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29 Eugene, OR Woman


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  • Ages 21–99
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My Details

Last Online
Today – 9:59am
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Less than $20,000
Seeing Someone
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
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Just trying to be a wild human animal. I have a lot to learn and perhaps unlearn.

"bi" and "female" are not terms i identify with. i like gender neutral pronouns but hardly anyone knows that.

i am in an open relationship with a really lovely person. I'm interested in using okcupid to find kindred spirits, I'm open to things being romantic but that needs to be rooted in friendship. That's where I'm at right now anyway.
What I’m doing with my life
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It's a strange adulthood when you are critical, as i am, of most of the values of the dominant culture you were born into. My resistance to careers and work, academia, marriage, nuclear family, commodification of (sub)culture and the commodification of the land means I am..oh I don't know, just a weirdo who tries to avoid getting sucked into those traps. I like learning from and with friends about a range of subjects...hope to focus on archery, the bodhran drum, wildtending edible and medicinal plants, tanning hides and making things, especially shoes, from the leather, as well as the history of colonization in this area and struggles against it. I'm traveling for a bit of the winter.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
making a good meal from a bunch of food from the dumpster/the back of your fridge that you forgot you had.

surviving (and living well!) on an extremely small amount of money (well, relative to most americans).

starting a bunch of messy projects.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Not to be super obvious or anything but this really varies from person to person.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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lately, goth, dark folk, post punk, r and b remixes, different subgenres of black metal, cumbia, chopped and screwed cumbia, 90s east coast rap etc..there is usually some music on around me.

authors i've been enjoying include margaret atwood, octavia butler, marge piercy, david abram, mike davis, leslie feinberg, fredy perlman, michel foucault, jeanette winterson, wolfi landstreicher. situationist international texts have been pretty influential to me...that book tending the wild by m kat anderson has been influential to me in the last couple years as i try to change/grow my relationship with the non-human. my bookshelf is also filled with random plant/fungi/animal field guides and bondage books.

films...pan's labyrinth, nausicaa of the valley of the wind (and mononoke hime and like everything miyazaki has put out including future boy conan), la haine, all about my mother (and other almodovar movies), stray dog (and other kurosawa movies), born in flames, wicker man are some of my favorites. all those 80s john hughes type movies have a dear place in my heart too! But I've been less interested in watching screens lately.

i like fermented dairy, brassicas, meat cooked medium rare, whole grains, honey (typical west coast post-vegan fare, if you will) but you can find me eating shitty dim sum and burgers at 3am just the same.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I don't like thinking about things in terms of dependence and scarcity! and six is just too arbitrary. stop, okcupid!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
plants. land. colonialism. lately i seem to dwell on the desire to know what has taken place in the various places i go outside of cities, whether it's a clearcut or old growth forest or a rocky outcrop on the ocean, though the social history of cities has transfixed me much in my past.

What i'm going to do with whatever is coming in to season (wine? Kraut? Syrup? Oil? Tincture?).

Whatever i'm reading (just got ceremony by leslie silko and cultures of habitat by gary nabhan and I'm excitedddd)

Aesthetics, tattoos, clothes and hair. Not gonna lie, i like fashion. Or "visu" as the mexican punk kids say.

Also, maybe this should go in most private that i'm willing to admit section, but i contemplate various identities (my own and others) such as race, gender, sexuality, (anti)political, etc etc almost incessantly. Even though most of these things can be/ought to be fluid and "identity politics" and politics of oppression often miss the point, our daily experiences based on how people perceive us can't be ignored and end up influencing our struggles and desires. Gah, this could get pretty lengthy...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
sleeping on a beach or mountain (or sometimes a grimey littered field), at a show, on a freight train, getting sweaty in black lace at the club, obsessing over remedies varo's paintings, doing a tarot reading, making a big meal...and substitute friday for any day of the week....
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I can get pretty damn vulnerable.
You should message me if
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Bare minimum: you don't trust the police or politicians, if you believe prisons do more harm than good, if you value friendships and skills over jobs and money. you think contempt is a healthy response to the (economic, colonizing) conditions with which we are faced. You have taken the time to think about systemic nastiness like white supremacy and how you can not reproduce it as much as possible...

Bonus: You have similar interests to me and you live in a rural place.