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47 F Brooklyn, NY

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5′ 6″ (1.68m)
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Graduated from university
Entertainment / Media
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Relationship Type
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Has dogs
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
*took a walk with my dog Rosie, over the Carroll Street bridge in Gowanus. It started to snow. And even though I was crossing over a polluted canal in industrial Brooklyn, I thought it was really beautiful. I like finding raw beauty in pockets of decay.*

Starting on an introspective note because why not? Some things I have come to over time... Be true. Know the value of authenticity. Lead with your heart. Move through the world with the ease of someone who isn't always looking for something more or better, because it's not where you think it is. (not from a self-help book - just from paying attention.)

I am happy with who I am and who I'm becoming. Actually the becoming part is what excites me most right now. It's very liberating to realize that most of the people who had it all figured out and buttoned up early on are bored and unhappy.

Ok, the requisite sales pitch...people have told me they think I'm passionate, funny, fun, genuine, generous, wise, creative, adventurous, strong... (these are the people I like to hang out with obviously) I travel when I can and love discovering new out of the way places, enjoy camping as much as a great and meditation (stop rolling your eyes and try them)...running in the park or on the streets of Brooklyn. I value silence but am also very social and laugh easily. My laugh is something people seem to love - maybe it's a good indication of my openness. I'm comfortable at a party where I don't know many people, and just as comfortable not going to the party at all. I love living in Brooklyn. I'm passionate about food- cooking it, eating it. I'm happy on the beach and could look for rocks on a pretty much endless basis. I'm very happy digging in the dirt and moved when things bud and begin to open in the spring. Update: My fig tree is covered in ripening figs for the first time in 6 years. I call it 'The Little Fig Tree That Could'. Patience pays off...

If this sounds serious and ponderous, rest assured, I am as silly, provocative and fun-loving as I am thoughtful...god I hate this self-summary! intelligent! blah, blah, blah...

Let's just say I'm hard to define but easy to know.

I'm attracted to a man who is confident yet humble, makes me laugh, makes me think, is fit/takes care of himself, introspective but not narcissistic, able to expose his vulnerabilities, and can seduce me with words as much as with touch...also like guys who are a little rough around the edges...not into buttoned up, not a hair out of place types...

This is way too long. Guess editing is not my strong suit. Sorry...
What I’m doing with my life
I am a documentary filmmaker and story collector, but have also been a teacher and photographer. Studied psychology and still sometimes think about pursuing that field. Taking writing classes and loving it. I'm raising two incredible teen-age daughters (who are with their father half the time). Looking for new adventures. Saying yes to as many things as possible...
I’m really good at
Making people laugh, cooking, reading people. Taking pictures. I have really good parking karma. Digging up clams and cooking them in the simplest most delicious way you will ever have them. Being open to new experiences. Finding out new things about myself.
Finding the good in people.
Appreciating challenges as much as good fortune.
Being a true and loyal friend.
The first things people usually notice about me
I think that I am genuine and not a poser. That I'm interested. I'm easy to talk to. People often say I have an irrepressible spirit. Ok, they don't always use the word irrepressible but you get the idea.
(and I guess that I'm in shape and look and seem younger than my age - at least that's what they tell me!)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I read, I love music, food of all varieties, and movies. And yes, I have eclectic taste.
I don't feel the need to impress anyone with my taste and I definitely don't think we need to love the same movie to have chemistry. And I hate making lists.
Plus my profile is already a lot to slog through.

BUT......I like the way these guys sing sad love songs...

and I never tire of this...

Just finished reading Gone Girl and there's a part where the narrator talks about the curse of pretending to be the 'cool girl' and then having guys expect you to be that way all the time. And it made me think about the fact that we are all trying to present ourselves here in this ideal light, ("look at me!"), setting up probably unrealistic expectations before even meeting. Maybe not the best recipe for a successful connection...
(oh well, there goes my attempt at tightening up my rambling profile.)
The six things I could never do without
My daughters, my close friends, music, (not really things but these are what sustain me and make me happy)

Also...I really like being under water, hearing people's stories (not under water), playing music loud when I'm by myself, cooking for and sharing meals with people, lying in warm sand, dreaming.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What makes other people do what they do, social and political issues, food, where I want to go and how I can get there. How I can save the world (or at least help some people out). Does everything happen for a reason? How I can live in the moment but still look for new beginnings...Oh, and my brilliant app idea, and how to get it up and running.
On a typical Friday night I am
Friends, good food, wine, cocktails, music, or sometimes just feeling the desire to spend the night with myself and a good book or movie...or with you..
PS- I have a working fireplace and if you are very nice to me I'll let you enjoy it with me... ;)
update: I just bought myself an axe and chopped wood for my fireplace, which I'd never done before. It made me VERY sore the next morning but also very happy.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
One time when I was little and I was curious about what real kissing was like, I asked my mom if she would kiss me like they do in the soap operas. Thankfully, she declined. I guess it did help strengthen my ability to use my imagination.

I'm pretty open. I don't have a lot of secrets.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 30–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You are genuine and comfortable with who you are, not trying to be something else. Fit, funny, intelligent, love good conversation and like to listen as much as you like to talk...and preferably artistic or at least a creative found my profile compelling or alluring...or you want to walk Rosie with me.

Oh, and I really have trouble rating people with stars like they are movies or restaurants. I know that's the way this works to some extent but I'm just telling you that I almost never do it. If I look at your profile a couple of times, it means I'm interested.

PS. If you write to me, I'll write you back if I feel a resonance or spark...Please don't be offended if I don't.