Find better matches with our advanced
matching system

—% Match
—% Enemy


43 Fremont, CA Gender Nonconforming, Cis Man

Gender Nonconforming, Cis Man

Similar users

I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 30-99
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 12:32am
Hispanic / Latin
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 6" (1.68m)
Body Type
Average build
Atheism but it’s not important
Has kid(s) and wants more
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), Italian (Somewhat), Japanese (Somewhat), Hebrew (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Things are a bit in flux but rapidly improving. I'm not quite sure what would make my life perfect, so I'm mostly attempting to perfect it on my own. So far, so good.

Up front, I'm technically married, separated, and undergoing a slow yet amicable divorce. I'm also receiving an LDR and a couple of very good friends who will be moving here soon. For practical purposes you can think of me as a single dad, laughing. (Yes, I stole that)

I'm very poly. Count me among the bi poly geeks. I love making new connections. I'm a Latino male in my early 40's, and I have interests in languages, Japanese, Hebrew, Spanish, Italian, French), and Jewish culture.

I moved to the Bay Area in 2006 with the intent to put down roots and thrive. I'm very happy to say that I have! I love my partners and I love my life.

I'm fully devoted to my son. I'm also devoted to my long-term committed relationships. I try to see them as equal and of top importance. I have a partner whom I've been with for more than a decade and is an LDR, and another I've been with for nearly a decade who is LDR-ish (150 klicks). I could do with home with a woman who *might* want a baby but that's not required, I'm not even entirely sure that's what I need. I run life as it goes. Blues riff in B, watch me for the changes... and try to keep up

I can be classed as liberal, but I have a high respect for self-reliance and self-responsibility, and a low tolerance for bullshit. Humanistic / Atheistic Judaism. My specific brand of Judaism trends MUCH less in the direction of invoking Hashem and MUCH more toward justice in this world and tikkun olam.

Yeah, I work in metric sometimes so I'm a little thrilled that the weight loss régime seems to be trending me to what I want, at a pace that if I can keep up will land me back by the end of the year at 1.68m and 68kg. As of January 2015 85kg, I'm presently plateaued right at 71. If I hit 68 again, I'm throwing a party and you are totally invited.

Other things to know: I can be a somewhat extreme pacifist. Wanna fight about it? (Yeah, that is a joke about inherent contradiction on purpose *giggles*) I curse extremely sparingly, I used to drink like a Frenchman but I'm teetotalling until New Year's so I can heal the way I should, and I will try to know least one word in any language you can name.

I keep my bedroom a bit more cold than most of my partners prefer. It seems 18ºC seems to be the magic number for me to sleep. If you're ever here... um... sorry. *giving you a blanket*

I am extroverted, quirky, and cute.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Thriving. I've had a number of huge changes over the course of my life, and I strive to make each one as positive as I can. I am filling my life with positive, sane, happy people who are driven to make the world, or at least their world, a better place.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
- Making new friends and new loves.

- Being wildly outgoing and the center of attention

- Being a leader

- Making you laugh

- Making you groan at really, really bad puns

- Loving and being a lover
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have an unusual accent. It's a mix of Costa Rica Spanish, UK (RP) English, Louisiana Cajun, south Italian, Toronto Canadian, faux-Yiddish, and Georgia Southern.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
A) I will read anything. I read the back of shampoo bottles in the shower just to have something to read. My life has been filled with technical manuals lately, but for fun I have: Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy series, Harry Potter, history texts, language learning materials, Brave New World and 1984 (both of which I tend to go back and read about once every 18 months)

B) Back to the Future, Ghostbusters, The Maltese Falcon, Casablanca, Seven Year Itch.

C) Duran Duran, Caifanes, Los Enanitos Verdes, Soda Stereo, Manu Chao, La Oreja de Van Gogh, The Eyeliners, The Lashes, Bree Newsome, Die Ärzte, The Pizzicato Five, Seek Irony, Billy Joel, lots of opera, lots of variation from all over the world, lots of obscure indie bands. (Ye gods that sounds pretentious. I'm unabashedly into a LOT of pop as well.) Wanna get on my good side? Send me something I've never heard of. Either that or tell me you know better than 50% of the ones I've named.

D) Sushi, Italian, Chinese, seafood. I'm getting back into the French cuisine from my childhood of late.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- Love: Truly the driving force in my life

- Sex: I have an unabashedly high sex drive

- Music: Because limiting your self expression to words is frankly stifling

- Connections: We're here to know each other. If you get to know me, you could be my friend, you could be more... or you can just use me for comedic material.

- Conversation: I value hearing the stories of people in my life, and sharing mine.

- iPhone: Computers not for computing's sake, phones not for the sake of phoning. They're portals. You're there, I'm here. Now we're together.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- Love: I love love for its own sake

- Friends: There are some for whom I would do anything at all.

- Emotions: Control them or release them? An elemental question for emotional beings

- Computers: That's what I do for a living and how I most often connect with others.

- Problem solving: How best to educate my autistic son, how best to improve my own life and the lives of the people I love.

- Data: How this site has over time become the de-facto data mine for human relationships and characteristics thereof.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Nothin' matters but the weekend
From a Tuesday point-of-view
Like a kettle in the kitchen
I feel the steam begin to brew

Switchin' to glide, switchin' to glide
Switchin' to glide, switchin' to glide

Energy can be directed
I'm turning it up, I'm turning it down
Even love can be affected
Harmony's the sweetest sound

Switchin' to glide, switchin' to glide
Switchin' to glide, switchin' to glide
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I use ellipses more often than is strictly grammatically correct.

I make dad jokes. I make dad jokes even around people who aren't my kids... and people who aren't kids.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
I'm choosing to be and talk to people who are in a happy part of their lives, optimistic, self-reliant, self-responsible, grown up, who see the world as a good place and don't think the world is out to get them.

You should message me if you can without reservation sing "Possession" by Sarah MacLachlan with me. Or Soñaré by La Oreja de Van Gogh. Or any similarly emotional song you can teach me.