj and make beats to get a little extra money back in the day. I had a friend who ran an indie hip-hop label. One thing lead to another and now in some dollar bin somewhere in the country there is a dusty 12" single that has me rapping on it. No, I will not play it for you.
You should message me if
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You've got a twinkle in your eye.

Just send me a message. It's not like you're donating a freaking kidney.