Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Just trying to be a wild human animal. I have a lot to learn and
"bi" and "female" are not terms i identify with. i like gender
neutral pronouns but hardly anyone knows that.
i am in an open relationship with a really lovely person. I'm
interested in using okcupid to find kindred spirits, I'm open to
things being romantic but that needs to be rooted in friendship.
That's where I'm at right now anyway.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
It's a strange adulthood when you are critical, as i am, of most of
the values of the dominant culture you were born into. My
resistance to careers and work, academia, marriage, nuclear family,
commodification of (sub)culture and the commodification of the land
means I am..oh I don't know, just a weirdo who tries to avoid
getting sucked into those traps. I like learning from and with
friends about a range of subjects...hope to focus on archery, the
bodhran drum, wildtending edible and medicinal plants, tanning
hides and making things, especially shoes, from the leather, as
well as the history of colonization in this area and struggles
against it. I'm traveling for a bit of the winter.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
making a good meal from a bunch of food from the dumpster/the back
of your fridge that you forgot you had.
surviving (and living well!) on an extremely small amount of money
(well, relative to most americans).
starting a bunch of messy projects.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Not to be super obvious or anything but this really varies from
person to person.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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lately, goth, dark folk, post punk, r and b remixes, different
subgenres of black metal, cumbia, chopped and screwed cumbia, 90s
east coast rap etc..there is usually some music on around me.
authors i've been enjoying include margaret atwood, octavia butler,
marge piercy, david abram, mike davis, leslie feinberg, fredy
perlman, michel foucault, jeanette winterson, wolfi landstreicher.
situationist international texts have been pretty influential to
me...that book tending the wild by m kat anderson has been
influential to me in the last couple years as i try to change/grow
my relationship with the non-human. my bookshelf is also filled
with random plant/fungi/animal field guides and bondage
films...pan's labyrinth, nausicaa of the valley of the wind (and
mononoke hime and like everything miyazaki has put out including
future boy conan), la haine, all about my mother (and other
almodovar movies), stray dog (and other kurosawa movies), born in
flames, wicker man are some of my favorites. all those 80s john
hughes type movies have a dear place in my heart too! But I've been
less interested in watching screens lately.
i like fermented dairy, brassicas, meat cooked medium rare, whole
grains, honey (typical west coast post-vegan fare, if you will) but
you can find me eating shitty dim sum and burgers at 3am just the
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I don't like thinking about things in terms of dependence and
scarcity! and six is just too arbitrary. stop, okcupid!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
plants. land. colonialism. lately i seem to dwell on the desire to
know what has taken place in the various places i go outside of
cities, whether it's a clearcut or old growth forest or a rocky
outcrop on the ocean, though the social history of cities has
transfixed me much in my past.
What i'm going to do with whatever is coming in to season (wine?
Kraut? Syrup? Oil? Tincture?).
Whatever i'm reading (just got ceremony by leslie silko and
cultures of habitat by gary nabhan and I'm excitedddd)
Aesthetics, tattoos, clothes and hair. Not gonna lie, i like
fashion. Or "visu" as the mexican punk kids say.
Also, maybe this should go in most private that i'm willing to
admit section, but i contemplate various identities (my own and
others) such as race, gender, sexuality, (anti)political, etc etc
almost incessantly. Even though most of these things can be/ought
to be fluid and "identity politics" and politics of oppression
often miss the point, our daily experiences based on how people
perceive us can't be ignored and end up influencing our struggles
and desires. Gah, this could get pretty lengthy...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
sleeping on a beach or mountain (or sometimes a grimey littered
field), at a show, on a freight train, getting sweaty in black lace
at the club, obsessing over remedies varo's paintings, doing a
tarot reading, making a big meal...and substitute friday for any
day of the week....
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I can get pretty damn vulnerable.
You should message me if
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Bare minimum: you don't trust the police or politicians, if you
believe prisons do more harm than good, if you value friendships
and skills over jobs and money. you think contempt is a healthy
response to the (economic, colonizing) conditions with which we are
faced. You have taken the time to think about systemic nastiness
like white supremacy and how you can not reproduce it as much as
Bonus: You have similar interests to me and you live in a rural
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