Turned on and grounded. Still, sweet, and lethal. Integrity. Lover of games. I've been told I can be a bit intense.

Once, after a long weekend retreat I was told by a college professor of mine that I completely break every stereotype that I fit into. I felt totally seen by her in that moment.

I enjoy experimenting with life. I've gone into plenty of situations and afterwards said "wow, that bit me in the ass". Hasn't slowed me down much. A lot of things have turned out quite nicely after an initial gluteal nibble. I'm hungry for experience.

I wish to be, not buy my symbols. I think people purchase the symbols they want to embody. I would rather do the work to embody them and save my money. I don't want to buy a Ferrari. I want to literally be raw power, sex appeal and finesse. Then I'll buy one.

I like women who notice the things that I don't notice. This might be my biggest turn-on.

Recovering "nice guy". Now a "real guy".

Song of the moment (changes regularly, stay tuned): http://vimeo.com/miguelunlimited/archandpoint

And, of course, I find Nicole's 8 Reflections on Intimacy to work well as a guide...
http://nicoledaedone.com/article_8_insights/

I have the viewpoint that we would all do well to advertise ourselves honestly on OKCupid. That way the right people can actually find us.

I am interested in learning from women and I'm willing to be trained to handle you the way you want to be handled. It's like a game. Are you willing to help make me smart and ask for what you want?

I teach a practice called OM (Orgasmic Meditation) and am the co-director of OneTaste Colorado. It's a place I have found to be useful, on purpose and in service to others and am doing all that to the best of my ability. Trying to make life better for a lot of people.

Check out the TED talk about it: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s9QVq0EM6g4

Don't die wondering :-)

My desire here is to expand my circle of turned on (to life) people. Get in touch and let's see what naturally arises. If you're curious about OM I'm happy to talk about it as well.

My friends use me as a SMS flirting consultant. Try me!

- tasting food
- following my desire
- petting cats
- parallel parking
- finding new music. If its big and black I usually can't get enough. (thats what she said)
- teaching
- speaking to animals in the voices I think they'd have if they could speak and talking in character about the issues I imagine would be important to them.
- seeing the bright side
- seeing the dark side
- feeling when to talk and when to touch
- interacting with elderly people
- getting my way peacefully with service people
- hearing the words under the words
- playfully respecting boundaries
- playfully violating boundaries
- Apple/Mac/iOS repair/troubleshooting/enthusiasm (Apple employee in a former life)
- air guitar/drums/bass/piano/chorus
- lacrosse (out of practice but still really good!)
- snowboarding (see above)

People seem to really like the quality of my attention when it's on them. I believe in the power of connection through vulnerability and play... even if I didn't I can't hide my internal state very well so that gets noticed, too.

Not sure if this is something people "notice" about me, but I am fairly apathetic to the cultural conspiracy of being so damn polite and "nice" all the time. I think the friendliest thing we can do is show up as ourselves and be willing to tell a close friend or a complete stranger whats up. The same goes for expressions of love and kindness.

I love to read. And it is very hard for me to find the time for it right now. Its tragic, and I trust that when its time to read a lot again it will happen.

I love Pixar movies... Those characters have more gorgeous humanity than most live action movies. Have you see the short movies they do at the beginning? There is one called Partly Cloudy that brings me to tears every time I watch it. Its from the beginning of Up.

Musically: The Black Crowes, Robert Randolph (and sacred steel guitar), Hendrix, Stevie Ray Vaughan, The Weeknd, Ben Harper, Black Sabbath, Blind Boys of Alabama, Red Hot Chili Peppers, Sly & The Family Stone, Cee Lo Green, Beatles, Soundgarden, Prince, Parliament Funkadelic, Jay Z, Miguel, Too Short, 2Pac, Lil Wayne, John Mayer, Adele to name a few.

friendship
chocolate
sex
sensation
purpose
dharma
connection
other people upon whom I can put my attention
comfy shoes
sunlight
OM
women
play
improv
meditation
nature
truth
Mac OS X

play
turn on
production
women
money
purpose
sex
bigger games
service
OM
my practices
how to be a mensch
how to be useful
what do I want?

meeting new people, coaching, experiencing live performance, exercising when nobody else is at the gym, connecting with another human being or beings in some way, hanging with my boys. or maybe I am solitary.

1. I can be a perfectionist. It's in my nature and I don't know how to "do it right". As sore as I can get at life's twists, its unpredictability seems to be what makes it so much fun.

2. Despite my inexhaustible confidence in myself under some circumstances I fear the judgment of other people. Hasn't stopped me significantly, but its been there.

3. Vulnerable is sexy. Even when it's temporarily upsetting. I enjoy living unconcealed. I'll tell you my secrets.

4. I am simultaneously magnetized and scared shitless of the intimacy that comes with letting people in. I am completely capable of both letting people in and of navigating others and oh the places we'll go.

5. A few words about the "I'm looking for" category... I have this theory that if you check the box that says "short term dating" its likely that you are open to sexual experiences with people you've dated on a "short term" basis. In other words, I think its code. I think when you say "casual sex" on OkCupid people probably often think of the gross mimic - the archetypal "Craigslist experience" where its this disconnected, unconscious, possibly psychologically damaging experience with a total stranger (or its just super hot, but hey...). What they're not envisioning is just normal, everyday sexual experiences with no specific goal between two people who met on an online dating site, happen to enjoy eachothers company, but don't want to do the whole linear/enmeshment/dating/obligation thing as its prescribed. And to those who might be looking at this and saying "well, you're a guy, thats easy for you to say"... Interestingly, the candid conversations I have had with female friends of mine reveal that they find it very difficult to get laid in this city without navigating the neurosis and attachment stuff of men. So there.

I check that box so you know that I am open to the possibility of sexual experiences without all the extra. Sex, had for real, connected and visceral is never casual. I'm open, and its not that I am trolling for it and its not that I will couch my desire for sex upon the appearance of being interested in you. That hardly sounds enjoyable. I'm just open to the possibilities. And purity is so 2002.

You're perfect and capable on your own and you'd like a reminder.

It's your desire.

You can give me a run for my money.

My invitation is in respect to how much men flood women's inboxes on this thing: If you are interested message me with something, anything. Women who initiate get extra points in my book. You won't be judged on how crafty or interesting it is. I like it when words convey feeling of some kind. I hear women are good with that stuff.

also, if any part of this resonates and/or makes you think about your life:
http://turnedonwoman.com/25ways/?p=5