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26 West Oakland, CA Woman


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 24–35
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 8:38am
Straight, Heteroflexible, Questioning
Hispanic / Latin
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Mostly non-monogamous
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Deleted old words,
Some you loved, some you did not --
More mystery now.

I keep wanting to write something more honest, despite how wily I think I am with this haiku, but nope. Nope.

Tonight is not the night.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
In general, I try to live my life by this mantra:

"What is success? To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived; that is to have succeeded."

This area always ends up reading obnoxiously conventional because I am so much more than my day-job (and so are you!) so rather than telling you what I do from Monday to Friday and leaving it at that, I'll tell you why I'm doing it and how it plays into my view (aforementioned) outward-facing success:

I straddle the line between art and tech (can I just call it computer science?). I tried to resist the ever-growing black-hole that is the tech industry in this city, but I eventually decided to quit writhing in unemployment and failed job experiments and evaluate where I can be most impactful-- at least right now. It was in tech. I figure it's a good time to gain new skill-sets and be better equipped for handling topics outside of my realm of creativity. I also feel like it's my damn duty to 'represent' as a minority in this field, and use my growing experiences as a platform to unite other Latin women in computer science/art.

I also am trying to say YES to most things and step outside of my comfort zone, because ramping up a wide range of experiences is the thing I ultimately want to do with my life. Currently, I am planning a trip to South America with a friend slated for some point in the spring of next year. Welcoming additional great ideas, too!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Observing, creative things, avoiding math at all times, listening, giving some heart-felt advice, dancing (or so they tell me), storytelling, art, communication, intimacy, saying too much, being late
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm not other people, but I'm going to take a crack at this.

- Could be that I'm making a heinous sound with my throat because that's the only way I know how to scratch it when my allergies kick in
- Or maybe its that I'm smiling at you
- Or that I'm talking to a cat
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Reveries of a Solitary Walker, Generation X, The Metamorphosis, In the Time of the Butterflies, The Art of Seeing Sideways, The Alchemist, The Wind Up Bird Chronicle, and no I'm not sorry that I really loved reading Insatiable by Asa Akira. Currently reading the Tibetan Book of Living and Dying.

Movies: There's a ton of movies that I probably should see, and that I haven't seen so feel free to throw recommendations (or your DVDs) my way. Some favorites are Fight Club, Back to the Future, A Waking Life, Babel, Science of Sleep, Amelie, The Artist, Lost in Translation, Motorcycle Diaries, Blade Runner, Anything Miyazaki, Tarantino, Coppola, Anderson

Shows: BROAD CITY, The Daily Show with Jon Stewart, The Colbert Report, Portlandia, Arrested Development, LOST, Ghost in the Shell: SAC, 30 Rock -- I don't watch much television... Things on Netflix every now and then.

Music: The Kills, The Smiths, The Cure, Kraftwerk, Sebastien Tellier, Crystal Castes, Miike Snow, Toro y Moi, Washed Out, Justice, Junior Boys, The Black Keys, El Guincho, Salem, iamamiwhoami, Little Dragon, Massive Attack, Sneaker Pimps, Grimes, Com Truise, Kimbra, Nina Simone, Erykah Badu, Inara George, Yeasayer, Purity Ring, Clark, Eskmo, Childish Gambino, Glass Animals - really into the local bass music scene, too.

Soundcloud! Not the broadest representation of my likes; my Spotify account probably does a better job at displaying the range of my ear, but follow nonetheless! SERIOUSLY, please share music with me.

Food: Mediterranean, Japanese, Thai, Indian. Honestly, I'll try most foods, as long as it isn't fast food. I live for culinary exploration. Also, I have a pretty good (or bad, actually) sweet tooth.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A place with beautiful weather most of year, a city, public transit, music, one really amazing friend, cultural diversity, nature/parks, a sketchbook
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
WHO/WHAT/WHEN/WHERE/WHY, myself, yourself, design, sociology, what is going on in other parts of the world at this moment, the future, how office jobs should not be 9-5 but rather during the evening hours so we can enjoy the daylight, how you're supposed to properly eat an artichoke, if that was an earthquake, how living conventionally is a joke, risks, how to push the envelope in my life, how I should probably read more books, how creepy abandoned buildings are and what they were like at the prime of their existence, why I want to sneak into the abandoned train station on Wood Street, and if anyone will ever be daring enough to go into said station with me (ok, did this but I'm still down to revisit?), how gorgeous the Bay Area is, road trips, what I would do if someone tried to mug me, hypothetical situations, getting ambushed by spiders, cats, why red lipstick is so polarizing, how sick I am of the phrase "twenty-somethings" and what it encompasses (I'm looking at you Thought Catalog), if my cat got me sick, what drives humans to commit mass atrocities, how funny my inner dialogue is with myself, where the hell my wallet ended up in Europe, how it came to this, why I hate writing cover letters so much, how everyone circle-jerks each other on social media, public transit etiquette and why many people fail at this, what beneficial habit I'm missing right now that would dramatically improve my life ( not that it's a bad one), forgiveness, privilege, if I can recycle that
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Taking it easy with my cat, or taking it not so easy with friends. Friday is a study of extremes.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have thousands of "unread" emails in my gmail inbox. It's truly a shame when someone comments on the 11,385 unread emails I have. Take your judgment elsewhere, dude.

I secretly think some of you are manufactured robots with the whole "I work in tech, wear a beard, and like bourbon, craft beer, burritos, and rock climbing". Not to say I don't like beards. I really like beards.
You should message me if
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You want to meet and do fun things together, even those fun things that you've had reservations about doing because you're worried it may be sorely disappointing, or that your friends may judge you for it- NO WORRIES, let's go! I'm usually down to try a lot of things, and I pride myself in having the skill to diffuse crap situations.

You have a special place in your heart for self-awareness, introspection, emotional intelligence, body/sex positivity, and clear communication!

You're one of those people who can have a great time just sitting in a room and talking to someone. I absolutely love meeting people with whom I share conversational chemistry.

You want to art together, or dance together, or do both. Simultaneously? Simultaneously.

Oh, and since now we're now *finally* recognizing how fluid sexual orientation is, I want to further elaborate on my selections: I am not wholly questioning my sexuality right now, but rather taking the opportunity to really explore it. I've always identified with the Kinsey Scale format, being very much a 2, and have just functioned that way particularly in certain play/kink settings. However, I sort of stopped to think about the bigger picture of dating and what I'm truly in search of at the moment and I realized it's not really gender specific. I welcome wonderfully magical connections right now, and I won't even front that more often than not I just want great company, conversations, and cuddles.