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ellywest

26 West Oakland, CA Woman

Woman

I’m looking for

  • Men who like women
  • Ages 24–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Today – 9:21am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Hispanic / Latin
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Agnosticism
Sign
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
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Some you loved, some you did not --
More mystery now.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
In general, I try to live my life by this mantra:

"What is success? To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived; that is to have succeeded."

I'm a designer at a software consulting company that is NOT a start-up. Currently getting my hands dirty with a little bit of programming so I can avoid becoming obsolete. However, I'd rather talk about a million other things.

I also paint, draw, and illustrate on my down time. Really, I'm just trying to walk the line between having a hand in art and having a hand in tech for now.

The goal is to expand my skills as much as possible so I can be well-equipped to ditch everything and work for myself from anywhere in the world, but mostly in my dream studio (wherever that will be). I tried adopting the idea of being self-employed when I was freelancing earlier this year, but realized I wasn't fully ready to embrace it. I'd like to still travel and expand myself in various other ways, both professionally and not professionally, before I fully immerse myself into growing a career/business.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Observing, creative things, avoiding math at all times, listening, giving some heart-felt advice, dancing (or so they tell me), storytelling, art, communication, intimacy
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I really like cats, maybe.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Reveries of a Solitary Walker, Generation X, The Metamorphosis, In the Time of the Butterflies, The Art of Seeing Sideways, The Alchemist, The Wind Up Bird Chronicle, and no I'm not sorry that I really loved reading Insatiable by Asa Akira.

Movies: There's a ton of movies that I probably should see, and that I haven't seen so feel free to throw recommendations (or your DVDs) my way. Some favorites are Fight Club, Back to the Future, A Waking Life, Babel, Science of Sleep, Amelie, The Artist, Lost in Translation, Motorcycle Diaries, Blade Runner, Anything Miyazaki, Tarantino, Coppola, Anderson

Shows: The Daily Show with Jon Stewart, The Colbert Report, Portlandia, Arrested Development, LOST, Seinfeld, Ghost in the Shell: SAC, 30 Rock -- I don't watch much television... Things on Netflix every now and then.

Music: The Kills, The Smiths, The Cure, Kraftwerk, Sebastien Tellier, Crystal Castes, Miike Snow, Toro y Moi, Washed Out, Justice, Junior Boys, The Black Keys, El Guincho, Salem, iamamiwhoami, Little Dragon, Massive Attack, Sneaker Pimps, Grimes, Austra, Com Truise, Wild Nothing, Kimbra, Nina Simone, Erykah Badu, Inara George, Yeasayer, Purity Ring, Clark, Eskmo

Soundcloud! Not the broadest representation of my likes; my Spotify account probably does a better job at displaying the range of my ear, but follow nonetheless! SERIOUSLY, please share music with me.

Food: Mediterranean, Japanese, Thai, Indian. Honestly, I'll try most foods, as long as it isn't fast food. I live for culinary exploration. Also, I have a pretty good (or bad, actually) sweet tooth.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A place with beautiful weather most of year, a city, public transit, music, one really amazing friend, cultural diversity, nature/parks, a sketchbook
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
WHO/WHAT/WHEN/WHERE/WHY, myself, yourself, design, sociology, what is going on in other parts of the world at this moment, the future, how office jobs should not be 9-5 but rather during the evening hours so we can enjoy the daylight, how you're supposed to properly eat an artichoke, if that was an earthquake, how living conventionally is a joke, risks, how to push the envelope in my life, how I should probably read more books, how creepy abandoned buildings are and what they were like at the prime of their existence, why I want to sneak into the abandoned train station on Wood Street, and if anyone will ever be daring enough to go into said station with me (ok, did this but I'm still down to revisit?), how gorgeous the Bay Area is, road trips, what I would do if someone tried to mug me, hypothetical situations, getting ambushed by spiders, cats, why red lipstick is so polarizing, how sick I am of the phrase "twenty-somethings" and what it encompasses (I'm looking at you Thought Catalog), if my cat got me sick, what drives humans to commit mass atrocities, how funny my inner dialogue is with myself, where the hell my wallet ended up in Europe (c'mon), how it came to this, why I hate writing cover letters so much, how everyone circle-jerks each other on social media, public transit etiquette and why many people fail at this, what beneficial habit I'm missing right now that would dramatically improve my life ( not that it's a bad one), forgiveness
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Taking it easy with my cat, or taking it not so easy with friends. Friday is a study of extremes.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Err, that my level of physical activity as of late is closer to a houseplant than anything else. There are numerous reasons for this (some good ones, some excuses) and to be frank, it's not so bad (I walk everywhere and do my fair share of "dancing"). However, between the multiple rock climbing photos and intense emphasis on physical activity here, AND the Equinox ad that is targeted to me on my screen right now -- I felt like I needed to confess.
You should message me if
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You want to meet and do fun things together, even those fun things that you've had reservations about doing because you're worried it may be sorely disappointing, or that your friends may judge you for it- NO WORRIES, let's go! I'm usually down to try a lot of things, and I pride myself in having the skill to diffuse crap situations.

You want a snuggle buddy. Winter is coming. (Okay - Don't message me about being my snuggle buddy upfront. True snuggle companions have far more tact, and know to ask later.)

You have a special place in your heart for self-awareness, introspection, emotional intelligence, and clear communication!

You're one of those people who can have a great time just sitting in a room and talking to someone. I absolutely love meeting people with whom I share conversational chemistry.

Finally, you want to art together, or dance together, or do both. Simultaneously? Simultaneously.