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39 Redwood City, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 26–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Dec 25
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Has dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), C++ (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I'm efficacious and incisive. I spend a lot of time thinking about economics but don't lack passion for a dramatic sunset. I care about the entire bill of rights. I get things done. I’ve read to obscurity and have researched opinions on things most people haven’t even heard of. I refuse to stop learning and improving.

I can make you laugh with me… Really good hands, unique green eyes, and silver blond hair make me memorable. Most importantly, if you get to know me, yes – I do some well known stuff, and no – it shouldn’t matter because I put my pants on one leg at a time (usually.) Behind the public persona is a classic southern gentleman - with a twist.
What I’m doing with my life
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I've recently had breakthroughs at work and hobby-work. My boat is back in the Bay (well, in the Delta until October) and close to the ship-shape I adore for her. I also recently finished restoring my small sailboat and, of course, severely damaged her on her maiden voyage, so now I'm waiting for parts... And then the freight company destroyed the new parts... (Did I mention I have an odd propensity for my exploits ending up on the evening news?) Recently not getting to the range enough due to work travel. I'm reading random and escapist fiction on the Kindle app to change brain gears. I'm both dismayed at the state of the attacks on liberty and privacy but heartened by the public and the courts' responses of late. Most importantly, I'm really enjoying watching my little ones grow.

I get a kick out of warping almost everyone's politics.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening. Causing trouble that leads to change, sailing, navigating, and being a leader. Also, I cause laughter.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My presence. When I ask people after they first meet me, they think I'm either much older or much taller than I am.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Favorite books include Rumi, The Deacons for Defense and Justice, the Longmire book series, Cryptonomicon, Knowledge and the Wealth of Nations, The Origins of Wealth, and The Myth of the Rational Voter. I'm surprised at how much I enjoyed the Ender's 5 books.

Movie wise, I love Ghostbusters, The Incredibles, Lost in Translation, Master and Commander, Super Troopers, Django Unchained, ok lots...

Music is anything from Gershwin to Snow Patrol, older Sting, NIN, The Beatles, Public Enemy, Toad the Wet Sproket, Big Star (notice the handle?) and recently Ida Maria and Carolina Liar. Just found The Rocketboys. Wow. I don't list these to be cooler than someonel, but instead in the hope that you seek them out and enjoy them also. Once upon a time, I got to spend some time with Ice-T and he continues to be amazingly smart and creative. We've been in a movie together. I've had a hand in how you listen to music.

Food - Omnivore and particularly love steak, sashimi, North Carolina pork BBQ, fried green tomatoes, okra, greens.... so much is so good and yes I can take you to Greens and I will have a great time.

I've recently been hooked on Sous Vide cooking by a friend...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Something to read, navigable bodies of water, sashimi, passion, intellectual conversation, and a gadget.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why so many problems are actually HR problems. How to get to $50M in revenue faster. Being less lazy as in, "I could write shorter sermons but when I get started I'm too lazy to stop."

Compersion and how much I like it. Enjoying that polyamory is comfortable, and being amazed at how awesome my open marriage is.

How can I explain non-zero-sum game theory to the masses.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I looked around and I'm showing my girls movies while sneaking IMs across the room to my better half. But Saturday night... Taking you to that restaurant that I know you'll love.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'll probably be the only person you've met that has been investigated as a nuclear arms exporter... Or is it that I've appeared in a dress in a national magazine?

There is one deliberate misstatement in this profile. Ask and I'll happily explain.
You should message me if
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You want a unique, non dramatic guy who knows how to have open relationships filled with passion and daring.

For various life reasons, the loves of my life have gotten busy. I'm really looking for one last close, rich, and open relationship. I also now realize that I probably have a type and that is an intelligent, nerdy, usually petite, and GGG woman. - Might have just found her, but it's early...

Sail with me? Take a ride in my 'new to me' convertible?