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ellywest

25 F West Oakland, CA

My Details

Last Online
Aug 20
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Hispanic / Latin
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Agnosticism
Sign
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hi, it's 1am on a Friday night. I think you should know that before you read on.

I truly make an earnest attempt at challenging my way of thinking in order to find peace and expand my mind.

I'm not usually the person with the answers, but I am happy being the one asking questions.

Is it important to feel like you are "moving forward" in a linear progression with your life to find peace/happiness, or should life's occurrences feel more like wandering around a room (ie. "you're here, now you're there, nothing more to it"). Does this even make sense? Are these the kinds of questions I ask?

I feel like I'm coming out of a fog these days. I only say that because I had a bit of a struggle running a few "experiments" with my career. If that sounds very entrepreneurial, it shouldn't - I didn't make a company or anything. I just took wacky jobs.

I think I'm a 2 on the Kinsey scale, honestly.

I'm a first generation born Cuban. I grew up with what I like to call "minority problems". This also means I ended up losing out on a lot of more common experiences (well, at least around here) in my childhood. As soon as I became an autonomous adult I started making up for that real fast though and I don't intend to stop! One major circumstantial causality has been the ability to swim like a fucking fish. I urge you to not touch me or mess with me if I ever request that while I'm the water. No horseplay. Only on land (preferably in a bed). I am a land creature!

I like to think I have a high emotional IQ. It very much feels that way.

I really, really like costume parties, especially when tit gives me an excuse to make something like a paper corset or a crazy cat lady blouse or a hideously kitschy pom-pom bra.

I like dancing to bass music. A lot. Too much. On that note, I'll dance to anything. Sometimes I dance to stuff I'm not into, only for the love of moving around and enjoying myself. Aspirational: I dream of dancing flamenco one day.

Things that frustrate me: non-constructive criticism, poor communication, when misandry and feminism are confused for being the same thing and then all words out of my mouth are then dismissed by the other party as man-hatin' fightin' words, when people make straw-men arguments (I think everyone hates this one), insensitivity to social issues or people around you, lack of awareness, when people are not present (not particularly talking about physical presence), when people don't think about how their actions will affect people around them on a very, very detailed level (been dealing a lot with folks who can only think about the narrow scope of their actions). I'd hope most people are frustrated by these, actually.
What I’m doing with my life
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In general, I try to live my life by this mantra:

"What is success? To laugh often and much; to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty; to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived; that is to have succeeded."

I'm a designer. I've just started taking some front-end development courses to expand my skill-set (you're allowed to eye roll at that, haha) and cross over into the UX realm. I work as a contractor right now for a pretty rad company, and take up individual gigs on the side, too (trying to keep those illustration based). Trying to really walk the line between having a hand in art and having a hand in tech for now.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Observing, creative things, avoiding math at all times, listening, giving some heart-felt advice, dancing (or so they tell me), storytelling

My friend and I were having a conversation recently about the things we are on this world to share with others - you know, the REAL things that you're "good" at, your wheelhouse. I have decided mine are art, communication, and intimacy. Done.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
This can either shed light on how insecure you are, or how narcissistic you are.

Usually it is that I'm smiling, I'm looking you in the eye, I'm saying hello, I'm engaging with you.

Right, but now that I have chrome/lilac hair color... People usually notice that first. No just kidding, that only lasted about three months.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Reveries of a Solitary Walker, Generation X, The Metamorphosis, In the Time of the Butterflies, The Art of Seeing Sideways, The Alchemist, The Wind Up Bird Chronicle

Movies: There's a ton of movies that I probably should see, and that I haven't seen so feel free to throw recommendations (or your DVDs) my way. Some favorites are Fight Club, Back to the Future, A Waking Life, Babel, Science of Sleep, Amelie, The Artist, Lost in Translation, Motorcycle Diaries, Blade Runner, Anything Miyazaki, Tarantino, Coppola, Anderson

Shows: The Daily Show with Jon Stewart, The Colbert Report, Portlandia, Arrested Development, LOST, Seinfeld, Ghost in the Shell: SAC, 30 Rock -- I don't watch much television... Things on Netflix every now and then.

Music: The Kills, The Smiths, The Cure, Kraftwerk, Sebastien Tellier, Crystal Castes, Miike Snow, Toro y Moi, Washed Out, Justice, Junior Boys, The Black Keys, El Guincho, Salem, iamamiwhoami, Little Dragon, Massive Attack, Sneaker Pimps, Grimes, Austra, Com Truise, Wild Nothing, Kimbra, Nina Simone, Erykah Badu, Inara George, Yeasayer, Purity Ring, Clark, Eskmo

Soundcloud! Not the broadest representation of my likes; my Spotify account probably does a better job at displaying the range of my ear, but follow nonetheless! SERIOUSLY, please share music with me, especially if it has reverb, was made with a modular synth, etc.

Food: Mediterranean, Japanese, Thai, Indian. Honestly, I'll try most foods, as long as it isn't fast food. I live for culinary exploration. Also, I have a pretty good (or bad, actually) sweet tooth.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
A place with beautiful weather most of year, a city, public transit, music, one really amazing friend, cultural diversity, nature/parks, a sketchbook
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
WHO/WHAT/WHEN/WHERE/WHY, myself, yourself, design, sociology, what is going on in other parts of the world at this moment, the future, how office jobs should not be 9-5 but rather during the evening hours so we can enjoy the daylight, how you're supposed to properly eat an artichoke, if that was an earthquake, how living conventionally is a joke, risks, how to push the envelope in my life, how I should probably read more books, how creepy abandoned buildings are and what they were like at the prime of their existence, why I want to sneak into the abandoned train station on Wood Street, and if anyone will ever be daring enough to go into said station with me, how gorgeous the Bay Area is, road trips, what I would do if someone tried to mug me, hypothetical situations, getting ambushed by spiders, cats, why red lipstick is so polarizing, what I wrote here to warrant so many "sex slave" related messages lately, how sick I am of the phrase "twenty-somethings" and what it encompasses (I'm looking at you Thought Catalog), if my cat got me sick, what drives humans to commit mass atrocities, how funny my inner dialogue is with myself, where the hell my wallet ended up in Europe (c'mon), how it came to this, why I hate writing cover letters so much, how everyone circle-jerks each other on social media
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Tired, with good company-- whether it be in or out, with friends or with my cat.

But on a typical Tuesday I'm at Era Art Bar live drawing/painting/sketching while sippin' on some cocktails because I get paid for that gig in cocktails.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I speak to my cat in a high-pitched ridiculous voice, as many people do with their pets, but I say some exceptionally silly things to him.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 24–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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If you have a bit of an off-beat personality.
If you're self-aware enough to know that you're self-aware and communicative.
If you just want to collaborate on some art or something that needs art?
You're down to do some fun activities around the city with some good company just for the sake of that in itself.