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emptypages2fill

40 F Chicago, IL

My Details

Last Online
Today – 7:44pm
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Curvy
Diet
Vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Sign
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Education
University
Job
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
word collector. critical thinker. lover of homemade gifts and found treasures. avid reader. sensory explorer. letter writer.
i'm not totally sure if i'm an extroverted introvert or an introverted extrovert, but i'm okay with that unknowing.
if i like you, you'll know it.
i'm not fond of over-simplifying. the questions on here drive me sort of bananas.
i identify as queer-- queer, femme, & feminist are some facets of my identity that are worth mentioning.
i think words are gifts. i think touch is under-utilized.
i prefer lower-case letters.
nature & being outside are vital to my well-being. i escape the city regularly in order to be surrounded by trees and lakes in abundance.
i think summarizing oneself is impossible and could take the fun out of getting to know one another.
What I’m doing with my life
Making changes. Finding balance. Living better. Connecting. Living honestly. Being mindful. Feeling centered. Making plans. Writing more. Stressing less.
I’m really good at
-list making
-working with/ taking care of/ teaching young children
-spontaneous song-singing
-retaining useless pop culture knowledge
-teaching about sex & sexuality/being sex-positive
-finding the positive/laughing through the muck of life
-saying yes to dessert
-appreciating dry humor & quick wit
-making myself laugh--i know, it's sad...but true.
-having an opinion
-being patient
-being open & honest, and encouraging you to be, too
The first things people usually notice about me
People really seem to notice blue eyes.

I'm left of "liberal".

I've been told more than once that I'm more honest & open than "average", and that I set a high bar regarding being present. This has been said as a compliment, and *I* think it's a good thing. It's not for everyone, though--I get that. I'm not interested in guessing or wondering in my relationships (friendship included); I love the spark of connection between people when walls come down and there's some vulnerability on both parts.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
First, this: I don't care if we're not into the same authors/music/food/etc. I love being introduced to the *new* and undiscovered. And I love sharing/doing the introducing...so it's more important that you're open to that.
That being said...
I am a lover of words. Stories, true & otherwise, feed me.

Writers: Carol Maso, Sherman Alexie, Miranda July, Amy Bloom, Amy Hempel, Rick Bass, Lynda Barry, Studs Terkel, John Irving, Chaim Potok, Julia Alvarez, A. Mannette Ansay, Michelle Tea. (It's hard for me to stop there.)
Books I love: American Woman in the Chinese Hat; A Tree Grows in Brooklyn; Skin: Talking About Sex, Class & Literature; A Fine Balance; The Man Who Fell in Love with the Moon; The Life of Pi, Whores & Other Feminists, Under Milkwood, the Doris zine anthology. Do you have Tiny Beautiful Things, by Cheryl Strayed? You really should.

Music I often return to:
Breathe Owl Breathe, the mynabirds, Avett Brothers, Lykki Li, Tuneyards, Cave Singers, Will Oldham & his many incarnations, Neko Case, Cat Power, Jill Scott, Horse Feathers, Jolie Holland, Thao & the Get Down Stay Down. Tilly & the Wall, Andrew Bird, Alexie Murdoch, The National...
I grew up on and still love Paul Simon, John Prine & Nina Simone. I can sing my way through many a Broadway soundtrack.

Artists: Sally Mann, Nan Goldin, Jenny Holzer, Miranda July--to name a few

Hm, movies and films...The Darjeeling Limited, Lost in Translation (I can watch it over & over--I don't know why, but it calms me), Cinema Paradiso, Pan's Labyrinth, classic 80s movies, The Royal Tenenbaums, Paul Thomas Anderson films and Rear Window come to mind. Diving Bell & the Butterfly. Lars & the Real Girl. I love documentaries. I'm particular about comedies.
Let's leave the rest, shall we? A little mystery is healthy.
The six things I could never do without
Water to sink my body into, written words, laughing 'til it hurts, trees, time alone in my head, sun on my skin.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
-Projects: writing and art
-Wanderlust
-Mindfulness, honesty, forgiveness...the light, fun stuff
-Creating balance
-How to navigate the changes I want/need to make
-Delicious eats & treats
-When I'm going to do my laundry
-How I'm with babies & toddlers much of the time, and *really* appreciate time & company that isn't G-rated
-How the things that served me in the past don't necessarily serve me now--change is hard work, but vital.
On a typical Friday night I am
oh summertime in chicago...every night has the potential to be a friday night. nightswimming. drinks outside. movies in the park. lazy lying around. porch sitting. shows in small sweaty venues. alone or with company--it's all goodstuff.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
is not the same as the most private thing I'm willing to share on here.
I'm pretty open.

I will share that I appreciate a heart-on-sleeve sort. Realness is hot.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 30–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You want to hang out/go out--*You should tell me why.*
You're someone who will take their shoes off and go in the water--any water--with me, at any given time.
You're on the masculine spectrum-- ftm /trans, butch, cisgendered (born biologically male)
You're interested in queer femmes. Or just me.
*Even if you don't know what all of the above means, but you think we might get along.*
You're interested in who someone *is* more than who they are not.
You are about to "rate" me--write to me instead. Go ahead, you can do it.