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ellarsee

54 M Felton, CA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 28–58
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 4:36pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Judaism, and laughing about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Technology
Income
$100,000–$150,000
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Non-monogamous
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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I'm a man of many interests and passions. I have a nerdy technical side that finds a graduate degree as sexy as a little black dress, I enjoy physical activity, and a couple areas of artistic expression. I'm good at dancing, and excellent at leading on the dance floor. I know what it's like to have a dance that is more intimate than most sex.

I am seeing emotional, intellectual and sexual connection. I would love to find all three in the same person, but believe that each relationship should grow on its own terms.

I am an engineer by both college degree and temperament. In other words, I'll spend 3 hours figuring out a way to do a 30 minute job. Currently my playtime is spent on dancing, photography and aikido.
I enjoy reading , but don't get much time. Since I am so busy doing stuff, I watch almost no TV and few movies. This does often leave me a bit out of touch with popular culture.

My relationship status is, as they say, complicated. I am in a long term, open relationship that often resembles housemates more than lovers. Details and/or introductions will be available if and when they become relevant.

While I had long pretty much planned/wanted to have children, an appropriate relationship never came along when I was in a good place to start a family. At 54 I decided that I was too old to do a good job of the whole process of raising kids and got a vasectomy to prevent the process from accidentally starting.

By personals ad standards, I'm a veritable midget standing at a mere 5'8" - much shorter than the normal requisite of 5'14". I'm a mesomorph and I enjoy physical activity, which means that apart from a little extra "pizza muscle", my 200 pounds is pretty solid. I've got wavy brown hair and brown eyes. I have enough body hair to lend credence to Darwin's theory, but not so much that one would guess that my simian ancestors decided that evolution was just too much bother after all. My eyesight is somewhere between "What chart?" and "What wall?". I was born in September of 1960 (Mom went into Labor on Labor Day), but my chronological age has little to do with my apparent age, or how old I act.

When choosing what, or where to eat, I will frequently choose the new and untried rather than the known and comfortable. In foreign countries http://www.red4est.com/lrc/sing/singtales.html, I'll ask natives to order for me, but refrain from telling me what it is until I've decided whether I like it or not. When it comes to alchohol, I don't drink much, but I try to drink well. I have a preference for complex red wines and Isaly Single Malt scotches http://www.red4est.com/lrc/whisky.html . I generally avoid sweet fru-fru drinks. My diet is omnivorous, leaning towards Asian and spicy. I have no moral objections to red meat, but tend to eat it in moderation lest there be so much of me to love that no one can tolerate that much goodness in their life.

I am secure enough in my masculinity that I don't care one whit about traditional gender roles. I can, and do, cook http://www.red4est.com/lrc/recipes.html, sew and clean. I'm better at cooking than the other two. I can also build and drive a race car, http://www.red4est.com/jasmine ride a motorcycle, write http://www.red4est.com/lrc/stories.html and dance. When it comes right down to it, I don't tend to pay much attention to many societal roles, except those required in a "professional environment". When dealing with others, I strive for honesty and openness, realizing that a little discomfort up front can save a lot of pain later on.

I consider words to be my personal playthings. People who do not enjoy puns, flirting and other forms of wordplay will not enjoy my company. Despite my inclination to abuse the English language in my own special way, I tend to have little patience for euphemisms and marketinglish.

I try not to force relationships into predetermined forms, but prefer to let each relationship grow and mature on its own.

My vanity page is a classic example of what happens when html grows up without supervision. It's a byzantine maze of hypertext links and pictures that has been slowly accreting for several years. It is located at http://www.red4est.com/lrc

I first got into photography in 1973, and had a darkroom through most of high school. By the time I graduated college I no longer had a place to set up the darkroom, and other hobbies to take up my time. In 2007 I started to get back into the hobby, and when I got a DSLR at the end of the year, I got a lot deeper into it than planned. Some of my better shots are at:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/ellarsee/collections/72157612824732477/

I am paronomasiac, mesomorphic, and busy
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Having fun, meeting obligations, dancing, photography.

I've gotten a fair number of questions about a poly relationship, and about my relationship.

Am I willing to consider a purely physical one night stand? Yeah, but I much prefer something ongoing, with mutual attraction, emotional connection and the chance to learn our way around each other's bodies.

"Not my primary" doesn't mean "not important". Just as a crisis with any friend might trump plans with my primary the needs of any person in my life get prioritized in relation to everything else, their level of need, and other things in my life such as my job. In cases of schedule conflict don't make any assumptions.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Living a full life.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My sense of humor. I'm an incorrigible punster.
One thing that most people incorrectly notice about me is my age, which most people seem to guess 8-10 years younger than it is.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My favorite books are quite likely Stephenson's Baroque cycle. I've been a fan of his since I read the Big U back in '84. Lately, I've really been enjoying Charlie Stross' books, and I've been hooked on Diskworld for close to 15 years.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Protons, Neutrons, Electrons, photons, weak and strong forces.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
racing, spec miata, bicycling, dancing, lindy hop, blues
When I see someone's profile that I find interesting, should I send her a note even if I don't think she'll find me interesting?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
There are aspects of the "bad girl" mystique that really turn me on.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are interested in meeting a geek in an open relationship.