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38 Minneapolis, MN Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 33–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Apr 23
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body type
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
One of the best things about my life is that I get to spend a significant amount of time with people who are ten. It's more interesting than you might think, and you learn something new every day. For example, a few weeks ago a fifth grader informed me that "tiger attacks are only 30% dangerous." Good to know. As a teacher, I try to keep my life balanced between work and fun. My friends and adult pursuits keep me sane.

I'm pretty happy by nature, but I also believe that it is a choice and something I work at. I like my life and I'm definitely looking for the right person to spend it with. I don't believe that we are incomplete without a romantic partner (but there sure are a lot of perks!)

I like to go out and be social, but you're unlikely to find me at a downtown nightclub sipping overpriced cocktails and strutting around in skinny jeans. I like coffee shops, dive bars, and patios. I'd rather wear flip flops than stilettos and I'm not much for Top 40 radio or Ed Hardy apparel.

I believe that our inner selves are ultimately more important than our outer ones and that we are all intriguingly imperfect. I think men who are a little scruffy are sexy.

I'm a book nerd and an NPR listener. I have a huge crush on Ira Glass.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Thinking about my next house project and beach vacation. Reading, reading, reading. Working on being a better teacher and friend. Drinking margaritas.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making fresh margaritas, diagramming sentences, speed reading, running into things and developing bruises, and...daydreaming in the backyard. Also, spilling on myself. I attribute this mostly to reading and eating at the same time. Or, it could be that I'm just clumsy.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I'm Scandinavian? While I was traveling in Sweden, most people thought I was a native.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I love this part! In one of my favorite movies of all time, the main character suggests that what's important when considering possible romantic partners isn't so much what they are like, but rather what they like. True? Who knows, but here goes: Harry Potter, Infidel, Game of Thrones, Johnny Cash, Brother Ali, Ryan Adams, Wilco, Mumford and Sons, Florence and the Machine, Dessa, Bon Iver, Sons of Anarchy, Weeds, Deadwood, Shameless, eggs benedict, When Harry Met Sally, LOTR, brunch, Surly Furious, seafood, Stuff White People Like, Freedom, Under the Banner of Heaven, M. Ward, The National, enchiladas verdes, old vine zin....and more.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Something to read, Apple devices, chapstick, chapstick, a down comforter, red pepper flakes.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Where I parked my car, how to be a better teacher/friend/neighbor/human being, what house project to embark on next.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Extremely tired.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm judging other people's grammar. Constantly.
You should message me if
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You are kind to service workers, animals and children. You have a tattoo, or not. You want to ride bikes. You think bacon is an important food group. You are appalled by Nickelback. You think is hilarious. You are NOT a raging member of the Christian Right. You have actually read all/most of this. You have reasonably good grammar. You are not already married. (You'd be surprised.) Or just if you want to.