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26 Oakland, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 26–38
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 8:23pm
Heteroflexible, Questioning
Hispanic / Latin
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), French (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Creative, self-aware, intuitive individual navigating the human condition and constantly asking myself what it takes to be the person I want to be right now at this very moment.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
In general, I try to live my life by this "mantra":

"What is success? To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived; that is to have succeeded."

Quitting the easy full-time designer at a tech company life and trying on my big girl freelancer pants - I go through an existential crisis like every other day, haha. I'm also funneling more and more energy into being an artist and honing/exploring my craft in my studio share at American Steel, aka, my happy place.

These days, I'm also planning an adventure to Cuba this summer because it's high time I meet my motherland and because I am tired of feeling exactly LIKE THIS about your Cuba trips.

Edit: just got back from Cuba. I feel different. Hooray for traveling!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Observing, creative things, avoiding math at all times, listening, giving some heart-felt advice, dancing, storytelling, art, communication, intimacy, saying too much, being late, making sound effects
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm not other people, but I'm going to take a crack at this.

- Could be that I'm making a heinous sound with my throat because that's the only way I know how to scratch it when my allergies kick in
- Or maybe its that I'm smiling at you
- Or that I'm talking to a cat
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Reveries of a Solitary Walker, Generation X, The Metamorphosis, In the Time of the Butterflies, The Art of Seeing Sideways, The Alchemist, The Wind Up Bird Chronicle, and no I'm not sorry that I really loved reading Insatiable by Asa Akira. Currently reading the Tibetan Book of Living and Dying.

Movies: There's a ton of movies that I probably should see, and that I haven't seen so feel free to throw recommendations (or your DVDs) my way. Some favorites are Fight Club, Back to the Future, A Waking Life, Babel, Science of Sleep, Amelie, The Artist, Lost in Translation, Motorcycle Diaries, Blade Runner, Anything Miyazaki, Tarantino, Coppola, Anderson

Shows: BROAD CITY, The Daily Show with Jon Stewart, The Colbert Report, Portlandia, Arrested Development, LOST, Ghost in the Shell: SAC, 30 Rock -- I don't watch much television... Things on Netflix every now and then.

Music: Eskmo, Clark, Amon Tobin, Nosaj Thing, The Weeknd, A$AP Rocky, M.I.A., FKA Twigs, Banks, Phantogram, Beats Antique, Grimes, Com Truise, Kendrick Lamar, Purity Ring, Childish Gambino, Glass Animals, Toro y Moi, Washed Out, Justice, Junior Boys, The Black Keys, El Guincho, Salem, iamamiwhoami, Little Dragon, Massive Attack, Sneaker Pimps, The Kills, The Smiths, The Cure, Kraftwerk, Nina Simone, Buena Vista Social Club. Special places in my musical heart forever reserved for: mi reina Celia Cruz, and Bjork.

Also, I'm really into the local bass music scene/DJs and not above dancing ANYWHERE if the music hits me just right. Not afraid to be the only body on a dance floor either.

Soundcloud! My Soundcloud really features a lot of my aforementioned bass-lovin' jams.

Food: Mediterranean, Japanese, Thai, Indian. Honestly, I'll try most foods, as long as it isn't fast food. I live for culinary exploration.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A place with beautiful weather most of year, a city, public transit, music, one really amazing friend, cultural diversity, nature/parks, a sketchbook
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
WHO/WHAT/WHEN/WHERE/WHY, design, sociology, what is going on in other parts of the world at this moment, the future, how office jobs should not be 9-5 but rather during the evening hours so we can enjoy the daylight, if that was an earthquake, how creepy abandoned buildings are and what they were like at the prime of their existence, how badly I want to sneak into said buildings, road trips, how sick I am of the phrase "twenty-somethings" and what it encompasses (I'm looking at you Thought Catalog), what drives humans to commit mass atrocities, how funny my inner dialogue is with myself, how everyone circle-jerks each other on social media, public transit etiquette and why many people fail at this, how to form a fucking good habit, forgiveness, privilege, impermanence, if I can recycle that, why I said that, why I didn't say that, "leaning in", sexy times, social justice, how to be a good ally, vulnerability, turning my life into a web comic, suffering, the prison industrial complex, my heritage

I'm all about the general theme discussed in this article, Relationship vs. Relating.

Speaking of articles, I'm positive the NorCal sensibilities are present in most of you profile-readers, but hey everyone should read this because I recently interacted with someone who seemed to have a rudimentary understanding of this concept and it was both shocking and NOT fun.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
To introvert or to extrovert, that is the question..
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I totally miss the feeling of being utterly in love with someone who utterly loves you back.

That's pretty private.
You should message me if
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• You want to meet and be fun, silly, and sexy together! Let's go do new things even if you've had reservations about doing them because you're worried it may be sorely disappointing, or that your friends may judge you for it- NO WORRIES, let's go! I'm usually down to try a lot of things, and I pride myself in having the skill to diffuse crap situations.

• You have a special place in your heart for self-awareness, introspection, emotional intelligence, body/sex positivity, and clear communication!

• You're one of those people who can have a great time just sitting in a room and talking to someone.

• You want to art together, or dance together, or do both. Simultaneously? Simultaneously.

• I'll meet up with folks most times but these days I'm ultimately in the mood for people who are really looking to potentially create some deep connection with me, otherwise I am not feeling as inclined. No half-assed relationships, pls. No satellite exes floating around, eggshell walking, or monumental sacrifices on my part for the sake of upholding your poly identity. I respect all gray areas but certain situations are tiring for me and I don't have much room for it right now.